LechonSensei Posted April 17, 2022 Posted April 17, 2022 (edited) Hey everyone, I just need your opinions on this one because I see a lot of good signs. So last January I met this girl at my workplace, I'm the type of person who doesn't really think about dating and such but I'm attracted to this girl despite me having the "living my own life" mindset. Again, I didn't think much of it - I was like "Nice eyes, long hair... cool". It was only until I started seeing her more often due to how COVID has affected my shift times and we started talking here and there - I noticed signs like her helping me at tasks that I didn't really need help with and her walking out the door as I finished work one time. One day, I asked her out and she said sure why not. Let's exchange numbers after I finish work today. Later that day, she texted first and we called for an hour and half just to get to know each other and we laugh at a lot of things, and obviously, to plan a date. Although she cancelled twice, first was work and the other was Covid, i thought she flaked on the latter until she called me to her saying I'm so sorry. I kept her company during her isolation with another lengthy call and texts here and there, and in between that time until the first date, she initiated a few times and even called me once that lead to a 3 hour phone call. In this particular phone call, she said that it felt like an hour and time flew with lots of laughter, topic talking and banter. (We call more than we text and we only call once a week most of the time) So when we finally met each other outside of work, she was her usual and so was I, although I was anxious about it before hand. I was nervous to break touch barrier because I had a feeling she won't be receptive so i started by poking her arm when we were joking around and then it led to me putting my hand on her shoulder while she was laughing and all the gentlemen things when we ate dinner. We sat next to each other, bumping knees and me touching her back while joking around. I think I caught her blushing while looking away laughing too. Throughout the night, we walked in the city for an hour and I was guiding her with my hand on her upper back from time to time and she waited for me to hop into an Uber to go home and we hugged. I told her "Do you want to do this again? You and me? I want to spend more time with you" and she nodded with a yes. I looked away twice and she couldn't stop waving good bye. I thanked her for tonight and I woke up to a morning text that said "It was really fun yesterday". Recently, she called me before work and our mutual co worker who ships both of us said that our boss asked "if me and her were going out" and she said to me on the phone "whaaaaatt thats so weird, how did he know that we're- that's weird" I agreed with her and asked her "is there anything wrong with that" and she said nah not at all. I even asked her if she said "this thing should be private" which she also agreed to. We met up on the 2nd date and I asked where we are at this point in time. She first responded with "Friends? I don't know" and asked me the same question to which i said "Do you think we could be more than?", she then replied with "Are we?" with a high intonation in her voice. She didn't shy away or reject the idea of it. I was wondering what that means. After the talk however, she remained being herself while she became more touchy such as poking me with her bus pass card several times, touching my shoulders for a bit, fixing my jacket and pinching the t shirt i was wearing when I was talking about it. We also made the promise that we wouldn't interact with each other should be meet at work and keep this as private as possible. Right now things have been busy for her due to college and I heard from a workmate that she gets easily stressed out, and a part of me believes that the reason why she is MIA is because of me. I just don't know if she feels the same way about me. Edited April 17, 2022 by LechonSensei
Wiseman2 Posted April 17, 2022 Posted April 17, 2022 It seems like a lot of flirting and mutual fun but she may not want romantic entanglements with coworkers. All you can do is give her room to breathe, make sure you're not smothering and calling this much and see what happens.
Author LechonSensei Posted April 17, 2022 Author Posted April 17, 2022 It helps that our shift times are very different so we don't see each other at work at all.
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