stillafool Posted February 8, 2022 Posted February 8, 2022 I think you want him to tell you "I love you" but have you told him ILY yet? If not, perhaps he's waiting on you and feels you're not good at expressing your emotions.
lonelyplanetmoon Posted February 9, 2022 Posted February 9, 2022 23 hours ago, Hazel23 said: Thank you. I do take responsibility for playing it too cool. If I were him, I'd be thinking "This chick is great! She never expects anything from me and she's always happy!!" because that is the version of myself I've presented to him. I didn't hide my feelings to be deceitful, I did it because I thought I was giving him time and space to develop his own feelings. Now, the joke's on me, because my once warm feelings are turning resentful, and I'm needing reassurance from him. I just don't know how to bring it up. It needs to be quick and simple. "I care about you, and I just don't know if I should encourage these feelings or not." Seems like a simple enough thing to say, but when you're saying it to someone who's made it seem like talking about anything emotional could be panic inducing, or cause the person to FLEE with anxiety, suddenly, it's not so easy. I feel like before I can address this with him, I need to be prepared to hear him tell me to move on. And I'm just not ready for that yet. The problem you have now is false advertising. You are showing him a version of yourself that is not genuine. I get it. I have done this in the past. Guilty as charged. You don’t want to rock the boat, are conflict avoidant etc. Totally been there! And have been burned by my own doing. ‘Now I have learned that I have a right to my feelings. I am gentle in my approach but it is my Responsibility to speak my truth at least 50-60% of the time. If the guy runs, well he was not good enough for me anyway as displayed by his actions. 1
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