I don't think married people should have opposite sex friends

[Myabee]

1 hour ago, Elswyth said:

I'm not sure if you are willfully being obtuse...

1. You TEXTED HIM happy birthday. Like it or not, that's waaaayyyy more intimate than just having an ex on FB, for most people. But yes, if you have trouble separating the two and maintaining reasonable boundaries, you can certainly choose not to add them on social media. It will simplify the decision for you, and there isn't much to lose by not having them. If you can maintain reasonable boundaries, then it's usually okay to have them on social media.

2. Your post title is misleading - you are telling people that they shouldn't have opposite sex friends when they're married, when in reality the issue lies with you texting a married ex-boyfriend.

I did not create the post title. I also did not cross any boundaries by sending a happy birthday text. 

[Myabee]

1 hour ago, stillafool said:

Absolutely!  That would have made sense to his wife and she wouldn't have been suspicious if you had just explained.  He probably got in trouble for something that wasn't his fault but looked fishy to his wife.

I did say who I was. I really do not have any idea why I'm getting beat up here.??? 

[Myabee]

2 hours ago, S2B said:

The only married people who don’t have opposite sex friends are the ones who don’t trust themselves to be decent.

I have many opposite sex friends - but I’m never inappropriate with them. Their spouse doesn’t react that way when we communicate. I don’t do things that make me suspicious.

why didn’t you friend her?

Oh now this is getting ridiculous. Why would I friend her? I was not doing anything wrong! I was not inappropriate at all. My goodness  Saying Happy birthday have a wonderful day is not inappropriate behavior. If there had been something between us it would have been a different story. He very may well have had other female friends or colleagues text or message the exact same thing. Also, when people have public friends lists... especially a MM and W you know its easy to see that they the married couple do not always have the same male and females friends so anything could be going on behind the scenes in those who lack good boundaries.   

[Lisa]

Thread closed at OP's request

Edited February 6, 2022 by Lisa