jamiek99 Posted November 14, 2021 Share Posted November 14, 2021 Hi all,advise needed ,I was with my gf for 21 years with 3 kids,we broke up 5 months ago with her saying she needed space,she left and i stayed with our children , me and the kids were coping fine untill today,i have just found out that she has had a baby with my so called friend,talk about devastated,why would she stay with me right up to the point she was going to give birth ,i could not tell she was pregnant as she is a larger lady,me and kids are heart broken.forums say get on with your life but i cant,all i can think of is the betrayale ,why stay here up to the point of giving birth,why not just leave when she cheated ,and with a so called friend,in the 21 years we were together i dont think she cheated once,why now, why stay until the very last minute,thanks in advance for your advice,my head is spinning Link to post Share on other sites
lonelyplanetmoon Posted November 15, 2021 Share Posted November 15, 2021 I would guess she stayed for the children. How old are the kids now? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 15, 2021 Share Posted November 15, 2021 15 hours ago, jamiek99 said: .forums say get on with your life . She abandoned you. Sorry this happened. Do you know this "friend"? How old is she? How old are the children? She needs to pay you child support for all three children. You need to talk to an attorney about custody and visitation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jamiek99 Posted November 15, 2021 Author Share Posted November 15, 2021 kids are now 14,15,17,she is 41 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 15, 2021 Share Posted November 15, 2021 4 hours ago, jamiek99 said: kids are now 14,15,17,she is 41 Ok contact the courts asap and petition for child support and full custody with only supervised visitation. Your children are entitled to child support and she abandoned them so make sure this is mentioned in your petition for full custody with only supervised visitation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 15, 2021 Share Posted November 15, 2021 On 11/14/2021 at 9:21 AM, jamiek99 said: Hi all,advise needed ,I was with my gf for 21 years with 3 kids,we broke up 5 months ago with her saying she needed space,she left and i stayed with our children , me and the kids were coping fine untill today,i have just found out that she has had a baby with my so called friend,talk about devastated,why would she stay with me right up to the point she was going to give birth ,i could not tell she was pregnant as she is a larger lady,me and kids are heart broken.forums say get on with your life but i cant,all i can think of is the betrayale ,why stay here up to the point of giving birth,why not just leave when she cheated ,and with a so called friend,in the 21 years we were together i dont think she cheated once,why now, why stay until the very last minute,thanks in advance for your advice,my head is spinning Because some people are jus trashy and only care about themselves. I agree with Wiseman to file immediately for the child support that is due your children. I'm sorry you're hurt but she's gone and made the decision to cheat and get pregnant by your friend and they want to be together. It's a tough pill to swallow but he actually did you a favor. You don't want to end up with a big, fat cheater who might bring in babies you aren't sure that you're the father of. I wish you and your kids well. There are women who will marry a man with 3 kids because my father found one and was much happier without my cheating bio mom and as kids we adored her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jamiek99 Posted November 15, 2021 Author Share Posted November 15, 2021 thanks for the replies people 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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