AR95 Posted October 30, 2021 Share Posted October 30, 2021 I was in an online LDR with a girl for 2 months we both liked each other , fell in love we had a few arguments tbh regarding her lifestyle.. one day she sent me a message tellin me that she is not good anymore with the relationship and she sees no future even though she loves me and she suggested a friendship I still had her whatsapp , we barely talk , just commenting each other stories sometimes here is the thing I'm gonna travel to her country in 3 weeks for tourism and I thaught let me use the opportunity and meet her for the first time ( very friendly) I sent her a first message she answered. when I brought up that I'm coming there she saw it and didn't reply back. she were never used to ignore my messages.. It's been more than 24hours after that without anything back and I decided to block her out of my list coz I felt I was ignored and she could be courageous to say NO to me.. Was it the right thing? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted October 30, 2021 Share Posted October 30, 2021 Yes, you did the right thing. There is no point in meeting this woman if she has already told you that she is not interested in dating. Enjoy your trip. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 30, 2021 Share Posted October 30, 2021 4 hours ago, AR95 said: It's been more than 24hours after that without anything back and I decided to block her out of my list coz I felt I was ignored and she could be courageous to say NO to me.. Was it the right thing? Yes, because her silence is your answer that she doesn't want to meet you. It's time to let her go altogether. It sounds as though she is either not who she says she is, or she's dating someone else. There's just no reason to keep in contact with this person anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 30, 2021 Share Posted October 30, 2021 Blocking her seems hasty after only 24 hours. It suggests that you are desperate for some answer from her and also that her answer means a lot to you when it shouldn't. Unfortunately she doesn't want a relationship with you so if you still have feelings for her, meeting with her isn't a good idea. I hope you enjoy your trip though. Be open and willing to meet people in your travels and travel safe. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 30, 2021 Share Posted October 30, 2021 9 hours ago, AR95 said: I'm gonna travel to her country in 3 weeks for tourism . I brought up that I'm coming there she saw it and didn't reply back. I decided to block her . Who contacted whom and on what platform? A dating app? Why the distance? Good you blocked her. Not because she was ignoring you but because it was a cyberfantasy, not a relationship. This could be a catfish, scammer, etc. If you travel there, do so for your own reasons. You're not in a relationship with someone you never met so you don't owe each other anything. Distance situations are fraught with problems. She may not be who she says she is, she may be in another relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AR95 Posted October 30, 2021 Author Share Posted October 30, 2021 (edited) 3 hours ago, glows said: Blocking her seems hasty after only 24 hours. It suggests that you are desperate for some answer from her and also that her answer means a lot to you when it shouldn't. Unfortunately she doesn't want a relationship with you so if you still have feelings for her, meeting with her isn't a good idea. I hope you enjoy your trip though. Be open and willing to meet people in your travels and travel safe. It's true I had feelings for her but my purpose wasn't to get her back.. I'm not gonna waste my money and time to make drama.. it's a story that I've burried But her the one who suggested a friendship she could have said something because I don't think friends act like that? and why thell she kept me on her list? I don't know.. if I was on her shoes I'd give any excuse '"work ,commitment,family.." but ignoring? That's disrespectful! Thank you! Edited October 30, 2021 by AR95 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted October 30, 2021 Share Posted October 30, 2021 I guess she was not too pleased with the "few arguments concerning her lifestyle..." She didn't really mean, " we can be friends", she was just being polite. I guess the last thing she wanted was for you to show up where she lives. Rejected ex bfs are a scary prospect for women. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 30, 2021 Share Posted October 30, 2021 4 hours ago, AR95 said: if I was on her shoes I'd give any excuse '"work ,commitment,family.." but ignoring? Catfish and married people simply disappear. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AR95 Posted October 30, 2021 Author Share Posted October 30, 2021 3 hours ago, elaine567 said: I guess she was not too pleased with the "few arguments concerning her lifestyle..." She didn't really mean, " we can be friends", she was just being polite. I guess the last thing she wanted was for you to show up where she lives. Rejected ex bfs are a scary prospect for women. That totally makes sense. I was wondering why she kept me on her list then? just to text me whenever she is into the mood? that's disgusting! I wish she had the guts to say it in front of me rather than ignoring and keeping these childish behaviours. She knows very well how good I was to her and she gonna regret that Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 30, 2021 Share Posted October 30, 2021 1 hour ago, AR95 said: She knows very well how good I was to her and she gonna regret that The thing is, though, that an online romance just doesn't compare to real-life opportunities. Your ability to be good to her was inherently limited by the fact that you never spent time together in person. So while she might have some fond memories of you, it doesn't mean she will regret ending a cyber-fling - especially when she starts dating soemone else locally. And honestly, if you had only been talking for 2 months and there were already arguments about her lifestyle, it was getting off to a bad start anyway. There were big incompatibilities and you hadn't even met. It is likely better for both of you that she chose to cut this off. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted October 31, 2021 Share Posted October 31, 2021 On 10/30/2021 at 1:01 AM, ExpatInItaly said: Yes, because her silence is your answer that she doesn't want to meet you. It's time to let her go altogether. It sounds as though she is either not who she says she is, or she's dating someone else. There's just no reason to keep in contact with this person anymore. or she is nervous and had an anxiety attack? So many people are so anxious about meeting someone they developed a feeling toward them online either friendship or love.. it's a hard move to meet them in person! Link to post Share on other sites
Author AR95 Posted October 31, 2021 Author Share Posted October 31, 2021 6 minutes ago, Noproblem said: or she is nervous and had an anxiety attack? So many people are so anxious about meeting someone they developed a feeling toward them online either friendship or love.. it's a hard move to meet them in person! Nah, I realized that she also deleted my number back She hadn't the guts to say it upfront :)) Link to post Share on other sites
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