ZA Dater Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 Ok this is very obtuse but hear me out. A while, actually a long time ago I met someone at an event and got her number, only the second time I have ever been able to accomplish this. I met up with her, she took me home to meet her mother/sister/kids, I could not get a read on her really but she was nice to me and gave me a nice kiss on the cheek. We chat every so often her life is rather busy as is mine. Today I very unsubtly asked about a date, her response "I am not keen on dates, more casual markets and maybe your club get togethers". What does this actually mean? I simply responded "sure I am open to ideas" I have to say there is enough quite different about her to make her attractive to me but the big thing is someone else I know knows her and apparently lets just say she has a reputation for trying to pick up guys. Not really an issue because maybe this is the sort of person I need to gain some more dating experience.
glows Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 It means she’s not keen on dating in the traditional sense and leans more towards casual dating, no strings attached, and minimal emotional involvement in the romantic sense. She will likely want to date others so anticipate that and practice safe sex. If you like her and are looking for the same, invite her over for dinner. See how things go.
Happy Lemming Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 30 minutes ago, ZA Dater said: Today I very unsubtly asked about a date, her response "I am not keen on dates... My interpretation is... She doesn't want to date you, will never have sex with you, but if you want to spend money on her, she is up for it. My advice... move on.
Author ZA Dater Posted September 29, 2021 Author Posted September 29, 2021 4 hours ago, Happy Lemming said: My interpretation is... She doesn't want to date you, will never have sex with you, but if you want to spend money on her, she is up for it. My advice... move on. Yeah I am going to take your advice. Thanks you. 1
Author ZA Dater Posted September 29, 2021 Author Posted September 29, 2021 4 hours ago, Happy Lemming said: My interpretation is... She doesn't want to date you, will never have sex with you, but if you want to spend money on her, she is up for it. My advice... move on. To add this, advice means a lot to me, I needed this clear insight to sort of clear my mind a bit because I was thinking of various scenarios.
Happy Lemming Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 2 minutes ago, ZA Dater said: To add this, advice means a lot to me, I needed this clear insight to sort of clear my mind a bit because I was thinking of various scenarios. I get what you are saying... I just don't like to see guys waste resources (time and money) barking up the wrong tree. In the end, you want to find a woman that is into you and wants to date you. Its great to daydream about the possibilities in regards to someone new, but she needs to be on the same page as you. Many years ago, I went on a few dates with this woman. She was a veterinarian, highly intelligent, warm, caring, etc. When I asked her out for our 5th date, she said the date sounded like fun but only if we went as friends (which meant I'm never going to have sex with you). I told her "No thank you, I have enough friends." I wasn't going to wasted my time and money, trying to date/entertain this woman if she didn't see me as a romantic interest. NEXT!! Hang in there, brother.
Alfano Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 She messes around with other guys but no interest in you other than for occasional conversation. ZA you're friend zoned. Unfortunately it's a place you oughta be quite familiar with by now. 1
Author ZA Dater Posted September 29, 2021 Author Posted September 29, 2021 38 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: I get what you are saying... I just don't like to see guys waste resources (time and money) barking up the wrong tree. In the end, you want to find a woman that is into you and wants to date you. Its great to daydream about the possibilities in regards to someone new, but she needs to be on the same page as you. Many years ago, I went on a few dates with this woman. She was a veterinarian, highly intelligent, warm, caring, etc. When I asked her out for our 5th date, she said the date sounded like fun but only if we went as friends (which meant I'm never going to have sex with you). I told her "No thank you, I have enough friends." I wasn't going to wasted my time and money, trying to date/entertain this woman if she didn't see me as a romantic interest. NEXT!! Hang in there, brother. I can relate to a lot of that, its a big challenge to find the bold and actually be into that person, this one had some attraction because I did see an angle to get some dating experience. Recently I spent the better part of a week chatting to someone, setting up a date and she simply did not show up. Totally ghosted. Another told me she has work and well the conversation is one msg a day, I cant be bothered with that nonsense, if she was interested she'd make time. So against the backdrop of that I thought I might as well try with this lady.
Author ZA Dater Posted September 29, 2021 Author Posted September 29, 2021 6 minutes ago, Alfano said: She messes around with other guys but no interest in you other than for occasional conversation. ZA you're friend zoned. Unfortunately it's a place you oughta be quite familiar with by now. Indeed at least I have more wisdom now!
Alfano Posted September 29, 2021 Posted September 29, 2021 27 minutes ago, ZA Dater said: Indeed at least I have more wisdom now! Wisdom is good. Even better is to make wisdom work for you as you gain more of it.
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