jspice Posted July 23, 2021 Posted July 23, 2021 3 hours ago, QuietRiot said: Who's to say she wasn't intending on this meeting was never intended to be romantic in her mind. What??
Johnjohnson2017 Posted July 23, 2021 Posted July 23, 2021 She just moved into the area. She might be feeling lonely and wants some friends she can talk to. She is not interested in romance with you. If you want her as a friend, and you need more friends in your life, then hang out with her. If you have plenty of friends already, then you don't really have time for another friend. If you like her as a person and you feels good after hanging out with her, then I would add her as a friend. She's 40 no kids never married? She is probably very picky or emotionally scarred. It might be very difficult for her to get romantically interested in someone. Maybe only 1 out of 100000 men get her attention... then maybe she loses interest very fast. It's not a unicorn you would want ? 1
Weezy1973 Posted July 23, 2021 Posted July 23, 2021 Who knows what will happen in the future. But I wouldn’t go out on “dates” with her. I’d be up front and say, “ah thanks for the honesty. I am looking for a romantic connection so not interested in just a platonic outing.” And if you remain in the same social circle or end up in hiking groups together and something develops naturally great. 1
Wiseman2 Posted July 23, 2021 Posted July 23, 2021 (edited) 8 hours ago, QuietRiot said: Who's to say she wasn't intending on this meeting was never intended to be romantic in her mind. Ok, view this as a networking option rather than a viable dating situation. Make friends, that's fine but keep dating others. Sounds more like a pink flamingo than a unicorn Edited July 23, 2021 by Wiseman2
Miss Spider Posted July 23, 2021 Posted July 23, 2021 Quiet riot, serious question. Have you ever attempted to pick up girls at a meet up that is dedicated to singles instead of walking groups where women are likely just looking to walk and be friends 1
Author QuietRiot Posted July 23, 2021 Author Posted July 23, 2021 1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said: Quiet riot, serious question. Have you ever attempted to pick up girls at a meet up that is dedicated to singles instead of walking groups where women are likely just looking to walk and be friends Does it matter? 1
basil67 Posted July 23, 2021 Posted July 23, 2021 It matters if you want to increase your chances of success. 2
jspice Posted July 23, 2021 Posted July 23, 2021 58 minutes ago, QuietRiot said: Does it matter? Yes. 2
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 23, 2021 Posted July 23, 2021 "I'm focusing on me" and "I'm focusing on my career" may have their times that they're legitimate, but I'm not sure I've ever seen it work out to actually be that more than a handful of instances. Usually they mean "I'm not interested." I mean people go to med school while working part-time and interning 3-day shifts and still date someone they really like, if the idea is compelling enough. 1
Blue Sea Posted July 24, 2021 Posted July 24, 2021 She might be looking for "Friends with Benefits" ? If you want a serious relationship, don't waste time on her. Skip to next one.
Author QuietRiot Posted July 24, 2021 Author Posted July 24, 2021 9 hours ago, basil67 said: It matters if you want to increase your chances of success. We do have singles Meetups, however, they are rather inactive...some have a handful of events, then..they die off. However, I have dated women in Meetups regardless of its function as a good majority of people in these groups are actually single, and others have dated each other from these groups as well...at least where I live. In fact, I prefer to meet women in activities I'm interested in , because at least I'll know we have shared interests and it makes getting to know other people more organically.
Author QuietRiot Posted July 24, 2021 Author Posted July 24, 2021 This is interesting, was checking out Match profiles, and saw this written one of them: I am not sure if I have time for this but I might get lucky and find a good friend that eventually become more than a friend. Maybe I can hope for the same with this one, since she's at least agreed to meet with me? But..she's not sure she has time for this?
Wiseman2 Posted July 24, 2021 Posted July 24, 2021 24 minutes ago, QuietRiot said: I am not sure if I have time for this but I might get lucky and find a good friend that eventually become more than a friend. This statement on a profile would immediately go into my trash folder.
Weezy1973 Posted July 24, 2021 Posted July 24, 2021 4 hours ago, QuietRiot said: Maybe I can hope for the same with this one, since she's at least agreed to meet with me? But..she's not sure she has time for this? You’re basically putting yourself in the friend zone. You want something romantic, she’s not interested. If you make it clear you’re interested in more and hoping to change her mind and then ask if she would still be interested in going on a date (and make it clear it’s a date, not a platonic outing), then you take control and get your answer. What you’re trying is kind of shady, and fails over and over again. If she’s really not interested, that’s fine, you can move on. You seem to be fine at getting dates overall. 1
SumGuy Posted July 24, 2021 Posted July 24, 2021 7 hours ago, QuietRiot said: ....I am not sure if I have time for this but I might get lucky and find a good friend that eventually become more than a friend. Maybe I can hope for the same with this one, since she's at least agreed to meet with me? But..she's not sure she has time for this? The difference with the woman you know is she is amazing to you and friendship alone with her has value to you, just like you male friendships do where you have no romantic hopes. So meeting this amazing woman is not a waste of time but wouldn't stop looking for a woman who is romantically uninterested in you while you hanging out with amazing woman. This woman you see on Match you just know, but guess you will never know unless you meet her.
SumGuy Posted July 24, 2021 Posted July 24, 2021 7 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: This statement on a profile would immediately go into my trash folder. Ahh then it has served it's purpose. When I see... Quote I am not sure if I have time for this but I might get lucky and find a good friend that eventually become more than a friend. I see honesty and basically the message: if you think this is leading to sex by date three or you can decide if you like me after sex just move on; connection comes first and foremost and that can take time. Frankly, she is just saying what any person looking for a serious LTR is thinking, that there need to be more than just lustful chemistry. Just that a lot of men could care less about connection before sex...if they were honest they'd write: "I am not sure I have time for this but I might get lucky and find good sex that eventually becomes more than sex." 3
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