Moricka Posted July 4, 2021 Posted July 4, 2021 Hi All, I fell in love with a girl at my workplace, and I often feel that she likes me too to some extent. She's very open with me and approaches me often. We met outside of work twice (let's say dated), I think the second one was going well, we were holding hands, at the end I kissed her but she didn't really kiss me back. But she said that time that she wanted to see me again. What makes it a bit complicated is that I'm a manager at my workplace, and while she's not reporting directly to me, we work closely. So I don't want to push anything too much as I don't want her to feel uncomfortable at work. Now I asked her on a third date, first she didn't like my plan, then I asked again to go out to visit a place but she said she had other plans for the week. Would you think I should give it another try? If you think so, a suggestion what to do together would also be appreciated. Many thanks for your help
Foxhall Posted July 4, 2021 Posted July 4, 2021 I dont think Id follow up with number three at this point perhaps take a step back, continue to chat to her casually at work, put in her mind that your a decent bloke to be around, make her fall for you without trying to hard and try your luck again in a couple of months, now that is what Id do- not that I am great or was ever great at the dating games. 1
basil67 Posted July 4, 2021 Posted July 4, 2021 I suspect she wants to see you again, but as a friend. What you do from here depends on whether or not you're OK with being a friend. 1
Wiseman2 Posted July 4, 2021 Posted July 4, 2021 1 hour ago, Moricka said: So I don't want to push anything too much Good plan not to jeopardize your job and not push things. Let her get back to you about another date. 2
Author Moricka Posted July 4, 2021 Author Posted July 4, 2021 Thank you for all your answers so far. Sadly, I believe I should keep it on a friendly conversation level and nothing more. What makes it hard is the way she keeps approaching me and talking to me, sometimes she draws hearts to me.. so when I decided in my mind that I shouldn't push for another date, I saw all these signs.. Then I asked her again and she said she had other plans for the week. How weird.. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 4, 2021 Posted July 4, 2021 Back off. As a manager if you push things you will end up in hot water with HR or worse. Be careful about how you express things. You say you "love" her. You barely know her. She's a work subordinate & you have only been on 2 dates. You may be attracted to her; you may like her; you may feel affection for her but love takes more time than you two have put in here. Her work behavior is not the benchmark. As a manager you would be well served to stop fishing off the company pier. It won't end well for you. 1
Author Moricka Posted July 4, 2021 Author Posted July 4, 2021 9 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Back off. As a manager if you push things you will end up in hot water with HR or worse. Be careful about how you express things. You say you "love" her. You barely know her. She's a work subordinate & you have only been on 2 dates. You may be attracted to her; you may like her; you may feel affection for her but love takes more time than you two have put in here. Her work behavior is not the benchmark. As a manager you would be well served to stop fishing off the company pier. It won't end well for you. Good points, thank you for your advice.
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