Gaeta Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: No it's not bigger than Thanksgiving but it is a holiday were one should spend with their love ones or significant Maybe at 4 months dating he feels you should spend your 4th of July with your family. Maybe he feels you're not serious enough to mix during Holidays. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 2 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Maybe at 4 months dating he feels you should spend your 4th of July with your family. Maybe he feels you're not serious enough to mix during Holidays. Wow so I should have the are we serious talk? We are not seeing anyone else. I'm so sad and confused. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: Wow so I should have the are we serious talk? We are not seeing anyone else. I'm so sad and confused. Have you introduced him to your family? Have you met his? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 6 minutes ago, stillafool said: No. As a matter of fact I would ignore his ass for a while. You've been waiting to see him and he sends a breakfast over to let you know he's thinking about you but won't be seeing you in person. I think this is your cue to pull way back on him and let him do some chasing if he's interested. So when he texts me I should ignore his texts? When do I actually reply thou? We need to have the talk sooner than later. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: Have you introduced him to your family? Have you met his? No he just spoke with my Mom. I havent met his parents as they live in Utah. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 2 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Wow so I should have the are we serious talk? We are not seeing anyone else. I'm so sad and confused. I'm confused. Haven't you two already agreed you are in a one on one relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 1 minute ago, stillafool said: I'm confused. Haven't you two already agreed you are in a one on one relationship? Yes we have. We are. Just @Gaeta suggested he doesnt think we are that serious. We are a couple hence why I am disappointed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 (edited) 5 minutes ago, Britney25 said: No he just spoke with my Mom. I havent met his parents as they live in Utah. Then you are exclusive yes, but your relationship is not that serious yet. Calm down and listen. You said 4th of July is for family and SO, so why are you ready to pick this guy over your family to spend an important Holiday? If you are as serious as you think you are why did you not invite him to join you and your family for the Holiday? Edited July 4, 2021 by Gaeta 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: Then you are exclusive yes, but your relationship is not that serious yet. Calm down and listen. You said 4th of July is for family and SO, so why are you ready to pick this guy over your family to spend an important Holiday? If you are as serious as you think you are why did you not invite him to join you and your family? Because I'm not spending it with my family. They went away. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: Because I'm not spending it with my family. They went away. And he knows that? He knew you were alone on that day? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 (edited) 3 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Then you are exclusive yes, but your relationship is not that serious yet. Calm down and listen. You said 4th of July is for family and SO, so why are you ready to pick this guy over your family to spend an important Holiday? If you are as serious as you think you are why did you not invite him to join you and your family? He doesnt have family in town either. He chose a friend over me. He didnt suggest meeting later even. He didnt ask what I'm doing. Just sent a breakfast with thinking of you. Like wouldnt you be disappointed?? Edited July 4, 2021 by Britney25 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: And he knows that? He knew you were alone on that day? Yes he did Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 (edited) 2 minutes ago, Gaeta said: And he knows that? He knew you were alone on that day? Oh and he didnt even say have a great day! Nothing. Just thinking of you when we spoke. Why does he think that's ok? We live 10mins from each other. Edited July 4, 2021 by Britney25 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: Yes Ok, now l have a better picture of the situation l'd be disappointed and furious! You're both alone in town for 4th of July and he picks a friend over celebrating with you. You said he offered to see you later, how late was that? Was it a reasonable offer? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 20 minutes ago, Britney25 said: We need to have the talk sooner than later. I agree. This relationship is causing you a lot of anxiety and frustration right now. But you need to get clear on what you want to ask him first, and what the goal of this talk is. What questions do you have for him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 8 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Ok, now l have a better picture of the situation l'd be disappointed and furious! You're both alone in town for 4th of July and he picks a friend over celebrating with you. You said he offered to see you later, how late was that? Was it a reasonable offer? No sorry I misspoke. I meant to say he didnt even offer to meet later. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 1 minute ago, ExpatInItaly said: I agree. This relationship is causing you a lot of anxiety and frustration right now. But you need to get clear on what you want to ask him first, and what the goal of this talk is. What questions do you have for him? Well where does he see us going? He didnt want to spend today with me. Not sure if tomorrow I am seeing him . It's all so vague. Does he just want sex? At this point I'm not sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: Well where does he see us going? I'm not sure it's the right question. At 4 months people don't know yet if they want you in their future. If l were you l would tell him what l expect from a boyfriend at this point and ask if he's onboard or not. What do you expect from him at 4 months dating? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 4 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I'm not sure it's the right question. At 4 months people don't know yet if they want you in their future. If l were you l would tell him what l expect from a boyfriend at this point and ask if he's onboard or not. What do you expect from him at 4 months dating? Spend more time together. Be more communicative. He sometimes asks me for a date the day off. I dont like that all the time. I never know when I'm seeing him again. If hes loosing interest why send me these gifts and keep texting me. How should I discuss with him? How do you feel about us? Should I ignore him to see if he cares or is that a bad strategy ? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 13 minutes ago, Britney25 said: No sorry I misspoke. I meant to say he didnt even offer to meet later. I'm pissed for you too especially since he knew you didn't have plans. He could have at least made plans to watch fireworks or spend some time with you tonight. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 4 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Should I ignore him to see if he cares or is that a bad strategy ? You should ignore him because he isn't treating you the way you deserve considering you're in a relationship; not to see if he cares. He's already shown you how much he cares (a breakfast meal). Woman cannot live on bread alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 Just now, stillafool said: I'm pissed for you too especially since he knew you didn't have plans. He could have at least made plans to watch fireworks or spend some time with you tonight. Thing is he told me about his friend on Thursday that he's in town and he forgot. On Friday we had a date and he already kinda suggested he is spending the 4th with him but I thought maybe I'm included in the plans as well. Now today he just sents me breakfast with thinking of you. So I wouldnt get mad? Wtf. I wonder if hes gonna check in on me today. If so..I'm ignoring him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 4, 2021 Author Share Posted July 4, 2021 1 minute ago, stillafool said: You should ignore him because he isn't treating you the way you deserve considering you're in a relationship; not to see if he cares. He's already shown you how much he cares (a breakfast meal). Woman cannot live on bread alone. Right?! He sends me breakfast so I wouldn't be mad most likely. If honestly thought it was a sweet gesture until he told me we are not meeting tonight. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 He should have spent Friday out with his friend and spent the holiday with his gf - you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 4, 2021 Share Posted July 4, 2021 10 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Be more communicative. Britney I think you both need to be more communicative. When questions arise in your mind, just ask him. Put him on the spot. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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