Ami1uwant Posted May 25, 2021 Posted May 25, 2021 23 hours ago, sunny-daze said: One of my best friends of ten years got married over the weekend. It was gorgeous, absolutely perfect. My boyfriend came as my plus one to the wedding. This was his first time meeting this particular group of friends, so I was excited to introduce him even though I knew it would be a crazy, busy night and they wouldn't really have the chance to get to know each other. I was in the wedding as a bridesmaid, so my boyfriend was alone for a good portion. He's very easygoing and personable and texted me at one point that he was fine and had made some friends at the table he was seated at so I wasn't overly worried. Once the reception really got started, we were able to move around more freely and were together the rest of the night. I noticed at one point that he was really pounding drinks. It was an open bar and I feel like he had maybe four or five vodka and sodas in the span of an hour or so. Then he was visibly drunk. Like very drunk. Singing very loudly to the music, and offkey. Hitting the dance floor with some over the top, goofy moves. My friends were in stitches, but I suddenly found myself feeling really embarrassed? At one point he was trying to get me to hold his drink so he could "do the worm" and I was like dude no. And almost felt like I was babysitting him. At one point, I did start giving him water in the hopes that it would help. We left at the end of the reception. I wanted to hang around and make sure the bride and groom didn't need anything, but also needed to get my boyfriend back to the hotel. So we hopped into a shuttle. He was chatting with the driver about music the whole time, but was noticeably slurring his words. Got him back to the hotel, went to sleep, and he was miraculously totally fine in the morning. He did say he drank too much too quickly, but had been feeling really awkward and nervous about not knowing anyone during the first half. Anyways, I'm just wondering how worried I should be about this kind of thing? I've really never seen him like that before but we've also never been to a huge event like that. I just felt like it wasn't a cute look for my grown ass boyfriend to be that obliterated at a wedding. I also don't like I need to look after him at something like that. I don't know if it's break-up worthy, but maybe something I need to keep an eye on? have you gone out for drinks previously? my gf I noticed when she had toomuch to drink it change her personality which really bothered me. she would be willing to do things she doesn’t do sober like dance. She also becomes rude and can be a real arse. if we went out to dinner and had a glass of wine she was fine.
smackie9 Posted May 25, 2021 Posted May 25, 2021 Really it doesn't matter what we think....if you felt this was not a good thing, just let your BF know how you feel. Get his view/opinion, then work on a "next time don't drink too much...." or "I'll just stay home..." or whatever you two agree on. Speak up! and figure it out.
Ami1uwant Posted May 25, 2021 Posted May 25, 2021 22 hours ago, sunny-daze said: I mean...is it so wrong to be embarrassed by that kind of thing? It was the first time he met these friends and I didn't like wandering around after him to keep him out of trouble. And yes. My mother is an alcoholic. my mom was an alcoholic too but she never acknowledged it and she was a quiet drunk. Part of it was upbringing. Her father was career military. Her young teenager years was in Europe so she was used to drink wine with dinner. Every day she’d have 2 glasses with dinner. thus is the thing...how often does he drink like this? His behavior, woukd you have cared if he was around his buddies and not a first impression e ent
BrianK Posted May 25, 2021 Posted May 25, 2021 People get wasted at open bar weddings, its literally the only reason people go to them. Lighten up
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