fred123 Posted April 15, 2021 Posted April 15, 2021 hi iv met this girl online. she lives far away and travels a lot. we have been talking and doing a couple of online movie dates etc. she is in an open relationship and has had friends with benefits with guys in other countries. She then told me she wouldnt have sex with me, but was happy to go on a date with me and that maybe if im lucky il get a kiss. we flirt via text etc How do i get a friends with benefits? and how/why does a girl chose to have this with some guys but just friendzone me. im looking for the same as those "lucky" guys.
BaileyB Posted April 15, 2021 Posted April 15, 2021 1 hour ago, fred123 said: im looking for the same as those "lucky" guys. With this girl? The woman who lives far away from you and has multiple sex partners in different cities? I wouldn’t say these guys are lucky. She is a player and she is playing with you Fred. This is not a woman you want to date. It’s not a woman that you want to have sex with. This is a woman you want to stay far, far away... If you want to find someone to date or even a FWB, long distance relationships are not going to work. You will need to learn how to have a real life relationship with a woman. 3
Author fred123 Posted April 15, 2021 Author Posted April 15, 2021 7 minutes ago, BaileyB said: With this girl? The woman who lives far away from you and has multiple sex partners in different cities? I wouldn’t say these guys are lucky. She is a player and she is playing with you Fred. This is not a woman you want to date. It’s not a woman that you want to have sex with. This is a woman you want to stay far, far away... If you want to find someone to date or even a FWB, long distance relationships are not going to work. You will need to learn how to have a real life relationship with a woman. but why can t we hook up when she is here? whats wrong with that? lol
BaileyB Posted April 15, 2021 Posted April 15, 2021 6 minutes ago, fred123 said: but why can t we hook up when she is here? whats wrong with that? lol Is that what you want? To hook up with a woman who travels the world having sex with various men? It’s not safe, for one reason. Besides, for whatever reason, it doesn’t sound like an option. She has said no.
Author fred123 Posted April 15, 2021 Author Posted April 15, 2021 well she works inba few countries and travels. i dont mind hooking up with her shes cute. but yes my question is why she said no to me and friend zoned me? what makes a girl decide who to friendzone and who she has as friends with benefits?
Backinthesaddleagain Posted April 15, 2021 Posted April 15, 2021 1 hour ago, fred123 said: well she works inba few countries and travels. i dont mind hooking up with her shes cute. but yes my question is why she said no to me and friend zoned me? what makes a girl decide who to friendzone and who she has as friends with benefits? It's called attraction level... Are you being serious here?? She spent some time getting to know you, and now she realizes that you are not what she wants for a FWB. But it looks like she will use you as a pit-stop when she passes through. Most likely just ego stroking and a free meal/drinks, but she seems reckless... So my prediction is you will meet up for dinner, have a few drinks, and she will let you bang her if you talk smooth enough. She isn't sprung on your looks alone and her pass on sex would point to her not liking your personality enough either. Maybe you can pull it off and get lucky? Don't get her drunk though, be a gentleman. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted April 15, 2021 Posted April 15, 2021 3 hours ago, fred123 said: but yes my question is why she said no to me and friend zoned me? what makes a girl decide who to friendzone and who she has as friends with benefits? To be blunt, because she isn't attracted to you that way. 3
dramafreezone Posted April 15, 2021 Posted April 15, 2021 (edited) 7 hours ago, fred123 said: She then told me she wouldnt have sex with me, but was happy to go on a date with me and that maybe if im lucky il get a kiss. we flirt via text etc How do i get a friends with benefits? and how/why does a girl chose to have this with some guys but just friendzone me. im looking for the same as those "lucky" guys. What the hell is this? She have some magical lips or something? She's incredibly full of herself, but you've likely been feeding into this. Stop calling her, stop takng her calls. Act like you have some self respect and deserve more than someone that says you're lucky to get a kiss from her. She has no respect for you at all. Edited April 15, 2021 by dramafreezone 1
glows Posted April 15, 2021 Posted April 15, 2021 (edited) I think she's pulling your leg. The whole kiss thing is just to get you to want her more. Can you not see through it? If you want to hook up it's fair game but I wouldn't buy the story about the different guys. A little debateable whether her "relationship" is a relationship or whether it's "open" or whether she's cheating. Edited April 15, 2021 by glows
Caauug Posted April 16, 2021 Posted April 16, 2021 9 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: To be blunt, because she isn't attracted to you that way. ^^^^^^BANG ON!!!^^^^^^ OP improve on your 6 sixes 6 hours ago, glows said: If you want to hook up it's fair game but I wouldn't buy the story about the different guys. I would. There are a couple in the local on-line want adds for women that travel here. One says she's a nurse, she flies in for a week or two a few times a year. If she was a working girl she would have a price on the want add, no price. 15 hours ago, fred123 said: She then told me she wouldnt have sex with me, but was happy to go on a date with me and that maybe if im lucky il get a kiss. we flirt via text etc She wants you to pump money into her for a date and only a kiss in return? If you are going to pay, your money is better spent on a working girl, at least you get what you pay for. You're not after a R, and the chance of a bub with a working girl would be nil. No entrapments. Note: Here, "Working Girls" are legal? Not criminalized anyway, all have regular checks and use protection. More chance picking up STI, STD from a pub wench than a working girl.
ShyViolet Posted April 16, 2021 Posted April 16, 2021 If you want a friend with benefits then look for one in your area. Not some crazy girl who travels around to different countries hooking up with people. 1
Miss Peach Posted April 16, 2021 Posted April 16, 2021 I would keep looking. Yes, you're essentially being friend zoned. I've met plenty of men I could kiss but I couldn't sleep with. I think at best you can get friends with perks.
Backinthesaddleagain Posted April 16, 2021 Posted April 16, 2021 19 minutes ago, Miss Peach said: ....I've met plenty of men I could kiss but I couldn't sleep with..... It's hilarious how different men and women are lol. I have met plenty of women I would sleep with but not kiss 1
SumGuy Posted April 16, 2021 Posted April 16, 2021 On 4/15/2021 at 12:01 PM, fred123 said: well she works inba few countries and travels. i dont mind hooking up with her shes cute. but yes my question is why she said no to me and friend zoned me? what makes a girl decide who to friendzone and who she has as friends with benefits? Oh fred123....if you have to ask you will likely stay in the "friendzone." That you think you have been "friendzoned" by her reply...all she is saying is don't expect me to put out/don't pressure me for sex. Only once you are cool with just hanging with a cute girl, and realize the inherent benefits in that alone, will you be ready for FWB...
SumGuy Posted April 16, 2021 Posted April 16, 2021 (edited) 21 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: To be blunt, because she isn't attracted to you that way. I mean if you want to have zero change with her sure. Being blunt is a complete misunderstanding of how these things go in my experience, blunt is the very opposite of seduction. Backinthesaddleagain likely has the more accurate take on it if you have any chance at all. Edited April 16, 2021 by SumGuy
SumGuy Posted April 16, 2021 Posted April 16, 2021 18 hours ago, dramafreezone said: What the hell is this? She have some magical lips or something? She's incredibly full of herself, but you've likely been feeding into this. Stop calling her, stop takng her calls. Act like you have some self respect and deserve more than someone that says you're lucky to get a kiss from her. She has no respect for you at all. Oye...really don't get how these things work...the banter and teasing is part and parcel if it is going to happen. I have heard the not going to sleep with you line many times, fair enough and get it as their are so many men who expect things, and have an attitude about "wasting their time" if she is not down to get dirty. Sometimes I let them know I've no expectations, I truly don't and it is the truly part that is key, I'm always truly chill with it...it shows. Invariably these women ended up wanting to sleep with me (if not the first date, the second), often didn't even need to make the first move. Not that I'd recommend this life style...I personally moved to a rule to wait until the third date no matter how much she pressures me. Sure scammers do the same and lead you on to get stuff out of you, but if she is not asking you to drop a ton of money on her, and she is fun to be around why not meet for a drink and see where it goes, at worse (barring catching a communicable air borne disease) you had some laughs, the friends with benefits equation means you need to have that friend part, friends can have fun just having a drink together. Also do not underestimate the effect on other women of them seeing a cute girl all into you, even if just as friends, heck they don't know the story all they see is a hot women finds you worthy to hang with so you must have something....if she flirts with you even a little that is pure gold.
SumGuy Posted April 16, 2021 Posted April 16, 2021 17 minutes ago, SumGuy said: I mean if you want to have zero change with her sure. Being blunt is a complete misunderstanding of how these things go in my experience, blunt is the very opposite of seduction. Backinthesaddleagain likely has the more accurate take on it if you have any chance at all. Oops meant to say zero chance with her....
elaine567 Posted April 17, 2021 Posted April 17, 2021 On 4/15/2021 at 6:51 PM, Backinthesaddleagain said: So my prediction is you will meet up for dinner, have a few drinks, and she will let you bang her if you talk smooth enough. She isn't sprung on your looks alone and her pass on sex would point to her not liking your personality enough either. Maybe you can pull it off and get lucky? Fred seems not to be the type to get lucky. he has tried this trick before with foreign women. He has even managed to get them to the UK, but none have decided to have sex with him or even have much to do with him when they get there. The attraction seems to be London not Fred...
Stupidkupid Posted April 17, 2021 Posted April 17, 2021 1 hour ago, elaine567 said: Fred seems not to be the type to get lucky. he has tried this trick before with foreign women. He has even managed to get them to the UK, but none have decided to have sex with him or even have much to do with him when they get there. The attraction seems to be London not Fred... Has Fred posted other stuff? I saw his posts about "sexting" on another thread. Fred, its been said above but if this woman found you attractive, its clear from what you've said that she is the kind of person that would tell you. Find someone local. Chat to them normally. Try not to be weird. But this woman isn't it for you.
elaine567 Posted April 17, 2021 Posted April 17, 2021 4 minutes ago, Stupidkupid said: Has Fred posted other stuff? Yes.https://www.loveshack.org/profile/361475-fred123/content/?type=forums_topic&change_section=1 7 minutes ago, Stupidkupid said: Find someone local. He doesn't listen to this advice. 1
Stupidkupid Posted April 17, 2021 Posted April 17, 2021 (edited) 8 minutes ago, elaine567 said: Yes.https://www.loveshack.org/profile/361475-fred123/content/?type=forums_topic&change_section=1 He doesn't listen to this advice. Fred seems a little creepy. Just saw the one about the 17 year old student. Hard no. Gross. Lots of his posts about escalating to sex chat with women. Fred, you need to have a look at yourself because you're coming over on here as an absolute danger. If this is what you're projecting elsewhere there really is no big secret as to why women don't want to go further with you. Edited April 17, 2021 by Stupidkupid 1
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