My Friendship Dilemma!

[Stupidkupid]

8 minutes ago, Jeff01 said:

@Wiseman2 Yes, I have a history of depression, anxiety, and panic attacks. I have seen therapists in the past, until they either left to go someplace different, or retired. That's what happened with my most recent one. I was seeing an elderly guy therapist, but he retired back in October. And I have been trying to find a new therapist recently, but there are waiting lists everywhere right now

Hey Jeff.

I see you're still not in a great place.

You can't force this woman to behave how you want her to but this is a good time to help yourself.

People care for you and worry for you. The answer is speaking to someone: your doctor or another professional, about these dark feelings you're having. Stuff like this affects many of us but you can and will get through it.

Can you get some help?

Edited April 19, 2021 by Stupidkupid

[Jeff01]

@d0nnivain No, "Betty" knows I exist, and who I am, because me and her always share stuff on our mutual female friends timeline. I've even "liked" some of her posts, and she has "liked" some of mine on the friends timeline. I don't know exactly how much "Betty" knows, that depends on what my female friend has told her, I don't know that, but yes, we do know who each other are. 

[dramafreezone]

28 minutes ago, Jeff01 said:

@Wiseman2 Yes, I have a history of depression, anxiety, and panic attacks. I have seen therapists in the past, until they either left to go someplace different, or retired. That's what happened with my most recent one. I was seeing an elderly guy therapist, but he retired back in October. And I have been trying to find a new therapist recently, but there are waiting lists everywhere right now

There have to be some available even via Zoom.  You should have one at all times.  I just googled a site and I could book a session this Friday for $39.  You need to stay on top of this.

[d0nnivain]

@Jeff01

Are you intentionally being obtuse?   You & Betty may both post on your "friend's" time line but that does not mean she knows you are the guy who is having an EA with the friend.  Even then it is very one sided.  You are smitten & deluding yourself into claiming to be in love when this woman just uses you & uses you when she needs emotional propping up & nobody else is available, while not even acknowledging your desperation for her approval.  

Betty is not your problem or your rival! Why are you mad at her instead of being mad at the woman who is literally treating you like an emotional tampon?  

As for your therapist not being available, due to retirement, @dramafreezone is right.  You can get a virtual appointment cheap, now.  Take advantage of the technology.  

[Wiseman2]

Jeff, suicidal ideation is a medical emergency. You need to get to an ER and stop talking about these women as a diversion.

Either you are suicidal and will call a hotline/go to an ER, or you'll just keep ranting about these women making suicidal threats on here.

 

[vla1120]

@Jeff01 So, you told her you were suicidal and she mentioned NOTHING about that - but went on to complain about her own life...Do you get now that she's just using you? You have people out on this forum who care about your welfare more than she does, Jeff!! 

The best thing you could do for yourself is GET MAD at her and go NO CONTACT. Block her so you don't have to see her pretentious posts and whether or not she is talking to her friend "Betty" (or whomever else - I suspect she's probably talking to other men out there, too. What's to stop her?)

First and foremost, though, you need to seek professional help for your suicidal ideations. I'm not sure where you live, but you DO have options for therapy, and suicide hotlines are FREE and open 24x7. If you can't get therapy right away, at least call a suicide hotline next time you are contemplating suicide, please!