Gaeta Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 2 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: I think you’re incompatible. So what’s the new guy(s) like ? Yep! we want to hear about the new guy 🙂 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 (edited) 7 minutes ago, Alpaca said: That is something I am unaware of, Shortskirtslonglashes (which I think you since edited). That is, just because a man wants to see a woman right after the first date doesn't mean he is motivated for the best of reasons. Returning to Emilyinroses, I believe she should be less hurried, particularly given the OP's past. I think it's good Emilyinroses that you're conscious that he's not interested in learning more about you, at least not at this stage. All things to consider. Very true. However, I also want to see them too so it cannot all be explained away with “not so good” intentions. I would also like to say that since he suggested the date in person initially, we can all stop giving him the Covid pass Edited March 7, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 (edited) 3 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: I think you’re incompatible. So what’s the new guy(s) like ? He seems nice and already asked me for a date 🤷♀️ Edited March 7, 2021 by Emilyinroses 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 (edited) 1 minute ago, Emilyinroses said: He seems nice and already asked me for a date 🤷♀️ Yay !!!! Hope it goes well. Edited March 7, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 1 minute ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: Very true. However, I also want to see them too so we cannot all be explained away with bad intentions. I would also like to say that since he suggested the date in person initially, we can all stop giving him the Covid pass I suggested the date in person, not him. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 1 minute ago, Emilyinroses said: He seems nice and already asked me for a date 🤷♀️ When? so I put that on my calendar .. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 Have you talked to the new guy on the phone? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 To be honest I only have one word for his ‘effort’, it’s called breadcrumbs. And I don’t like it, I like the whole meal. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 4 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: Have you talked to the new guy on the phone? No, we only started talking two days ago. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 5 minutes ago, Gaeta said: When? so I put that on my calendar .. We are arranging it. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 Just now, Emilyinroses said: No, we only started talking two days ago. You're giving us breadcrumbs about this new guy lol We want A to Z. 😉 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 (edited) On 3/2/2021 at 10:18 AM, Emilyinroses said: Ok so guys he works in a place that is closed now but is near my house, and he said to me today that he needs to go there this Friday, and so he has a reason to travel and we can meet and go for a walk in a park. Oh I know that you have been a nudging him every step of the way. I just meant this that he had every opportunity to use the covid pass & he still decided to do an a in -person meet . Enough about him tho lol more details about the guy you have a date with Edited March 7, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sushiandtacos Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 18 minutes ago, Emilyinroses said: I feel he doesn’t ask questions to know more about me. Our phone calls are superficial. I asked him about previous relationships and he was very brief and changed subject. I asked him about his work, and he never asked me ANYTHING about mine. I understand a guy can be slower, but there’s a difference between being slow and stagnation. 🧐🧐🧐 Seems sketch... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 4 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: 🧐🧐🧐 Seems sketch... It does. A guy who is interested asks about how long I have been single, etc. Also wants to know about my work. He seems like he avoids certain topics. Sketchy yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 12 minutes ago, Gaeta said: You're giving us breadcrumbs about this new guy lol We want A to Z. 😉 Well he lives close to me, he already told me how long he has been single, asked me that as well, seems open. And said he wants to meet me in person and asked when I can do that. 😊 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sushiandtacos Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 Just now, Emilyinroses said: It does. A guy who is interested asks about how long I have been single, etc. Also wants to know about my work. He seems like he avoids certain topics. Sketchy yes. Is he young like early 20s? It is possible that he doesn't have a of experiences with dating, but if he is dodging the question that is shady lol. But I do agree, if a guy is interested especially after the first date he would want to talk about how your day was and know more about you. IDK if you're on the same boat as me but I'm tired of OLD, started trying it out this year and already exhausted from it😂 I feel like nothing is out of the ordinary with guys you meet on the apps. One minute they seem so into you then the next minute they disappear. Honestly looking forward to when the pandemic is over so I can meet people organically💁♀️ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 (edited) 3 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: Is he young like early 20s? It is possible that he doesn't have a of experiences with dating, but if he is dodging the question that is shady lol. But I do agree, if a guy is interested especially after the first date he would want to talk about how your day was and know more about you. IDK if you're on the same boat as me but I'm tired of OLD, started trying it out this year and already exhausted from it😂 I feel like nothing is out of the ordinary with guys you meet on the apps. One minute they seem so into you then the next minute they disappear. Honestly looking forward to when the pandemic is over so I can meet people organically💁♀️ He is 40 years old! Has two kids (grown-ups) from two different women. He said his last relationship was 4 months ago. But then no more details and changed subject. So no he is no inexperienced guy! lol that’s the thing with him! He wants to know how my day is every day and asks about that, but then avoids other conversations. It’s all very superficial. Agree, me too! I used to be part of a walking group and also a business owners group and miss them so much! Edited March 7, 2021 by Emilyinroses Link to post Share on other sites
sushiandtacos Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 21 minutes ago, Emilyinroses said: He is 40 years old! Has two kids (grown-ups) from two different women. He said his last relationship was 4 months ago. But then no more details and changed subject. So no he is no inexperienced guy! lol that’s the thing with him! He wants to know how my day is every day and asks about that, but then avoids other conversations. It’s all very superficial. Agree, me too! I used to be part of a walking group and also a business owners group and miss them so much! Yeah then he should be pretty experienced🤦♀️ I would keep him on the back burner and focus on the other guys! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 8 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: Yeah then he should be pretty experienced🤦♀️ I would keep him on the back burner and focus on the other guys! Yes! I have been focusing on him and putting others on the back burner, gonna do the opposite now, and also be less available to this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 Actually, I was reading back what he said to me when I asked him if he wanted to meet in person, and he said yes and that he was WAITING for me to take the initiative to do that! Well he is the man. Shouldn’t he be taking that initiative instead of waiting for the woman to do it!? And that must be again what he is doing: waiting for me to take the initiative to ask to meet again, instead of asking himself. Sorry but I am out. No more making moves for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 1 hour ago, Emilyinroses said: He is 40 years old! Holy cow! How did that not come out earlier in 11 pages! His relationship ended 3 months ago? He sounds like a guy dragging things in case ex comes back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Holy cow! How did that not come out earlier in 11 pages! His relationship ended 3 months ago? He sounds like a guy dragging things in case ex comes back. OMG I didn’t think about that! I don’t know how long that relationship lasted because he changed subject, so it could have been 2 months or it could have been 2 years! And he might still love her and is waiting to see if she comes back or something. So many guys do that! That’s why he was very brief about it and changed subject. Yikes! 😯 Edited March 7, 2021 by Emilyinroses 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 4 hours ago, Emilyinroses said: As proactive as I have been. He has to meet me half way at least, which he is not doing. So then I think you've answered your own question. He is not the person for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyinroses Posted March 7, 2021 Author Share Posted March 7, 2021 (edited) 3 minutes ago, Alpaca said: So then I think you've answered your own question. He is not the person for you. I have to admit that unfortunately he is not. I want someone I can vibe with and is easy and effortless. Planning next date is easy and a no brainer for him. This with this guy just makes me feel bad. Edited March 7, 2021 by Emilyinroses 3 Link to post Share on other sites
sushiandtacos Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 19 minutes ago, Emilyinroses said: I have to admit that unfortunately he is not. I want someone I can vibe with and is easy and effortless. Planning next date is easy and a no brainer for him. This with this guy just makes me feel bad. EXACTLY how I felt with the guy I talked about. It should feel good and be easy to see each other especially in the beginning. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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