poppyfields Posted January 9, 2021 Posted January 9, 2021 (edited) I think if you were "in love" with her (versus loving/ feeling comfortable) you would see her as beautiful and sexy and not give a rat's rear what your friends think. You're not, this sounds like a glorified friendship that you're deeming a relationship because you're a man and she's a woman. I did that with a boyfriend many moons ago, ended in disaster when I met the man who became my first true love. Which devastated my then boyfriend. Don't make the same mistake I did, you are not in love with her, do the kind thing and end it now. Let her find a man who will fall in love with her. You do the same Choose wisely. Edited January 9, 2021 by poppyfields 2
FMW Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 22 hours ago, poppyfields said: I think if you were "in love" with her (versus loving/ feeling comfortable) you would see her as beautiful and sexy and not give a rat's rear what your friends think. I absolutely agree. If you are really in love with someone they become more beautiful and attractive to you, it makes you happy just to look at them. If you are looking at her thinking "eh, I can do better", let her go. She would be mortified if she knew what you are thinking. 2
dramafreezone Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 Honestly, doesn't sound like this GF really does it for you. You said you were friends and it grew into something more. If this woman was a "10" in your eyes (which is highly subjective), you wouldn't be having this feeling of ambivelence. You said you were never attracted to her, that's very telling. Sounds like you just started a relationship with her because it was convenient. Maybe if you married this GF you'd have an ok marriage, but that's all it'd ever be. Just depends on what you want, do you want to just check a box and get married, or do you wan to really go for a woman that knocks your socks off? Answer that question and then you'll know what you need to do.
JRabbit Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 I would be devastated if this is how my bf truly felt about me. I don't think you have to settle. I think you can have it all. I think since you already getting a wandering eye, the fact that you are not strongly attracted to her physically may cause issues down the road. 1
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