Yungstagurl Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 I literally just started a new relationship with a man I met a little over 2 months ago. It's actually long distance and we have visited each other quite a few times. He's everything I ever wanted in a man. He's 34 with no kids. His communication is great he's handsome has his own business and a lot going for him. I really like him and have some deep feelings for him and he's more into me than I am him. I went to visit him this weekend and he had to talk to me about something. Apparently the woman he was talking to before me is pregnant and it's a big possibility that it's his. I was crushed. He literally met me 2 weeks after he slept with her. Apparently they stop talking a while ago but ran into each other caught up and one thing led to another and it was just one time. Then they stopped talking until she reached out to tell him she was pregnant. I also so proof of how far along she was to know for sure that it was before met. Well I don't know what to do I really care about him he literally was everything I wanted in a man besides the kid. He drove down here three times to see me and paid for the hotel and everything we did. He holds doors he's up front and honest has made his intentions clear he's not just a talker his actions have proved that he really likes me and wants to be with me. He flew me to him twice and took care of everything and we haven't even has sex yet. I said I wanted to continue growing our connection without it and he was ok with it. We talk everyday sometimes it's between 3 to 5 hours and text everyday everything is consistent and he's persistent. He says his plans hasn't changed that he still wants to be with me and continue our relationship but he would definitely take care of his responsibilities. He wants to know what I want to do and right now I'm torn.. a big part of me really wants to stick it out and see then another part wants to walk away.. I told him I needed some time but I don't know. Any advice??
lovebooks Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 This is why premarital and extramarital sex are problematic. There will always be two other people in your relationship with him. This is a hard one. You are the free one in this . He is not 34 with no kids. He has one on the way now. If he is more into you than you are with him maybe that's your answer.
ShyViolet Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 You only met him 2 months ago. You still barely know this man. It makes no sense to get involved with someone who is about to have a baby with someone else. Why on earth would you do that to yourself? You have a chance to dodge a bullet here. 1
Pumaza Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 Hmm...he barelly finish one and yet be with you. You just met him. So best time to jump out is now. Because soon there will be more drama. With baby momma and stuff. Maybe money and sex is what you dreamed of,but im sure not a man also that is not fully there for you. Move on.
trident_2020 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 4 hours ago, Yungstagurl said: He literally met me 2 weeks after he slept with her. Apparently they stop talking a while ago This makes no sense.
JackD Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 Do you want to be helping raise a child that is not yours, just as your relationship is starting? Not to mention the child will become his #1 priority in his life for at least the next 18 years... No more flying around staying in hotels on a whim. No freedom to do whatever you both want whenever you want without considering anyone else. No more being in your own world. He might be great on paper but I'm sure there are a lot of other guys who are too, but without the unnecessary baggage.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 It sounds like it hasn't yet been confirmed that he is the father. Ask yourself if you're prepared to wait and find out. Then you need to decide what to do if the baby is his. Personally, I would opt out. The relationship is too new and his life would take a dramatic turn very quickly. The whole dynamic of your relationship would change forever, and his priorities would naturally shift. There would be a lot less time for you and the relationship, and you'd be sharing his time and attention with the baby's mother, especially the in early years. It wouldn't work for me.
Wiseman2 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 9 hours ago, Yungstagurl said: . Apparently the woman he was talking to before me is pregnant and it's a big possibility that it's his. advice?? Sorry this happened. Yes. Run. . It's a no-win situation for you. Cut your losses. No matter how many boxes he ticks, no matter what he tells you, this has headaches and heartaches written all over it.
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