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3 minutes ago, matt1221 said:

Lol she didn't ignore me for a month.. I haven't sent a text or reached out to her because everyone was staying inside and I didn't want to ask her "How her week was going" when there was no possible way we were going to meet up.  

Well im in a similar  situation.

So if youre not going to keep in touch then youll lose contact completely. Is tht what you want?

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2 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

 

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1 minute ago, matt1221 said:

 

Erm i can't see anything you've  written

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2 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

Well im in a similar  situation.

So if youre not going to keep in touch then youll lose contact completely. Is tht what you want?

No, but I just didn't know if it would be too random to start the convo up again after a month off. 

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1 minute ago, matt1221 said:

No, but I just didn't know if it would be too random to start the convo up again after a month off. 

Well i texted someone  today after a whole five weeks no contact..they didn't  reply but still😂

 I mean if u want to do it, Just do it. 

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19 minutes ago, matt1221 said:

I would never send her a "where do I stand with you text". That's absurd.  Just looking for advice to throw a text out there or not.

... and throwing a text out there at this point would be in order to determine where you stand with her. 

My advice -- don't text her just to text her, in order to start some pointless, meandering conversation that bores her and drains her interest even more. 

And one more thing -- nice-looking girls who work at bars (ie. are hired for being nice-looking) are always appreciative of orbiters and admirers. This one included. 

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1 minute ago, rjc149 said:

... and throwing a text out there at this point would be in order to determine where you stand with her. 

My advice -- don't text her just to text her, in order to start some pointless, meandering conversation that bores her and drains her interest even more. 

That's why i suggested  he should call her

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Just now, miranda561 said:

That's why i suggested  he should call her

That could work -- I suggest he drops in at the bar sometime when she's working, and starts chatting her up again face to face, and come off as like "I'm a busy guy who's been busy dating other women this past month, but I totally forgot how cool you are, let's meet up again sometime!"

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13 minutes ago, rjc149 said:

... and throwing a text out there at this point would be in order to determine where you stand with her. 

My advice -- don't text her just to text her, in order to start some pointless, meandering conversation that bores her and drains her interest even more. 

And one more thing -- nice-looking girls who work at bars (ie. are hired for being nice-looking) are always appreciative of orbiters and admirers. This one included. 

Ya, but they don't go out with guys on dates who ask them out lol. They shut them down or tell them to write their number down and don't text them.  She told me to write my number down and texted me later that night. We met at a bar (and she doesn't drink anymore) so that was different and I wasn't aware of that going in. 

Also, i guess I shouldn't have said "I forced a kiss on her". Didn't try to make out with her or anything like that. We were looking for someplace to go after hours and coulnd't find a place so we got food.  It was 330am and her uber pulled up and I kissed her. 

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Text her, call her, or go to the bar.
Do something to get your answer.  It hasn't been long enough for her to forget who you are.
But if you wait any longer, she will.  
And if she has forgotten who you are already, well.....there's your answer. 😉

 

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3 minutes ago, matt1221 said:

Ya, but they don't go out with guys on dates who ask them out lol

Lol you sure about that? Some women love being taken out for a free ride, regardless of their interest level. Maybe she was bored, had nothing else going on, or figured hey, why not? You really don't think attractive women, who are lit up by suitors, don't occasionally take the free food and drink?

It sounds like you might have had a shot. I think, and this is my humble opinion, that the persistent and pointless texting came off as needy, her so-so interest fell even further, and she moved on to her other options. Which you can bet your bottom dollar, she has in abundance. 

I really don't think sending her a pointless texts to get her to acknowledge your existence is going to help your case. 

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6 minutes ago, rjc149 said:

Lol you sure about that? Some women love being taken out for a free ride, regardless of their interest level. Maybe she was bored, had nothing else going on, or figured hey, why not? You really don't think attractive women, who are lit up by suitors, don't occasionally take the free food and drink?

It sounds like you might have had a shot. I think, and this is my humble opinion, that the persistent and pointless texting came off as needy, her so-so interest fell even further, and she moved on to her other options. Which you can bet your bottom dollar, she has in abundance. 

I really don't think sending her a pointless texts to get her to acknowledge your existence is going to help your case. 

Those women are sad then. I for one only would meet up with someone if i had a genuine interest.

I think if she likes the guy she would appreciate the messaging.  If she doesnt that's  a different story. 

He should just try  either call her or try set another date. I think after that he will know where he stands 

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36 minutes ago, matt1221 said:

Well she sent the first ever text to me. She told me to write my number down while she was working and she texted me when she got home.  She was slow responding to most texts though, but on the actual date she was very chatty and outgoing.  I kinda just stopped texting her for the last month, because there was no chance of meeting up with her during the social distancing period..  

Right, but in February? It kind of sounds like you want to believe she may be into you (you're repeating that she seemed enthusiastic on dates) but if you want advice it sounds more like once she's dragged out, :D okay, it's fun but she doesn't even want a kiss, and afterward she's not interested in keeping things up. You're going to do what you want to do but if this has been the pattern for months of doesn't seem like it's going to change. :( I'd be looking for other girls.

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9 minutes ago, rjc149 said:

Lol you sure about that? Some women love being taken out for a free ride, regardless of their interest level. Maybe she was bored, had nothing else going on, or figured hey, why not? You really don't think attractive women, who are lit up by suitors, don't occasionally take the free food and drink?

It sounds like you might have had a shot. I think, and this is my humble opinion, that the persistent and pointless texting came off as needy, her so-so interest fell even further, and she moved on to her other options. Which you can bet your bottom dollar, she has in abundance. 

I really don't think sending her a pointless texts to get her to acknowledge your existence is going to help your case. 

I don't know, she didn't even want the first kiss, I think she just wasn't interested from the beginning, he said he had to force it...just a female POV. She was never really interested, sounds more like a friends thing.

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7 minutes ago, rjc149 said:

Lol you sure about that? Some women love being taken out for a free ride, regardless of their interest level. Maybe she was bored, had nothing else going on, or figured hey, why not? You really don't think attractive women, who are lit up by suitors, don't occasionally take the free food and drink?

It sounds like you might have had a shot. I think, and this is my humble opinion, that the persistent and pointless texting came off as needy, her so-so interest fell even further, and she moved on to her other options. Which you can bet your bottom dollar, she has in abundance. 

I really don't think sending her a pointless texts to get her to acknowledge your existence is going to help your case. 

Well like I said she doesn't drink anymore so there was no free ride. I also think that you think she's in her early 20s when shes actually in her 30s and pretty mature. Also even when I was texting, it was once every week and a half or so (not everyday) so wasn't coming off as that needy.  It took a while for her to reply but it was usually 3 or 4 straight texts.. She could have been just doing it to be polite, but I wasn't sure so that's why I posted to get some input.  

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7 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

Right, but in February? It kind of sounds like you want to believe she may be into you (you're repeating that she seemed enthusiastic on dates) but if you want advice it sounds more like once she's dragged out, :D okay, it's fun but she doesn't even want a kiss, and afterward she's not interested in keeping things up. You're going to do what you want to do but if this has been the pattern for months of doesn't seem like it's going to change. :( I'd be looking for other girls.

Dragged out? lol. She wouldn't have texted me her number if she was dragged out.  Also I think that was a stretch saying I forced a kiss on her.. Her uber showed up and I gave her a goodbye kiss.  Didn't hold her down and force her to make out with me. Also ya, it was late february but Corona happened and nobody left home for two months. 

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18 minutes ago, rjc149 said:

Lol you sure about that? Some women love being taken out for a free ride, regardless of their interest level. Maybe she was bored, had nothing else going on, or figured hey, why not? You really don't think attractive women, who are lit up by suitors, don't occasionally take the free food and drink?

It sounds like you might have had a shot. I think, and this is my humble opinion, that the persistent and pointless texting came off as needy, her so-so interest fell even further, and she moved on to her other options. Which you can bet your bottom dollar, she has in abundance. 

I really don't think sending her a pointless texts to get her to acknowledge your existence is going to help your case. 

 

6 minutes ago, matt1221 said:

Well like I said she doesn't drink anymore so there was no free ride. I also think that you think she's in her early 20s when shes actually in her 30s and pretty mature. Also even when I was texting, it was once every week and a half or so (not everyday) so wasn't coming off as that needy.  It took a while for her to reply but it was usually 3 or 4 straight texts.. She could have been just doing it to be polite, but I wasn't sure so that's why I posted to get some input.  

You really really just want there to be an excuse or reason...you're really just going to keep getting hurt... :( We will be here for you if that happens. :(,    ---> p.s. Sorry, rj! I don't know why I was also quoting you.

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1 minute ago, matt1221 said:

Dragged out? lol. She wouldn't have texted me her number if she was dragged out.  Also I think that was a stretch saying I forced a kiss on her.. Her uber showed up and I gave her a goodbye kiss.  Didn't hold her down and force her to make out with me. 

You said "forced"...that's why I said it...okay, so text her...let us know how it goes. GL.

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Just now, matt1221 said:

Well like I said she doesn't drink anymore so there was no free ride. I also think that you think she's in her early 20s when shes actually in her 30s and pretty mature. Also even when I was texting, it was once every week and a half or so (not everyday) so wasn't coming off as that needy.  It took a while for her to reply but it was usually 3 or 4 straight texts.. She could have been just doing it to be polite, but I wasn't sure so that's why I posted to get some input.  

Regardless of her age and maturity level, an attractive "hired gun" still appreciates admirers. Perhaps even more so in her 30's. 

I think it's interesting that she doesn't drink anymore but still wanted to go to after-hours bars... You'd think a mature woman who doesn't drink would want a romantic night out somewhere else.. Again, I don't think she saw you as a romantic prospect. 

 

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2 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

 

p.s. Sorry, rj! I don't know why I was also quoting you.

Probably a knee-jerk reaction at this point 🙃

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2 minutes ago, rjc149 said:

Probably a knee-jerk reaction at this point 🙃

Ha ha, almost certainly, touchè.

Posted
15 hours ago, matt1221 said:

Also I think that was a stretch saying I forced a kiss on her.

You did. It says in your post.

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She's not at all interested.

And you've left it far too long.

Move on.

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5 hours ago, JTSW said:

She's not at all interested.

And you've left it far too long.

Move on.

Really? Because she texted me this morning. 

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6 minutes ago, matt1221 said:

Really? Because she texted me this morning. 

I was right 😂

What did she say..she initiated?

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