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I sent pictures of someone else to a girl who has now fallen in love with me and wants to meet me in person

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7 minutes ago, thomas131313 said:

she is really embarrased cause she got played think about how dumb she looks guys

Exactly. But she wants you to come over. So... what do you want on your headstone lol. Nah really, take precautions. Tell somebody exactly where you are in case ... of uh ... problems.  If this works out, yours will be the craziest story I’ve ever seen here. Good luck! 

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Reassure her that she's got nothing to be embarrassed about and that you are the one who should be embarrassed.

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What's happening?   This is like the end of a TV season cliffhanger.  

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I met her guys. went to her place and was there for 30 min then she kicked me out. i met her infront of her condo and she hugged me then we walked upstairs and sat down and talked for awhile she was crying alot and saying alot of things but overall it didnt go that well. she kicked me out kinda and then hugged me again for like a minute. i dont know whats going to happen the funny thing is when we were talking on the phone before i came to her place and before she met me, she was like kinda cool with it, like really hurt but also wanted to eat food and what not and then once i got there she said it became more real and she wanted to puke and felt physically sick and wanted me to go it didnt go too great hard to say but not feeling to good about it not sure whats going to happen. i texted her sorry after i left and no response

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she said it was really hard connecting me to the guy in the pictures since i made her believe i was him i guess. she said alot of stuff hard to repeat it back here but not to happy about it now

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i honestly dont know if i regret going or not

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also she said before i came over when we were talking that she texted her mom and said is it wrong that im still in love with him and her mom said no this was before we met

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well she responded to my text not even sure what to say

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before i came over and we were talking on the phone she also said this is almost a good thing for our relationship knowing the truth, i guess once she met me and saw that im not good looking she had second thoughts. i dont know if i should be texting her now or saying anything

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shes texting me now she said honestly you made me think for so long it was someone else that it was hard to look at you and believe it was you sorry but its true

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she is really saying alot now

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What did you expect?

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Let’s hope she learns from this experience not to trust strangers on the internet.

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13 hours ago, K.K. said:

Exactly. But she wants you to come over. So... what do you want on your headstone lol. Nah really, take precautions. Tell somebody exactly where you are in case ... of uh ... problems.  If this works out, yours will be the craziest story I’ve ever seen here. Good luck! 

how do you think i should approach today? as much as she said she forgave me and so on im guessing her family is going to try to convince her im a terrible person. should i send her any messages? she ended the night by saying i dont want to talk to you anymore tonight and to sleep well and that shes so angry and shes not even sure who with maybe herself, maybe the world, maybe me, maybe the other me. then she said its all good and good night

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I think you should delete her photos and tell her and then never contact her again.  Look, she is not going to accept you after this.  The longer she has to think about it, the madder she is going to be.  But you should not regret you went over there finally.  It was eating you alive and her too.  It had to end.  At this point, once she gets over the shock, she will start dating other guys, and even if she entrusts you again with confiding in you, you don't want to sit by and be her sounding board for her dating other guys.  

 

And please realize that anything comforting she may be saying right now that isn't anger is only because she feels sorry for how pathetic you are to have done this.  That doesn't translate to wants to be your girlfriend in any way.  And she won't hang onto that for long.

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Just now, preraph said:

I think you should delete her photos and tell her and then never contact her again.  Look, she is not going to accept you after this.  The longer she has to think about it, the madder she is going to be.  But you should not regret you went over there finally.  It was eating you alive and her too.  It had to end.  At this point, once she gets over the shock, she will start dating other guys, and even if she entrusts you again with confiding in you, you don't want to sit by and be her sounding board for her dating other guys.  

i asked her what she thought was worse yesterday knowing the truth like this, or me just making up a excuse and never meeting her and she said she doesnt know

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Well, neither one is GOOD.  You totally messed this woman around and lied to her!  But you are who should feel better having finally come clean -- well, you didn't come clean -- she found you out.  But it should be a burden off you to have it over and done with.

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A man with integrity doesn’t hide behind excuses. 

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10 minutes ago, preraph said:

I think you should delete her photos and tell her and then never contact her again.  Look, she is not going to accept you after this.  The longer she has to think about it, the madder she is going to be.  But you should not regret you went over there finally.  It was eating you alive and her too.  It had to end.  At this point, once she gets over the shock, she will start dating other guys, and even if she entrusts you again with confiding in you, you don't want to sit by and be her sounding board for her dating other guys.  

 

 

she complimented me on my teeth yesterday in person lol, she was like you have nice teeth

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14 minutes ago, preraph said:

Well, neither one is GOOD.  You totally messed this woman around and lied to her!  But you are who should feel better having finally come clean -- well, you didn't come clean -- she found you out.  But it should be a burden off you to have it over and done with.

Do you have any suggestions that are atleast positive of something i could say to her?

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How far apart do you two live, exactly?

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2 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

How far apart do you two live, exactly?

about a 10 minute drive or so

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26 minutes ago, thomas131313 said:

Do you have any suggestions that are atleast positive of something i could say to her?

No. You created this mess and in the end she is not going to stay with someone who did this to her who she is not attracted to. You're just putting off the inevitable.

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1 minute ago, preraph said:

No. You created this mess and in the end she is not going to stay with someone who did this to her who she is not attracted to. You're just putting off the inevitable.

it would be interesting to know if i was a good looking guy but not the guy in the pictures if she would stay with me even if i lied to her about this

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Still trying to make her the shallow one, are we?

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