Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 I dont know. Cheating, violence, proof that he really does lie to me Ok you would have no problem financially supporting him because be skip work constantly? you would have no problem giving him money for his cigarettes and alcohol? You'd have no problem driving him everywhere consuming your gas and your time? We already have proof he lies to you. 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 But it's OK that he does it to everyone else? I dont know that he does it to everyone else
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Ok you would have no problem financially supporting him because be skip work constantly? you would have no problem giving him money for his cigarettes and alcohol? You'd have no problem driving him everywhere consuming your gas and your time? We already have proof he lies to you. I dont give him money
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 I dont know that he does it to everyone else He lies to his boss IN FRONT OF YOU. He lies to her IN FRONT OF YOU.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 He lies to his boss IN FRONT OF YOU. He lies to her IN FRONT OF YOU. He hasnt lied to our boss. He has said to me hes going to go sick at the weekend but i dont know that he definitely will. He makes plans with her alot but cancels alot of them
basil67 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 So it's OK to intend to lie as long as he doesn't actually do it? Also, you heard him lie to his mother.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Well if he doesnt do it then theres no harm done. And he didnt technically lie to his mum. He said he had told his ex his phone wasnt working, which he had
basil67 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 You don't think that intention to lie reflects on his character?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Not if he doesnt actually intend to do it
basil67 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Why would he say it if he doesn't intend to do it? That's another lie in itself.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 (edited) Maybe he just said it to her. He didnt tell me he was going to only that he told her he was going to Edited October 29, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 (edited) I dont know why he lies to her. He just seems to feel the need to try and keep her happy for some reason Edited October 29, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed
basil67 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 As long as you know going into this that he's a liar. If he's not lying to you now, it's only a matter of time before he does. Assuming you're OK with this, carry on as you are. 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Im not ok with that thats why im on here because i cantvfigure out the extent of his lies. I want to give things a chance to play out and see if things settle down but i dont know how deep his involvement with her goes. And im afraid this miscarriage news might pull him back her way
basil67 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Just how many red flags do you need to walk away from him? All of the posters here would have shunned him from their lives long ago. Sure, he may be a good time guy, but he doesn't have what it takes to be a long term guy. 1
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 He lies to her because he has something to gain from it. Just like telling you he loves you after 2 weeks he had something to gain from it. I don't know anyone that wouldn't run away as fast as they can when told *I love you* after 2 weeks. Only you seem to think it's normal. I think you are naive, lonely, with no positive examples around you of how good relationships should be. 2
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 I dont give up on people easily. Just about all of the issues revolve around his ex so maybe in time things will settle
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 He lies to her because he has something to gain from it. What does he have to gain from it?
basil67 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 What does he have to gain? He can avoid responsibility and gets a chance to be in her bed and your bed too.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 If he wanted to avoid responsibility he could do that without lying to her, he could do it by not talking to her. And he cant be having sex with her because he doesnt see her. Only every few weeks and only in public places
Legatus Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Sometimes I have a feeling like you think you know him better than him, his ex, and his children combined. You keep saying you want to see how things play out. Things to not play by themselves. People play. He is a very good player but believe me, this is a game you can't win... 1
The Outlaw Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 When children are involved, and it isn't always the case, there's always going to be a history between the two no matter what, so yes, they can still be friends despite the fact that it didn't work out. Some bonds just can't be broken, but personally, I wouldn't want to EVER be friends with my ex. It just isn't possible.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Sometimes I have a feeling like you think you know him better than him, his ex, and his children combined. You keep saying you want to see how things play out. Things to not play by themselves. People play. He is a very good player but believe me, this is a game you can't win... I know i dont know him as well as she does. But in time i could
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 If he wanted to avoid responsibility he could do that without lying to her, he could do it by not talking to her. And he cant be having sex with her because he doesnt see her. Only every few weeks and only in public places You think he only sees her in public because that is what he tells you. That is what he wants you to believe. that is what you need to believe to hang on to him, to keep supporting him & to keep sleeping with him. There are private times. If you acknowledge that you have to acknowledge that he's been using you & taking you for a fool. He lies to her so he can continue sleeping with her & keep the door open for reconciliation. These 2 have history. He is the father of her kids. She's willing to flush her life down the toilet because they share children. Don't be like her. Do you think that he lies to her & lies to your boss / employer but tells only you the truth? You already know he's a liar. So you have to conclude that most of what he tells you is also a lie. 1
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