Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Lucyjane you don't sound like someone laughing often in that relationship. This relationship doesn't sound fun at all from where I am sitting. It looks full of doubts and anxiety. You even chose to visit LS when he's sitting there next to you. It cannot possibly be a fulfilling and rewarding relationship. 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 We have alot of fun together
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Tell us about that fun, how does he make you happy? so far we've only had a very negative portrait of him.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 (edited) We go out to places now. Have a laugh with his mates. Hes funny and affectionate. This weekend we went out on saturday night with some of his mates and then stayed in a hotel. Then sunday we drove to his mates. He hasnt seen them since the moved away a couple of months ago so it was nice for him to see them and introduce me to them. Then we went out again yesterday. And i was with him this morning before i went to work, hes off today so ill go and see him again when i finish Edited October 29, 2019 by Lucyjane86
dramallama Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 (edited) I've mentioned to you before that a good travelling partner does not a relationship make. *How* does he make you feel good? *How* does he make you laugh? The guy I'm seeing delighted me with a magic trick once, makes me laugh when I beat him at cards, bla bla. We talk about really big subjects, 'what it is to be a man in the current day', or politics, all sorts. We both play instruments, so we've jammed together. Etc etc etc. .... you know, that kind of thing? Where is the magic in this relationship for you? Edited October 29, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote removed
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 We go out to places now. Have a laugh with his mates. Hes funny and affectionate. This weekend we went out on saturday night with some of his mates and then stayed in a hotel. Then sunday we drove to his mates. Who paid for the hotel? He's not supporting his kids. Where does he have the money to go out & pay for a hotel? Since he doesn't drive you used your gas & racked up miles on your car. Gee sounds like a ball. 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 We dont really share the same interests. He makes me laugh by singing along to the radio in the car, playing the joker at work, always dancing around. Things like that
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Who paid for the hotel? He's not supporting his kids. Where does he have the money to go out & pay for a hotel? Since he doesn't drive you used your gas & racked up miles on your car. Gee sounds like a ball. He paid for the hotel, it was only a cheap chain hotel in town. Just a 5 minute drive from his place and his mates only moved about 10 miles away, if that
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 What do you hope for this relationship with him?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 I dont know. Like ive said its still early days. But i do really like him and he says he loves me
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 He paid for the hotel, it was only a cheap chain hotel in town. Just a 5 minute drive from his place and his mates only moved about 10 miles away, if that Even the cheapest hotels are probably $39.95 per night plus tax. Most are probably closer to $69.95. That is an awful lot of diapers & baby formula. 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Its not upto me what he spends his money on. He offered. And i dont think she asks him for money
dramallama Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 I think we've said it all before really. We dont really share the same interests. And you said you wanted someone open, honest, with career goals, who can talk about anything.... ...you do already know that he's not open, he's not honest, he's not career driven (he's 25, at that age I had a sports car & a deposit for a house etc), he can't talk to you about his problems. He's not a total dreamboat, he's a flaky father, he's got some entanglement with his ex that bothers you. All he's got going for him is that's he's funny and you get convenient access to sex, from what I can see? And even then YOU have to drive! What do you hope for this relationship with him? Have you considered, that if you looked, you might find someone who is affectionate, funny, *and* open, honest, career driven, communicative and sexy? Are you lonely, Lucy? Do you have low self-esteem? You do deserve the kind of guy you want, you know. You can do better than this guy.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 No im not lonely and im quite a confident person
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 You being a confident woman is something I do NOT believe. Confident women don't hang out, or hang on to losers. Confident women know what they want in a man and do not settle for so little as you're doing. Confident women expect honesty, transparency, integrity, respect from a man. A confident woman would never accept her bf doesn't live up to his responsibilities. A confident woman do not associate with laziness, lies, mediocrity. 3
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Its not upto me what he spends his money on. He offered. And i dont think she asks him for money I understand that but how can you have any respect for him? 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Im not settling. Im just giving it time to see how it plays out
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 What would it take for you to break up with him?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 I understand that but how can you have any respect for him? Because like everyone keeps saying, i dont know the full story
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 I dont know. Cheating, violence, proof that he really does lie to me
basil67 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Because like everyone keeps saying, i dont know the full story But you do know that he doesn't support his kids.
dramallama Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 I dont know. Cheating, violence, proof that he really does lie to me So what you're really saying, is any boyfriend is better than no boyfriend, and you've snagged this one now, so that's that.
basil67 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 So it's OK that he lies to his mother and mother of his children, as long as he doesn't lie to you? Does it not occur to you that if he lies to others, he WILL lie to you. A liar is a liar. Otherwise only violence or cheating would see you leave him? Very low bar you're setting there. I'm inclined to agree that you're desperate. Apparently being honorable isn't something you want as part of the package from a man. 1
basil67 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 I do care. But he hasnt shown any of that side towards me But it's OK that he does it to everyone else?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Im not desperate. I havent had a boyfriend in over 4 years no but that was my choice because i was focussing on my studies
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