Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 So they are still dating . . . Its to take the children. And then they are having a movie night but he has told her that they cant stay because he has work early the next morning
elaine567 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 He said her mum wasnt dying she just has blood clots Blood clots are a serious condition and can easily be fatal. 1
clia Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 This is crazy. Why are you latching yourself onto this broke scumbag who has all this baggage and drama in his life? 2
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Its to take the children. And then they are having a movie night but he has told her that they cant stay because he has work early the next morning No. . . . If it was about the children he'd go to the bonfire with you & the children. You would be invited to movie night with them. Or he'd go with just him & his kids, not her if it's too early to include you. Him going with her is a DATE. You can deny that all you want, doesn't make it any less true. You still haven't explained why you are fighting so hard to keep this man. There is nothing about him worth the effort you are putting forth. 4
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 No. . . . If it was about the children he'd go to the bonfire with you & the children. You would be invited to movie night with them. Or he'd go with just him & his kids, not her if it's too early to include you. Him going with her is a DATE. You can deny that all you want, doesn't make it any less true. You still haven't explained why you are fighting so hard to keep this man. There is nothing about him worth the effort you are putting forth. Im working that night. Hes supposed to be too but hes saying hes going to call in sick so it still might not even happen. And how is it a date if its with her but if id have said we were going together id get told it wasnt a proper date?
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Its to take the children. And then they are having a movie night but he has told her that they cant stay because he has work early the next morning Taking a 1 yo and a 2 yo to a bonfire and a movie night and pretending it's for the children - is laughable. YOU know babies don't watch movies, and we have explained to you a bonfire isn't for babies at all ! So, that being said, if those 2 activities are not for the babies, who are they for? ...Yes, it's for him and her to get together. . 5
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 . Hes supposed to be too but hes saying hes going to call in sick And how is it a date if its with her but if id have said we were going together id get told it wasnt a proper date? It'd be a date with you if you went. But look again. This broke underemployed man is LYING again & being irresponsible. He is not fulfilling his obligation to his employer. His kids would be better served by him working & paying for their necessities then going to a bonfire & watching a movie.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Im still questioning this miscarriage. Why has it only just been mentioned now? Why did he take her word for it straight away yet he questioned her taking the child to the hospital?
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Why don't you question his lack of moral and decency? Why don't you question his laziness toward work? Why don't you question his integrity as a father? Why don't you question his habit of lying to her, you, his employer? . 3
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Why don't you question his lack of moral and decency? Why don't you question his laziness toward work? Why don't you question his integrity as a father? Why don't you question his habit of lying to her, you, his employer? . His employer is also my employer. He said he didnt believe the child was in the hospital. Yes i know he clearly lies but it only seems to be minor lies or to her. The one i dont like is him lying about when hes with me to her
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 They aren't minor lies & they aren't only to her. You admit he lies to you about her. You also said he was planning to lie to your mutual employer. He was going to tell the boss he was sick so he could go on a date with his baby mama. Once somebody is proven to be a liar, you have to assume they are lying about everything. 3
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 So it doesn't bother you that he lies to his employer, that he's unreliable as an employee, that he brings in a fraction of a paycheck because of his absences? It doesn't bother you that he is unreliable with his children, that he spends his money on alcohol, cigarettes and hotels room instead of helping with diapers? And by the way, you are delusional if you think he's only feeding you 'small lies'. People capable of lying on regular basis have no scruples telling big lies as well. And telling you it was over with her while it was not is a BIG lie. 2
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 And telling you it was over with her while it was not is a BIG lie. That could just be her version of events. She wasnt around and would have no idea when we started having sex. He told her he was seeing someone but he never said since when and when she called him a cheat he said he wasnt.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 So it doesn't bother you that he lies to his employer, that he's unreliable as an employee, that he brings in a fraction of a paycheck because of his absences? It doesn't bother you that he is unreliable with his children, that he spends his money on alcohol, cigarettes and hotels room instead of helping with diapers? Its not upto me what he spends his money on and the children are none of my business
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 You are the OW - that’s the bottom line. You’re going to continue being his OW aren’t you? It is YOUR choice... because YOU COULD end this now! How can i be the OW when they arent together? Surely if anything she would be the other woman?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 She isn’t the secret - you are. He takes her OUT. His family knows her. You are his OW. But its me he takes on nights out with his mates and things like that. Me that sees him just about every day. He only sees her every couple of weeks
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Im not justifying anything. Im confused at how i can be called the OW when they arent together, he only sees her once every few weeks and he takes me to see his matea and things like that?
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Its not upto me what he spends his money on and the children are none of my business Let me rephrase this. You don't care your boyfriend is unreliable, has no integrity, has no morals, and is a parasite feeding off of others? 2
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Let me rephrase this. You don't care your boyfriend is unreliable, has no integrity, has no morals, and is a parasite feeding off of others? I do care. But he hasnt shown any of that side towards me
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 I beg to differ. Keeping you a secret to his ex and family IS lacking integrity, moral, respect and honesty toward YOU.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 (edited) I beg to differ. Keeping you a secret to his ex and family IS lacking integrity, moral, respect and honesty toward YOU. Maybe he just feels it would be easier for now because his family thinks he should still be with her. And hes not keeping me a secret from his ex. Hes told her hes seeing someone and isnt interested in getting back together with her Edited October 29, 2019 by Lucyjane86
Legatus Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 What his family thinks wouldn't be such a concern if he really prioritised you over everything else. But I guess you'll find a justification for that too 2
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 What his family thinks wouldn't be such a concern if he really prioritised you over everything else. But I guess you'll find a justification for that too Everyone keeps telling me he shouldnt prioritise me over everything else?
clia Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Maybe he just feels it would be easier for now because his family thinks he should still be with her. And hes not keeping me a secret from his ex. Hes told her hes seeing someone and isnt interested in getting back together with her You know what, he should still be with her. He has two young children who it sounds like he has effectively abandoned. How often does he see those children? Is he tucking them in at night, getting them dressed in the morning, giving them baths, feeding them lunch and dinner, taking care of them so his ex can get a break? What exactly is he doing in his role as a father right now? 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 He sees them when he sees her
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