Minneloa Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 Why do you want this man if he neglected his sick child in the hospital? That’s what I am asking.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 28, 2019 Author Posted October 28, 2019 But i dont know for sure that he did. He could have been right
fishlips Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 So what will you do if it turns out his kid really was in the hospital? I think most of the parents here would agree that they would go into panic mode if there was even a small possibility that their kid was in danger. The fact that he didn't seem to care speaks volumes about his character.
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 28, 2019 Author Posted October 28, 2019 I dont know what to believe. Hes adamant she was lying. But he never questioned her, her family or the hospital. And she had spoken to his mum because she couldnt get hold of him
fishlips Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 She could have been lying, but it's easy enough to call the hospital. Why didn't he do that?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 28, 2019 Author Posted October 28, 2019 (edited) I dont know. I guess he was that sure? I dont know whether i believe that or not. Why would she tell his mum? Why would she lie to get him to talk when theyve been talking every day? And her friend messaged us both this morning about it too On the other hand, he knows her and i dont Edited October 28, 2019 by Lucyjane86
Gaeta Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 What happened to the child? What surgery she needs? When will she get the surgery? Is the child still at hospital?
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 28, 2019 Author Posted October 28, 2019 What happened to the child? What surgery she needs? When will she get the surgery? Is the child still at hospital? I dont know. I dont think they needed surgery. She was telling him all weekend they were there but stopped telling him what was happening last night because he wasnt replying. She hasnt text him since this morning but his mum rang this afternoon and told him they were home now
Gaeta Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 When we *love* someone we should be concerned for his children. These girls are part of him therefore you need to extend your love to them as well. Since the beginning of your story l feel from you ZERO concern, care, empathy, toward those innocent babies. If my bf got a text his child was at the hospital and in wait of a surgery l would do everything to bring him there and if we got there and it's not true then we go back home! Happy no one is hurt!!! And dealing with the ex @ss later. 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 28, 2019 Author Posted October 28, 2019 Ive never even seen the children 1
dramallama Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 Ive never even seen the children That's not the point. Those children are an extension of him. They come as a package. Forever. The guy I'm seeing asks about my daughter most days, I ask about his daughter when I know he's going to be seeing her/ seen her etc. This is because we both know that whilst we may not have met each other's children yet, we come part and parcel and if we're going to get serious, they'll be involved at some point. Also - how someone talks about their children, what they do together - it says so much about them. You should be really caring about this situation and how it paints him. 2
mortensorchid Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 I don't know about this, the man has no boundaries and he seems like he likes being somewhat of a player. I'd be cautious. However, to answer your question, in general the answer is no. There is an old saying that surely you have heard before "Can't be lovers, can't be friends". And, it's true. I am not friends with any of my former bfs save for one - we've been broken up for 20 years and we are still good friends who I see quite often. He's on his 3rd marriage now (his 2nd since I have known him - the woman he left me for left him after 10 years together and she's remarried as well. To another woman.) And I talk to one former bf through Facebook once a year, just because he was special in his own way.
Versacehottie Posted October 28, 2019 Posted October 28, 2019 You two seem like you deserve each other (meaning both of bad character from some of the things you've said here or that you don't make a good partner for a dad which he 100% is). Or you are going to have to learn the hard way when you get blindsided by him who is showing you exactly who he is and what is going on right now--you are just choosing to ignore it . Your hardheadedness about this whole situation is going to be your downfall with him and future guys. Sometimes all the questions and great answers you are getting here will never be enough and you will just have to learn through a heartbreaking experience. Just remember we tried to tell you. 3
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 Yep �������������������� Any person’s actions show exactly who they are. His actions? Completely inadequate and shady. Sounds like he does drugs to me. He doesnt do drugs.
basil67 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 "He doesn't do drugs" That was your takeaway from S2B's comment? 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 No but everyone keeps saying hes shady there was no point answering to that
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 (edited) Her friend has messaged me again this morning it says..... Any woman worth her weight would have sent him straight to the hospital when his little girl was facing an operation! But then again any woman worth her weight wouldn't have been f**king an engaged man in the first place! You need to get your moral compass in check and quit trying to play at being an adult! You are both disgusting individuals! His mask will soon slip. And remember, if they cheat with you, they will cheat on you just as easy! You were nothing but a warm body when she wasn't around! When she was dealing with a miscarriage whilst facing the possibility of losing her mother. You were there, easy and convenient. The second you can't be around or you need him to be there for you he'll start looking elsewhere! He's probably already looking. So all i can say is good luck! No one has ever said anything about a miscarriage though or even about her being pregnant Edited October 29, 2019 by Lucyjane86
elaine567 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Are you really surprised he never mentioned the miscarriage? That would have made him look like a rotter.. whilst his fiancé was grieving her dead baby, he was busy trying to get into your pants... 2
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 But its not just him. No one has said anything about her even having been pregnant. Just that he was trying to convince her to have another baby. And is it not abit out of order for her friend to be messaging me all that?
Gaeta Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 No it's not out of order under the current circumstances. When you cheat with an engaged man, father of 2 babies, you have to expect some people will lash at you. 2
elaine567 Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 Gaeta is correct. You thought you were cosy and warm with this guy and you just needed to rid yourself of the "annoyance" of his ex and his kids. This is real love you share, and "the world" would think it great. True love conquers all. The princess has found her prince... the evil ex is banished from the kingdom forever... However, "the world" sees it very differently as you are now finding out. 2
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 That message you received from her friend is further evidence that your BF is of low moral character & irresponsible. He won't be there for you when the chips are down. Even assuming he's well & truly done with his baby mamma if he left after a miscarriage, while her mother was dying, didn't go to the hospital while his child was being treated, doesn't support the kids, is underemployed & broke, seriously WHY do you want him? The idea that he makes you laugh as a basis for a relationship with this worthless man is laughable. 1
Author Lucyjane86 Posted October 29, 2019 Author Posted October 29, 2019 (edited) He said her mum wasnt dying she just has blood clots and that he didnt know about a miscarriage. He said he didnt even know she was pregnant. Theyve been talking this morning because he questioned her about the miscarriage and he has told her how sorry he is that she felt she couldnt tell him. She said she wanted to tell him in person but then they split and she thought he would accuse her of lying to try and keep him from leaving her. And now they are back to planning things for the bonfire night again. Edited October 29, 2019 by Lucyjane86
d0nnivain Posted October 29, 2019 Posted October 29, 2019 And now they are back to planning things for the bonfire night again. So they are still dating . . . 3
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