enchanted771 Posted September 5, 2019 Posted September 5, 2019 I don’t think I am sending the right message with this guy..he used to call a lot, initiate texts, etc...once I started calling and texting him more (he initiated it more than half the time before) I noticed he has stopped calling as much, not as responsive, and doesn’t keep his word all the time when he says he will call me back. Then I make the mistake of calling him back..i also noticed I don’t really hear from him in the evenings anymore..I don’t know if I should pull back, or move on because as they say there is plenty of fish in the sea..
d0nnivain Posted September 5, 2019 Posted September 5, 2019 It's a choice. If you otherwise enjoy his company & don't mind initiating contact, as long as he seems happy when you reach out & you are not being a pest, just be the one who initiates. If you want to play cat & mouse then whine that men are supposed to chase & as a woman you should be free to sit on your hands while he proves himself worthy, well, then you can do that but don't be shocked when he disappears. You pulling back won't make him chase. It will make him think you are ghosting. If you really worry that he's slacking off say something like: In the beginning you called me more then you do now. I know I am probably being silly but part of me fears you are losing interest. Would you please be wiling to call me at least once per week? You have to communicate your needs clearly. You can't expect a guy to read your mind. If you ask for something small but specific -- like one call per week -- put still don't get that then you can conclude you are not a priority for him & you can stop wasting your time
ExpatInItaly Posted September 5, 2019 Posted September 5, 2019 OP, is this the same guy from your previous threads?
basil67 Posted September 5, 2019 Posted September 5, 2019 Enchanted, you've got a history of being pushy and having abandonment issues. Has this been happening lately, or have you got it under control?
Maddie82 Posted September 5, 2019 Posted September 5, 2019 Judging by your other posts, it seems you have an issue with being very full on with guys. You are pushy and clingy which is really unattractive to a guy. This is why they back off because you are too much. 1
spiderowl Posted September 5, 2019 Posted September 5, 2019 Def pull back. If he is not showing much interest, why bother chasing him?
The Outlaw Posted September 6, 2019 Posted September 6, 2019 Pull back for awhile and see if he contacts you.
mortensorchid Posted September 7, 2019 Posted September 7, 2019 He sounds like he's ghosting on you. He's not that into you. Use whatever expression you like old or new this is ending soon. 1
smackie9 Posted September 7, 2019 Posted September 7, 2019 He sounds like he's ghosting on you. He's not that into you. Use whatever expression you like old or new this is ending soon. This^^^100% My experience the contact would intensify, not go backwards.
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