Author SmartDude Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 (edited) Because despite this being a forum for "troubled relationships", I already see a recent thread that answers your question: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/677511-thank-you-husband Right. So we know that things are changing in the world and the older generations favor marriages. From 1960-2016 the Marriage rate has dropped from %72 to %50. It is clear there are other forms of love besides committed monogamy and marriage. If anyone is showing us this it is Gen Z. They will be making the rules, not their parents. Edited June 8, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Els Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 (edited) Of course marriage isn't for everyone. Edited June 8, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Curiousroxy86 Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 (edited) Let me say what this phrase(post title) means to ME, or when it is applied through actions by a woman. It tells me that she has not separated sex from love yet. She can not tell the difference between passion and a connection that has a purpose. Or she does but she is limited. A woman like this is absolutely more susceptible to making foolish romantic decisions based on hormones. This is my observation. ....... So? Lol If your question is when women say this can I pretty much write her off? The answer is yes you should. The end. You believe sex should be seperate from love/relationship. Some women don’t have that same desire. Leave them alone and find women who can seperate the two. If she is a closet poly girl for the sake of social pressures I am sure she will secretly seek you out on the downlow if she is interested in getting some from you. When a woman puts up a boundary the decent thing to do is to respect that boundary and keep it moving if what you’re looking for doesn’t align Unless your just tempted to try to have sex with her anyway despite the fact that she clearly communicated a sex boundary that you really don’t even subscribe to just to see if she will break it like some men have already admitted here If your tempted to try to break her boundary well there you have it fellas this is one of many reasons women are so quick to scream metoo Women should be accountable for their own actions and can’t always claim innocent but that goes for you too men (whoever this applies to btw. Not saying all men) Edited June 8, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
BloodRedRose Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 No guy is hot enough to make me sleep with him without establishing an emotional connection, and I can assure you, some tried! Funny how I went from "you're so pretty and special, would you like to come home with me" to "you're uptight and I wasn't so into it anyways" after rejecting one of those dudes who thought they make any girl wet by just existing. My boyfriend was however one of the guys who preferred sex after already falling for each other a little. And so it was.
Author SmartDude Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 No guy is hot enough to make me sleep with him without establishing an emotional connection, and I can assure you, some tried! Funny how I went from "you're so pretty and special, would you like to come home with me" to "you're uptight and I wasn't so into it anyways" after rejecting one of those dudes who thought they make any girl wet by just existing. My boyfriend was however one of the guys who preferred sex after already falling for each other a little. And so it was. That is the only way I have been able to make casual encounters meaningful, by not ignoring emotions and peoples lives. It can get so much worse if you do it the other way. I have observed men the day after first time sex with someone new and it can get pretty bad. They put on this hot vibe and are ultra-dominant up front, doing all the right moves. Then they have sex and it is the next day. They have nothing to talk about and are faking it, and then wondering why they feel bad. I can certainly empathize with that.
mark clemson Posted June 9, 2019 Posted June 9, 2019 But some people genuinely just don't ENJOY casual sex. It's not about the intention, it's about the desire. No guy is hot enough to make me sleep with him without establishing an emotional connection, and I can assure you, some tried! This is an important point, as there are folks (including men) who simply don't enjoy sex that much without an emotional bond to go with it. I've heard (men like this) describe it as "just genital aerobics". So those folks are out there. I'm certainly not one of them myself, but they're out there. 1
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted June 9, 2019 Posted June 9, 2019 I've personally had loads of hook ups and ons and she could be like many women out there who is over it. No one wants the cow once she's given up the milk for free. She might think you're going to bail once she gives you sex early.
Els Posted June 9, 2019 Posted June 9, 2019 (edited) This is an important point, as there are folks (including men) who simply don't enjoy sex that much without an emotional bond to go with it. I've heard (men like this) describe it as "just genital aerobics". Nice term... For me it's not just the emotional bond (although that's part of it), but also the fact that a big part of sexual attraction for me is intellectual (takes time to develop), AND I value my orgasms hugely (not common for women to O during casual sex), AND the fact that the kind of trust that I need to really let go and delve into the kind of sex that I want, requires a long-term relationship. Basically, for someone like me, casual sex is a lot of risk and zero fun. Edited June 9, 2019 by Elswyth
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