Art_Critic Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 IMO, if a girl says that then you just don't make her panties wet enough.. but some other guy will... It's all about how much she is attracted to you ...
alphamale Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 IMO, if a girl says that then you just don't make her panties wet enough.. but some other guy will... It's all about how much she is attracted to you ... yep, thanks professor
Rayce Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 Has anyone said this to a person they are dating? I have used this statement. If you are the guy hearing it from me then that means I don't love you and I never will.... I'm telling you so you will leave me alone. I've never said it to a guy that I had sex with or wanted to have sex with. Usually guys who wont leave me alone want a reason when I tell them no so that's what I tell them.
mortensorchid Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 I think when women say that they are saying to men "I will only be with you if this is a serious relationship". Unfortunately I think we (as women) have misconceptions about it. When I was 18 and a virgin I thought this was the case. Now that I am 44 and seasoned, I have gone through the wringer with it all. At this moment in life, I understand that people are people and this is certainly not the case. Even if I as a woman secretly hope for this fact, I wouldn't share it with others. It would scare the man off.
Veronica73 Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 Waiting until you are in love to have sex increases the likelihood that you will already be emotionally attached by the time you discover sexual incompatibility. This increases the likelihood of infidelity, and divorce. And having sex before you are in love increases the likelihood that you will become emotionally attached before you discover all sorts of other kinds of incompatibility. 2
emeraldgreen Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 "I only have sex with people I am in love with" "I only fall in love with people who love my junk" 1
Author SmartDude Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 Ok great responses here, some people very attached to the cultural construct of monogamy and willing to defend it with emotion. This was expected. Many people have very strong feelings about this type of lifestyle and its supposed benefits. I have shared these beliefs in the past and still incorporate it into my life today. And of course anything could change in an instant at any moment. Do I ever confess about the sexual liberty and the personal growth I experienced with escorts? Probably not. Let me say what this phrase(post tittle) means to ME, or when it is applied through actions by a woman. It tells me that she has not separated sex from love yet. She can not tell the difference between passion and a connection that has a purpose. Or she does but she is limited. A woman like this is absolutely more susceptible to making foolish romantic decisions based on hormones. This is my observation. The amount of sex with non-committed partners is not so much an indicator. Resistance to sex outside of monogamous commitment based on ideas and adhesion to cultural norms does indicate something. For a person like me it is a red flag, but one that can be quickly dismissed if there are other highly desirable and rare qualities.
Veronica73 Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 Resistance to sex outside of a monogamous commitment may very well not have anything at all to do with adhesion to cultural norms. Especially if the person isn’t religious. In fact, I would say these days that it actually goes against cultural norms. 1
Amethyst68 Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 What your post means to me is that you haven't evolved enough to link sex and any type of emotion other than your own pleasure. Going by your previous posts you seem to see women as some kind of masturbatory tool. Can I ask when you do sleep with someone who is not an escort do you let them know they are putting their health at risk by having sex by someone who frequently uses prostitutes? For theIr sake I hope you have regular STI checks and practise safe sex. 3
Author SmartDude Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 What your post means to me is that you haven't evolved enough to link sex and any type of emotion other than your own pleasure. Going by your previous posts you seem to see women as some kind of masturbatory tool. Can I ask when you do sleep with someone who is not an escort do you let them know they are putting their health at risk by having sex by someone who frequently uses prostitutes? For theIr sake I hope you have regular STI checks and practise safe sex. Safe sex is the only thing that is practiced in the pay for play world. The STI's are all coming from people having casual sex in the general population. They are the ones who do not use protection. Sex workers INSIST on condoms, washing up after, and perfect hygiene. The real professionals that I deal with anyway. But this is not a discussion about paid sex..
Veronica73 Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 With many people, sex promotes a pair bonding experience. It’s kind of a biological thing that happens. Hormones are powerful! And just because someone is sensitive to that effect, doesn’t mean that they are adhering to cultural norms. It might just mean that they realize their propensities and weaknesses, and are behaving accordingly. 2
chillii Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 (edited) Ok great responses here, some people very attached to the cultural construct of monogamy and willing to defend it with emotion. This was expected. Many people have very strong feelings about this type of lifestyle and its supposed benefits. I have shared these beliefs in the past and still incorporate it into my life today. And of course anything could change in an instant at any moment. Do I ever confess about the sexual liberty and the personal growth I experienced with escorts? Probably not. Let me say what this phrase(post tittle) means to ME, or when it is applied through actions by a woman. It tells me that she has not separated sex from love yet. She can not tell the difference between passion and a connection that has a purpose. Or she does but she is limited. A woman like this is absolutely more susceptible to making foolish romantic decisions based on hormones. This is my observation. The amount of sex with non-committed partners is not so much an indicator. Resistance to sex outside of monogamous commitment based on ideas and adhesion to cultural norms does indicate something. For a person like me it is a red flag, but one that can be quickly dismissed if there are other highly desirable and rare qualities. Sorry man each to their own but that's to be expected too , completely missing the boat , seen this one come up here before same thing every time. lf what your saying was the case then a woman could not turn away dozens of guys for 3 yrs, 5, 6, until she meets what she hopes is the right one. Of course there's no guarantees, there isn't in anything else either though. And the rest of it, not even goin there too personal but man some of the things l could tell ya. Edited June 8, 2019 by chillii
Veronica73 Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 Also, some people want both passion and a connection with a purpose. Hence monogamy. It is possible. Probably not for you, but it is for some. 1
Flame Aura Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 Before my current girlfriend any woman I met was more than happy to have sex pretty soon after starting to get to know each other, and that's what I always expected. Wasn't until I met my current girlfriend, who made it clear we wouldn't be doing anything physical until we were official, that I had to change my way of thinking. She has a lot of self worth and didn't want to get with anyone and everyone, only someone special. Lucky me. 2
TooBad Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 I've had it said to me. Doesn't mean it has to take long before sex happens. And now that I think of it, it was said to me after we had sex too.
chillii Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 (edited) Ok great responses here, some people very attached to the cultural construct of monogamy and willing to defend it with emotion. This was expected. Many people have very strong feelings about this type of lifestyle and its supposed benefits. I have shared these beliefs in the past and still incorporate it into my life today. And of course anything could change in an instant at any moment....... None of it matters anyway, just because it's not your views, whether you understand or get the other 7billion cultures or ways, ideals in the world doesn't mean jack shyt or that they're all wrong and have problems and your the only one right. l saw l think it was you in another saying how mainstream or something most people were and uncreative, bit of a joke considering, pretty narrow mind man. live and let live, do your thing, that's yours. Edited June 8, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Els Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 I don’t know. When people are attracted they do let go of their boundaries. A lot of women who have sex before they want to probably really intended to wait and would rather be with a guy that they are in love with or in a relationship with but got caught up in their emotions, the chemistry, the attraction, the lust...it happens It depends on their reasons. Some people "intend" to wait because it's an external rule that they make for themselves, perhaps because they fear being judged. But some people genuinely just don't ENJOY casual sex. It's not about the intention, it's about the desire. I can't lust for a man whom I don't know - my clit feels nothing towards him, he might as well be a woman or a pillow. And I don't know a man if I've only spoken to him for an hour. It's just how I am. If I'd known him prior to dating him (maybe as friends), then perhaps, but a complete stranger has zero chance. There's nothing wrong with being the opposite, of course. It's just about compatibility. In the case of the poster I quoted, what are the odds that he really was the 1 in 100 for all those women? I'd say he got played, and fell for it. 2
Els Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 None of it matters anyway, just because it's not your views, whether you understand or get the other 7billion cultures or ways, ideals in the world doesn't mean jack shyt or that they're all wrong and have problems and your the only one right. l saw l think it was you in another saying how mainstream or something most people were and uncreative, bit of a joke considering, pretty narrow mind man. live and let live, do your thing, that's yours. Pretty much. I've never known anyone who was secure in themselves to create a thread like that bashing everyone who was different from them... 1
snowcones Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 I'm more like: I only have sex with a man I see potential to fall in love with (and vice versa). If the potential is not even there, then I have no desire for him. I don't enjoy empty sex. I guess I'm a prude. Oh well. 1
Redhead14 Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 "I only have sex with people I am in love with" (or similar statement) said every thread starter whose thread includes "I never do this" or "I don't know why I did this" or "I was really drunk" or . . .
alphamale Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 I'm more like: I only have sex with a man I see potential to fall in love with (and vice versa). If the potential is not even there, then I have no desire for him. I don't enjoy empty sex. I guess I'm a prude. Oh well. awww, you're not a prude snowcones 1
Author SmartDude Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 Does anyone really know what "being in love" is? It is funny because when anyone mentions "love" in the context of relationships, it can be anything but that. I see mostly economic partnerships for raising children, and people who gave up on discovering life, settling. No one gets to tell me about love and what that is.
Kitty Tantrum Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 One point to consider is that a woman who regularly puts herself in a position where she needs to reiterate this rule, is putting herself in a position break it. I think this is where men get the impression that it's just a line rather than a true or valid conviction. I've honestly never had sex without being in love (though some of the people I've had sex with were accessories rather than objects of my affections), but I've also never put myself in any position to have to tell a guy I wouldn't have sex with him if I wasn't in love with him. I stay far away from the venues where people go looking for casual sex. If you really don't want to go skydiving, you don't get in the plane and put the parachute on.
snowcones Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 awww, you're not a prude snowcones Thanks! No one gets to tell me about love and what that is. Right back at ya, buddy. 1
Els Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 (edited) Does anyone really know what "being in love" is? It is funny because when anyone mentions "love" in the context of relationships, it can be anything but that. I see mostly economic partnerships for raising children, and people who gave up on discovering life, settling.No one gets to tell me about love and what that is. Are you even interested in learning? Because despite this being a forum for "troubled relationships", I already see a recent thread that answers your question: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/677511-thank-you-husband Edited June 8, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
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