BeeT Posted May 11, 2019 Posted May 11, 2019 (edited) So in January I had a night with a guy that turned out to be really good. Unfortunately he lives elsewhere most of the time so I didn't think much of it, but he said he'd get back in touch for round 2 when he was back in town. Last week he messaged me out the blue and said he was back. The sex was great last time, so I saw him again (actually he came straight to mine from the airport) and then he left and I went about the rest of my weekend. A few days later I messaged him suggesting round 2 whilst he was still in town but he said he was too tired, so I simply said to have a good trip back and that it was a shame we wouldn't be able to say goodbye (just light heartedly flirting) but didn't think much of it since it was just a hookup thing- or so I'd assumed. He then invited me out to dinner with him, which I was very surprised by but I went. We had good conversation and t my surprise he paid for my dinner. We then went back to mine and had quite nice sex- the entire night there were hints of something more in things he said and the way we acted towards each other. We do have a lot more in common than I initially thought (he's 29, I'm 20 BTW) and it was a nice night. He texted me a few days later to say it was nice and I agreed and simply said until next time. Next month I'm travelling/backpacking and he said he'd come visit me since one of the places I'm going is near where he lives. I feel certain we'll see each other again given that we were friendly and spent 3 seperate occasions together at this point. I'm a bit confused a few days later about what this all means however. I do like him as a person, but I haven't tried to keep in touch since I kinda know there isn't much point when we both live in separate cities. However my friends seem to think he maybe liked me given the surprise offer of dinner and ~romantic~ vibes. What do you guys think? And what do you advise? Thanks. Edit: previous thread on the same guy haha https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/673841-post-hook-up Edited May 11, 2019 by BeeT
ExpatInItaly Posted May 11, 2019 Posted May 11, 2019 I'm not sure I would read into the dinner date just yet, OP. I too went out for dinner with a couple guys I was very casual with in my single days, and they often also picked up the tab. I took it as some good food shared with pleasant company, and them footing the bill was merely an act of chivalry. I didn't think more of it if their behaviour otherwise suggested they were casual about me, too. But I am curious about the romantic "vibes" you say you picked up. Can you elaborate? What did he do or so to make you wonder if there is more to it? 1
Ruby Slippers Posted May 11, 2019 Posted May 11, 2019 No offense, but it seems to me you're chasing this guy, and he'll take all the hookups you wanna give. Paying for dinner doesn't mean anything. Any half decent guy does that, even if it's just fun. 1
kendahke Posted May 11, 2019 Posted May 11, 2019 It really means nothing more than he enjoys your company when he's around and when he's not, you kind of fade until he finds out he or you will be close by. I'd take this for what it is: a pleasant distraction when it surfaces. If he wanted it to be more, he knows how to ask for that. He hasn't, so keep your expectations on a very tight leash and start looking at/dating guys who live in your country/live near by.
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