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I appreciate the clarification. The point of my post remains . . . slow down in the beginning. Too much togetherness leads to burn out early on You can't treat a new person in your life with the same intensity & emotional intimacy that you share with a long time friend.

 

My analogy will be imperfect but think of a new SO like a rookie officer. they are all gun ho & hopped up on adrenaline but in a high pressure life threatening situation you still want a more seasoned & calmer partner backing you up. You need to give a new relationship time to mellow & blend rather that going full steam ahead

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Sometimes if you respect yourself, you'll be painted as the bad guy but you're not.

 

Thanks for the feedback. I really appreciate how you gave a complete third party view, something that someone wound up in the situation wouldn’t notice. I kind of like the chase not gonna lie, so she got me a little excited, till I realized she wasn’t all that fantastic.. just smoking hot. Your response gave me something of an epiphany. anyways, keep on posting, you’re awesome.

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Next time go for more than just looks, maybe.

 

Touché! That I will

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One other side piece of advice?

 

Don't add people on social media that you are just starting to date.

 

It opens up TOO much information too quickly.

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2nd date you should have kissed her.

 

Don't do good morning texts. She took 5 hours to respond to one and you still sent one the next day. Not good.

 

In the first month, it's okay to skip a day of communication. Plus, when you start those good mornings there is no turning back. When you miss one it indicates something is wrong, when it may not actually be. I struggled with that one a few months ago and opted out on starting those. I'm glad I did.

 

Just my take on it, I'm good at the dating game but suck at actual emotions so take that for what it's worth. Lol

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2nd date you should have kissed her.

 

Don't do good morning texts. She took 5 hours to respond to one and you still sent one the next day. Not good.

 

In the first month, it's okay to skip a day of communication. Plus, when you start those good mornings there is no turning back. When you miss one it indicates something is wrong, when it may not actually be. I struggled with that one a few months ago and opted out on starting those. I'm glad I did.

 

Just my take on it, I'm good at the dating game but suck at actual emotions so take that for what it's worth. Lol

 

 

Thanks. But like I said, I left a lot out, it was actually her that initiated good morning texts when we first started talking. And I did want to kiss her, but something about her body language made me opt out. She’s very closed off/ was on her phone before getting out of my car. I Just feel it when I know it’s time to kiss a girl, and that time it didn’t feel right. When she texted me “I really wanted to kiss you”..I replied “kiss me then ?”...she goes “I wanted to”. I then told her she’s harder for me to read than most girls.

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