Author Fairyface55 Posted November 3, 2018 Author Posted November 3, 2018 Its all been a bit suspicious but a major eye opener for me. He totally led me on but I was letting myself follow! I have learned about boundaries and ascertion and what I want. All I really want is a date once a week or every other week - nothing more but nothing less! X
stillafool Posted November 3, 2018 Posted November 3, 2018 Block him from contacting you so if he tries to set up a date again he will get your cancellation.
Redhead14 Posted November 4, 2018 Posted November 4, 2018 It's time to have a conversation about each of your dating goals. He hasn't used you for sex because there's been no sex. You're confused because of weak communication. Open and very casual conversation about what you're looking for - dating for the purpose of having a long-term relationship with someone and find out what he wants -- overall. If he says he's only looking for a casual dating scenario, you're not on the same page to start with. Even if he says he's looking for long-term, you sit back a little and observe whether he dates you that way. Right now, it seems like he's more about a casual scenario. Neither of you knows what the other wants.
olivetree Posted November 4, 2018 Posted November 4, 2018 It's time to have a conversation about each of your dating goals. He hasn't used you for sex because there's been no sex. You're confused because of weak communication. Open and very casual conversation about what you're looking for - dating for the purpose of having a long-term relationship with someone and find out what he wants -- overall. If he says he's only looking for a casual dating scenario, you're not on the same page to start with. Even if he says he's looking for long-term, you sit back a little and observe whether he dates you that way. Right now, it seems like he's more about a casual scenario. Neither of you knows what the other wants. Did you read the whole thread? Even so, from just the opening post, I don't see a point in having a convo like that with someone who cancels on you three times. I wouldn't even be friends with someone who did that three times in a row. OP, glad you finally cut him loose and will so it sooner next time.
Author Fairyface55 Posted November 4, 2018 Author Posted November 4, 2018 Yes - I feel better and more in control already. I am reflecting back and seeing how shady it all is. Still no reply to that message - even more shady! WHO calls a girl the night before and organises a date for half past seven and then cancels ten minutes before with no reason except ‘problems’. I looked back as well and we were messaging for two months. I suspect he will try and contact me at some point. I have already arranged another date for Wednesday! Hopefully that may work out better; but learned not to put all my eggs in one basket. I LOVE this forum! 1
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