CautiouslyOptimistic Posted May 29, 2018 Posted May 29, 2018 Will being with him for a long time further erode my self worth and make me fearful to trust others in the future? What do you think? Do you think it will?
Author Riot21 Posted May 29, 2018 Author Posted May 29, 2018 What do you think? Do you think it will? I may be suspicious in the future and not believe it when someone says they like me and I would be afraid they’d have an ulterior motive
Author Riot21 Posted May 29, 2018 Author Posted May 29, 2018 OP, one day this guy will bounce out of your life for good. This isn't the man you'll be with forever. And where will you be? Your self-esteem and judgment will even more destroyed than it already is, and you will have nothing to show for it. What do you friends and family think about your insistence on staying with someone who so very clearly doesn't love you? He blocked her though. Finally
BaileyB Posted May 29, 2018 Posted May 29, 2018 If you stay with this guy, you will deserve all the pain and heartache you will get. The depths of your denial and poor judgment are epic. 1
BaileyB Posted May 29, 2018 Posted May 29, 2018 Will being with him for a long time further erode my self worth and make me fearful to trust others in the future? Does the sun rise every morning in the west? Does the spring follow the winter? Clearly, yes. With absolute certainty - this man damages everything that he touches. He is a liar, a cheater, he has no respect for people, property, or the law. What do you not understand? 2
ExpatInItaly Posted May 30, 2018 Posted May 30, 2018 Will being with him for a long time further erode my self worth and make me fearful to trust others in the future? Yes and you already know that.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 30, 2018 Posted May 30, 2018 He blocked her though. Finally So? That means nothing about his non-existent respect and feelings for you. He will unblock her again at some point.
snowboy91 Posted May 30, 2018 Posted May 30, 2018 Will being with him for a long time further erode my self worth and make me fearful to trust others in the future? As others have said so far... in a nutshell, yes. To sum up the facts, he has: a) cheated on you. Yes, early on when you were dating, but that doesn't matter - if you're dating someone and you agree to do so exclusively, you stick to it. b) he's broken into his ex's apartment. Seriously, who does that just to prove a point from a prior relationship? If it's over, it's over. If you guys hit a rough patch, I can't imagine the hurt that could result on your part. c) is flaky about the future of your relationship. It's incredibly difficult to build a trusting relationship with that amount of uncertainty. At best, he's not over his ex - and everything else is worse from there. Either way, try and preserve your sanity and run sooner rather than later. It's going to hurt like hell at first, but at least it will heal in time.
Author Riot21 Posted June 6, 2018 Author Posted June 6, 2018 As others have said so far... in a nutshell, yes. To sum up the facts, he has: a) cheated on you. Yes, early on when you were dating, but that doesn't matter - if you're dating someone and you agree to do so exclusively, you stick to it. b) he's broken into his ex's apartment. Seriously, who does that just to prove a point from a prior relationship? If it's over, it's over. If you guys hit a rough patch, I can't imagine the hurt that could result on your part. c) is flaky about the future of your relationship. It's incredibly difficult to build a trusting relationship with that amount of uncertainty. At best, he's not over his ex - and everything else is worse from there. Either way, try and preserve your sanity and run sooner rather than later. It's going to hurt like hell at first, but at least it will heal in time. He told her he loves me and tells her to **** off now and that if she calls him again he is calling the police.
Author Riot21 Posted June 9, 2018 Author Posted June 9, 2018 It took them forever to make it official. They initially talked **** about you to their ex but then you grew on them. They initially went in just giving it a shot and in the end if it didn’t workout at least they would still help you be a better person at the end of the day but now they love you and you grew on them. They also took a really long time to add you on Facebook and although they are active they don’t really post pics of you. They only made things really official with you after they found out their ex cheated on them three years prior to them finding out. Does this sound like a decent dude?
2much4 Posted June 9, 2018 Posted June 9, 2018 I don't think it's a good idea. It's really obvious you resent that guy. And he's probably not over the ex. There's no way to have a healthy relationship with him right now.
Author Riot21 Posted June 9, 2018 Author Posted June 9, 2018 I don't think it's a good idea. It's really obvious you resent that guy. And he's probably not over the ex. There's no way to have a healthy relationship with him right now. I mean he is over her now and loves me and spend time with me and I saw his family all the time last week and we love each other dearly but I just feel weird that he told all his ex that stuff at first Does he really love me?
basil67 Posted June 9, 2018 Posted June 9, 2018 I don't understand your description of the story. But based on your initial question...no, I would not wait a year. I'd be lucky to wait three weeks.
basil67 Posted June 9, 2018 Posted June 9, 2018 OK, I found history here https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/654763-does-text-sound-like-s-over-good-3.html You need to let this go. He's a foolish ex and not worth all this worrying.
Author Riot21 Posted June 9, 2018 Author Posted June 9, 2018 I don't understand your description of the story. But based on your initial question...no, I would not wait a year. I'd be lucky to wait three weeks. Do people grow on others like that then really love them when they **** talked them initially and demeaned them
Author Riot21 Posted June 9, 2018 Author Posted June 9, 2018 OK, I found history here https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/654763-does-text-sound-like-s-over-good-3.html You need to let this go. He's a foolish ex and not worth all this worrying. He is foolish?
BaileyB Posted June 9, 2018 Posted June 9, 2018 Do people grow on others like that then really love them when they **** talked them initially and demeaned them No. Ten characters.
BaileyB Posted June 9, 2018 Posted June 9, 2018 (edited) Are you still trying to figure out if you can trust your abusive ex boyfriend to change and commit to you? https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/654763-does-text-sound-like-s-over-good Edited June 9, 2018 by BaileyB
Malin889 Posted June 9, 2018 Posted June 9, 2018 But he finally blocked her and things are going well for us. Is it too weird for him to be hesitant about marrying me after six months of seriously dating and almost a year of casually dating? That is really not that long. This guy sounds like a jerk and full of drama. And anyone who would just “give you a shot” is not work it.
stillafool Posted June 9, 2018 Posted June 9, 2018 He told her he loves me and tells her to **** off now and that if she calls him again he is calling the police. To be honest those two are so caught up in the passion of fighting and making up but it's clear they both still want each other. Why is he still communicating with her? Why hasn't he blocked her and never speaking to her again if he wants you? Why do you want to marry a man who you know still has feelings for another girl?
smackie9 Posted June 9, 2018 Posted June 9, 2018 Didn't I say...no way would I ever date someone that talked s^&% about me? Ya I think I did.....my answer is still the same....hell no.
stillafool Posted June 9, 2018 Posted June 9, 2018 It took them forever to make it official. They initially talked **** about you to their ex but then you grew on them. They initially went in just giving it a shot and in the end if it didn’t workout at least they would still help you be a better person at the end of the day but now they love you and you grew on them. They also took a really long time to add you on Facebook and although they are active they don’t really post pics of you. They only made things really official with you after they found out their ex cheated on them three years prior to them finding out. Does this sound like a decent dude? No. This sounds like a guy who is bitter over his ex cheating and just got with some other girl to piss her off and to have someone he can use in the meantime.
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