JuneL Posted May 19, 2018 Share Posted May 19, 2018 I do think it’s quite insensitive of him to tell you explicitly that your friend is sexy. But I agree that you were acting all needy in the story that followed, especially the part about not showing up for dinner with his parents (you must have appeared pretty immature to them). I also feel bad about your new guy. Did you go out with him just so you could get your original guy jealous? Does this new guy bring out your insecurity too? Link to post Share on other sites
Author tulip1989 Posted May 19, 2018 Author Share Posted May 19, 2018 I just felt at the time like if I had gone to dinner with his mom and dad I would have felt like I was putting on an act that things were fine between us. I know that he spoke to his mom about it. He did say that it was 'up to me' anyway... Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 19, 2018 Share Posted May 19, 2018 It's over. Disconnect on all platforms -- in person & on social media. If you stop watching his social media accounts & prevent him from seeing yours you will find more peace. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tulip1989 Posted May 20, 2018 Author Share Posted May 20, 2018 I wouldn't say I'm with the new guy just to get back at him, and he doesn't bring out my insecurities so much because I knew him before so I was more sure of what he was like and I knew I could trust him. Also my ex texted me a few weeks after we broke up to ask for a phone number, and I found that really confusing? like why would he message me about it when he coulda googled it? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 20, 2018 Share Posted May 20, 2018 Because it's easier and to see if you hate him now to the point where he has to feel guilty Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted May 20, 2018 Share Posted May 20, 2018 Just wanted to add that it’s not very fair to the new guy when you’re still so worked up about every single action of your ex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beachead Posted May 20, 2018 Share Posted May 20, 2018 (edited) <snip> We carried on with the space thing, during which I blocked him on social media a couple times, but he didn't seem to notice. I also put up a few cryptic fb statuses about my ex to bait him but he obviously wasn't checking my facebook. I was doing a charity thing the next weekend and he texted me to say he donated some money and that hopefully he'd see me the following weekend. I didn't think we were gona leave it three weeks so it seemed like he didn't really care enough to see me. I was angry so I didn't reply to his texts arranging to meet up for a few days. He got really annoyed and texted me saying he was going to 'take a rain check' on meeting up because I was 'playing silly games'. This really annoyed me so I rang him and told him that I was going to break up with him anyway and he said he could tell, and that I was going about it in the wrong way. Again, he didn't seem bothered, but he said he was, just that he'd had time to consider that this would be the outcome. I started crying cos I felt really bad about breaking up with him. I said it wasn't him, it was me and I was really stressed out with work and not in the place I thought I was after my previous boyfriend. He didn't even try to persuade me to stay with him, and just accepted it! Even when I asked him what he would've said he just said it didn't matter! I noticed a few days later that he unfollowed me on IG and I felt really confused about it so I deleted him on Facebook. I sent him his birthday present in the post 2 weeks later and he texted me to thank me for it, and told me he was going travelling for 3 months! Why didn't he care enough to stick around and fight for me and try to get me back? Did he ever even care about me? Well, Overall, you two had terrible communication and fed off of eachother's negative reactions until the whole relationship ended. Threatening to breakup with your man in order to test his committment to you is manipulation. You will put him through a severely emotional rollercoaster over and over again until he burns out. He simply got to a point where he could no longer see a point in trying to fight for someone who was impossible to win over. Don't play games. If you want a good healthy relationship, address the real issues upfront and work on them together. You should spend some time and figure out what's making you insecure so that you can work on it and get better. That kind of behavior will be detrimental to every relationship you ever have (Familial, friendships, romantic pursuits, acquiantances etc.). Stay strong - Beach Edited May 21, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Truncate quote 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author tulip1989 Posted May 21, 2018 Author Share Posted May 21, 2018 You baited him once before by talking about your ex and he didn’t bite and now you intentionally posted about this new guy to hurt him. Those are jackass moves. Well afterwards he got all angry and called me a child, but he's the one throwing his toys out the pram and getting angry about it? I reckon he just needs to get over himself a bit. He messaged me about the phone number that he coulda googled which is just as confusing as me watching his IG stories if he wants to show that he doesn't care about me. Link to post Share on other sites
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