It doesn't matter how much you give, you still get screwed.

[FastHands]

Something in my world has happened similar. Guys gives her everything and she cheats and even when he finds out, she still cheating. Lol maybe the 15 yr old behavior was relived with her. Seems that marriage is no longer the promise. Is their such thing as the cheating type? How can some guys or women be blind to this?

[BuilderMark]

This is so horrible, I really feel for you Builder.

 

Someone else posted about turning cold as stone and I think that's where you need to be right now when she comes home. It's got to be all about the practical.

 

Really importantly though get yourself some legal advice.

Explain everything.

You have passed over photos - do you have access to copies of these and of any other evidence you might have left with them?

You have made an offer too but making an offer and her agreeing to it are two separate things and you can bet she will go straight for legal advice as soon as she can. Get ahead of the game and find out exactly where you stand legally.

 

If she did the books she will know your company and personal account details and will have access to them.

It's totally possible she might be fair but she also might not be.

You have interests to protect but there's other legalities linked with the business too I would imagine and also with your employees - of which she was also one.

 

Much as I suspect you feel better about having moved her things etc the concern I have is businesses are currently closed for the holidays - a part of me thinks that you might have been better to wait until after she returned so that you had time to approach a lawyer for a couple of consultations before moving her out and before letting her know that you know.

Though I can't say I wouldn't have felt like doing the same thing.

 

When is she due home?

 

ETA: Just a thought but do you have any friends or contacts who might have a contact number for a lawyer in employment or marital law who might give you some air time over this weekend? Even just for a few pointers?

 

I've dodged a bullet here.

 

To my astonishment she has accepted what I offered. There was no denial. She apologized. She offered to answer any questions.

 

According to her she was hoping to be caught because she just couldn't tell me. Wait for it.... because SHE IS PREGNANT !!!!! LOL, and she doesn't know to which one!!!

 

She is not coming back here. She is going to sell the rental and move away. She doesn't want lawyers involved which suits me just fine.

 

Well it's New Year. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

 

The business is officially closed, well it will be once the paperwork is processed. I 'sold' the jobs I had to another company and I will be just working for them as an employee for a while. She agreed to sell the equipment to the company I will be working for. The remainder of the company assets will be divided between her and I.

 

This was just too easy. I've probably ripped myself off. But it's done and without a fight. You know it's been so smooth I almost (almost!) feel like I could wish her well in the future.

 

Such a weight has been lifted. I thought I was going to be bogged down in legal crap for months or even years and then end up with nothing at the end. In fact I think I need to find me some celebratory sex,

[nospam99]

I've dodged a bullet here.

 

To my astonishment she has accepted what I offered. There was no denial. She apologized. She offered to answer any questions.

 

According to her she was hoping to be caught because she just couldn't tell me. Wait for it.... because SHE IS PREGNANT !!!!! LOL, and she doesn't know to which one!!!

 

She is not coming back here. She is going to sell the rental and move away. She doesn't want lawyers involved which suits me just fine.

 

Well it's New Year. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

 

The business is officially closed, well it will be once the paperwork is processed. I 'sold' the jobs I had to another company and I will be just working for them as an employee for a while. She agreed to sell the equipment to the company I will be working for. The remainder of the company assets will be divided between her and I.

 

This was just too easy. I've probably ripped myself off. But it's done and without a fight. You know it's been so smooth I almost (almost!) feel like I could wish her well in the future.

 

Such a weight has been lifted. I thought I was going to be bogged down in legal crap for months or even years and then end up with nothing at the end. In fact I think I need to find me some celebratory sex,

 

Sounds good BUT ... I don't know what state you live in. Here, in the New York Feminist Socialist Republic, what the wife SAYS about how the marriage will be dissolved means nothing. The only thing that matters is what the judge says after closed door meetings with the lawyers that the husband may not even be told were going to happen. Eight months after the papers were signed, I just was (IMO) 'ambushed' for another $10K direct transfer from my 401K to hers by a court order. So ... I hope it works out as well as you are now thinking it will. But be careful about the legal stuff.

[mikeylo]

I wouldn’t celebrate yet.

 

What if the child is yours ? DNA test is in order. If not , nothing to worry on that issue.

 

Even if the settlement gets signed, divorce papers are signed , there will be issues that will linger on for quite sometime. While one burden is off but you will see that drama will ensue especially when you start to date again.