Trust is gone.

[olivetree]

So today I finally cried. We haven’t talked since Tuesday and although it’s been hard and I’ve been through a rollercoaster of emotions, I kept going, but tonight it hit me when I looked at my calendar that our trip is in 2 weeks, that’s when I started to cry. I don’t know how I’ll feel when the day is here but we aren’t. He said he wasn’t going to go either when we last talked.

 

:’(

 

Sometimes the hardest part of breaking up is letting go of future plans - what could have been.

 

You're doing well.

Keep going

[OatsAndHall]

I guess I just kept telling myself well no one is perfect, I’m not perfect and all relationships will have issues to be worked through, that’s why I stayed that long maybe I was just delusional and hoping for him to finally say and do things I thought he will if I was just more patient.

 

I’m 30, and I feel like with age dating becomes even more challenging cause people figured out that they don’t want to waste months to years putting up with things they don’t think are good enough.

 

I feel like I’m chasing a unicorn.

 

You are correct, no one is perfect in a relationship and relationships do take time, effort and patience. However, the foundation of a good relationship is based on some pretty simple principles; honesty, mature communication, and respect for one's partner.

 

I have no issues calling off a relationship if I feel like any of the three principles I mentioned are in question. When an issue arises in a relationship, I ask myself if I would keep a friend around who did something that made me question their ability be transparent, communicate and respect me and my time. If the answer is "no", then I move on.

 

But, it has taken me becoming comfortable being alone, learning what I want from a relationship, and working through my own flaws in order to be comfortable dating. I approach dating in a far different manner now than I even did a year ago simply because I became more self-reflective.