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jackofmany

By jackofmany
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KikiCat New Member

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I know how angry you are now, but this too will pass. You could try writing her a letter expressing how you feel but then don't send it. Let it sit there. I think if you write out your feelings, express your anger and get it all out on a page it will help you deal with the anger. If you still want to send the letter after three months, then you can send it. But I think you'll just feel like throwing it in the garbage.

 

Try this and see if it works for you.

 

Wishing you the best of luck.

 

Regards

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Miss Spider Established Member

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She was never that into you. She's into her ex. You were duped. It sucks but the sooner you swallow and digest that bitter pill the sooner you let go. There was never any hope here. Ever. It doesn't matter to her. I wish you the best on your healing and I am sorry.

JimmyNYC Member

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JackofMany. Wow. Great story. Fascinating to read. Sorry to hear you are suffering and wounded by this girl and situation. I know you love her and she has feeling for you too. But man, my advice is have some self-respect and stay the f--k away from her. She is not a good person. No way do you do that to someone you supposedly "love". In love with you but seeing her ex at the same time? and who knows who else? That is NOT cool. She is using you. You have a function for her as a just-in-case-guy. Just in case the ex and her don't work out she doesn't want to be left feeling like you are now. So that is why she had this fling with you, backup plan.

 

For me first time I heard about this ex coming back and her not breaking it off immediately, I would have told her to get out and stay out. She should have told him immediately that she met a great guy and is happy and broke it off with him and told you about it.

 

Present behavior is indicative of future behavior. Even if she comes back to you and and you get back together and she swears she is done with him, she will be trouble. Maybe not in a month or even a year. But somewhere down the line, sooner or later, that woman will be seeing someone behind your back. I guarantee it. You dodged a bullet for sure. Imaging marrying this woman, having a few kids, and then finding out in your 40s she is with some other guy? It will happen. How do I know? Look what she has been doing now? Dating two guys! Telling them both she loves them. She is a little mental and needs this. It's a deep psychological thing, not just some fluke. Her ex probably doesn't make her feel complete. So she has a second guy to make her feel wanted and beautiful. whatever. She is always going to need that validation from multiple men. Also some of her raging at you behavior contrasted with her coming on so quickly and making you feel like a million dollars could be borderline personality disorder. She is bad news. Do not ever contact or get back together. If you do, you are in for more of this insanity, cheating, and fighting for her affection with other men for the rest of you life.

 

Stay strong and stay away my brother.

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