Author Dis Posted August 21, 2017 Author Posted August 21, 2017 Guys do not typically approach women in public.. does not happen often. Social media is too easy and rejection is too painful. I dont get hit on a lot on social media either I'm not on there much but the ones that do drop a line have always seem to have some serious issues or.... they inscribe initials on take out boxes 1
bachdude Posted August 21, 2017 Posted August 21, 2017 You make an incredibly important point bachdude I'm usually shy at first so when I see a guy looking, I usually look at him and then look away. I always have a very intense look on my face like I'm concentrating on something so thats not too inviting lol My gf told me the same thing you did, just to give the guy a green light by smiling a little and making eye contact. I think its so engrained in me to look away (I've been doing it for 31 years) so this will be an adjustment but a much needed one I think guys need that little hint or why would they want to say hi? I just need to come out of my shell a little bit So just smile and eye contact and that should work??? Seems oddly simple Yes,it should help OP. The looking away and down intensely is likely interpreted as "not interested". It's also in your eyes. You know you're doing it right when they have a bit of a surprised look on their face - the eye brows go up with a look of "Me, really?" Haha But try not to take it personally if a guy doesn't approach either. He may have a GF or may even still be too shy. Who knows. So yeah, give it a try. I'm pretty sure guys are going to need some encouragement. 3
bachdude Posted August 21, 2017 Posted August 21, 2017 Guys do not typically approach women in public.. does not happen often. Social media is too easy and rejection is too painful. The key is to make it obvious enough that he will not be rejected if he approaches. Some guys will just need the right look and smile while others may need even more encouragement. Heck, if a guy is looking, why not just smile and give a little signal for him to come over? Maybe a signal with the head. Maybe a little signal with the hand. Who says a woman can't do that? He still has to approach but she has made it super clear to him that he is welcome. 2
SammySammy Posted August 21, 2017 Posted August 21, 2017 Guys do not typically approach women in public.. does not happen often. Social media is too easy and rejection is too painful. Really? Guys who are successful at dating do. I approached a woman about an hour ago. I didn't want or expect anything to come from it other than leaving her with a smile on her face. I did that. I approach out of habit. All of the time. Don't even think about it. Just pleasant banter with a friendly face. Sometimes it leads to something. Sometimes it doesn't. Doesn't matter. Some guys do approach women and "rejection" is meaningless. Not a fear or a deterrent at all. 3
divegrl Posted August 21, 2017 Posted August 21, 2017 Hi my friend!!! We have had a pm about this, but yes..... a smile and eye contact is very important! And if he doesn't get the hint, walk up to him and say "hi!" You are beautiful, there's nothing to fear! This is my way of attracting/meeting guys, and I get much better results then my friends who use internet/social media! Good luck!!!! 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 21, 2017 Posted August 21, 2017 I have only had casual with exes (that I am no longer interested in) because it was easy and familiar. One was with a much younger friend. I have never used OLD to get it....I think I set up something once on Tinder then chickened out and canceled the date 2
Author Dis Posted August 21, 2017 Author Posted August 21, 2017 I just got a call from a number I didnt recognize. I rarely ever pick up calls from numbers I dont know. It was him... He left another 2 minute voicemail He said he doesnt know why we have to go "cold turkey" and not talk at all. He says he misses me and I'm amazing..??? He wants to hang out because we have xy and z in common. Maybe if we just hung out, no pressure, things could change and I could feel what he feels. He said to let him know soon because he hates not talking to me.... I'm starting to get pissed now 1
elaine567 Posted August 21, 2017 Posted August 21, 2017 His next move. Watch - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DNDAfD4elQ
Author Dis Posted August 21, 2017 Author Posted August 21, 2017 His next move. Watch - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DNDAfD4elQ This made me laugh And I dont think its too far from the truth either
No_Go Posted August 22, 2017 Posted August 22, 2017 Ummm NO! I don't trust this person at all - he's love bombing you and this is NOT a sign of a puppy in love, but suggests deeper issues. I initially thought he's cute in his affection, but here he's trying to make you think differently - this is the thin line where abuse starts. If I were you I'd reject him very definitively - e.g. tell him you're seeing someone else and leave it there. I just got a call from a number I didnt recognize. I rarely ever pick up calls from numbers I dont know. It was him... He left another 2 minute voicemail He said he doesnt know why we have to go "cold turkey" and not talk at all. He says he misses me and I'm amazing..??? He wants to hang out because we have xy and z in common. Maybe if we just hung out, no pressure, things could change and I could feel what he feels. He said to let him know soon because he hates not talking to me.... I'm starting to get pissed now 1
Author Dis Posted August 30, 2017 Author Posted August 30, 2017 Despite it being weeks since I told his guy I'm not interested...he has been continually texting me from different numbers. Paragraphs upon paragraphs of crazy nonsense I finally got fed up I texted him that he is crossing boundaries and disrespecting my wishes to no longer communicate. That I'm not attracted to him (he seems to think it was just a bad date and we can try again ) and to please stop texting me. That was as nice as I could be because I'm offically and thoroughly annoyed
Sweetfish Posted August 30, 2017 Posted August 30, 2017 Despite it being weeks since I told his guy I'm not interested...he has been continually texting me from different numbers. Paragraphs upon paragraphs of crazy nonsense I finally got fed up I texted him that he is crossing boundaries and disrespecting my wishes to no longer communicate. That I'm not attracted to him (he seems to think it was just a bad date and we can try again ) and to please stop texting me. That was as nice as I could be because I'm offically and thoroughly annoyed Better tell his momma
Miss Spider Posted August 30, 2017 Posted August 30, 2017 Aw, harsh... You know he'd catch a grenade for ya' Throw his head on a blade for ya' Jump in front of a train for ya' You know he'd do any thang for ya' But you won't do the same?
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