Author Big Boss Posted August 17, 2017 Author Share Posted August 17, 2017 No woman is obligated to meet your needs. What about HER needs? If she doesn't want to have sex as often as you , that is HER need, and you're not meeting her need for you to back off and stop acting like sex is the only reason you're in a relationship. It's insulting. You're going to downward spiral. That was only part of the problem. There were other issues but that is for another thread Link to post Share on other sites
Author Big Boss Posted August 17, 2017 Author Share Posted August 17, 2017 No woman is obligated to meet your needs. What about HER needs? If she doesn't want to have sex as often as you , that is HER need, and you're not meeting her need for you to back off and stop acting like sex is the only reason you're in a relationship. It's insulting. You're going to downward spiral. She acted like i was obligated to meet hers so i demanded sex. Which i actuall spelled out in the beginning my preferences if she had an issue she should have not pursued it further. She did hold grudges about my past and the fact before marriage i would spend the night with her Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 She acted like i was obligated to meet hers so i demanded sex. Which i actuall spelled out in the beginning my preferences if she had an issue she should have not pursued it further. She did hold grudges about my past and the fact before marriage i would spend the night with her Sex is not something that should ever be demanded. It is a surefire passion killer and it no doubt killed your marriage. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 When you turn into an angry monster because you can't get a release.....you have a problem. It's like being chained/controlled by your drive. It must leave you feeling helpless at times. You can't feel better unless you are wankin off. I don't think finding someone to meet your demands is your answer. Link to post Share on other sites
stixx Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 Hi recently divorced. We just didnt get along. She stopped having sex and i stopped doing my roles in the relationship. I spelled it out from the beginning that i needed sex 2+ times a week with a minimum of 2 rounds each time. She couldn't fulfill that. When we did it she would cry and complain it hurt and eventually she stopped altogether. I stayed faithful but just became angry. She nagged about things and other stuff like me looking at porn. I will admit when im super horny and getting teased i can be one of the biggest a$$ holes. I mean she would walk around in her underwear and everything. There were other issues but all the complaints she had about me were because she wasnt having sex. Anyway now i am trying to get back out meeting women and its tough because i havent had sex in such a long time that now i am preoccupied with it. I just cant take my mind off of sex. What can i do? Try an older female. Maybe 40-45. Holy cow these women want sex 24/7 dude. I was 25 dating a 43 year old and she buried me sexually for the 5 years we were dating. She was not only smoking hot, but she had her own business and gobs of money. All my buddies use to gaga over her when she came over and she flirted with all of them. Maybe slept with one of them for all I know. Who knows, but I really doubt it. She liked sex but was really careful who she slept with because of diseases. No matter what she did I understood that she was a great woman and I already knew her for a bit before I dated her. She liked younger guys who didnt do drugs and booze up. And most guys are at the sexual peak from 18-25, but some of us find the morning thing a bother. I just deal with it. It goes down after a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 Hi recently divorced. We just didnt get along. She stopped having sex and i stopped doing my roles in the relationship. I spelled it out from the beginning that i needed sex 2+ times a week with a minimum of 2 rounds each time. She couldn't fulfill that. When we did it she would cry and complain it hurt and eventually she stopped altogether. I stayed faithful but just became angry. She nagged about things and other stuff like me looking at porn. I will admit when im super horny and getting teased i can be one of the biggest a$$ holes. I mean she would walk around in her underwear and everything. There were other issues but all the complaints she had about me were because she wasnt having sex. Anyway now i am trying to get back out meeting women and its tough because i havent had sex in such a long time that now i am preoccupied with it. I just cant take my mind off of sex. What can i do? You need to learn self-control of your sexual urges (sexual desires). I have to do that myself too as HSD man. HSD- high sex drive. But you don't know how to control your mindset and you are hurting your prior and you will continue to hurt the new ones. STOP IT! Listen to how I do it you should be okay. Do you know when to stop and when to release. You think too much about having sex always. You maybe more of sex addict SAD.. I am not that far gone. I know when and what to do. Not going to run around howling and craving for sex. I think of relax and i know not to engage in hard core sex acts like your doing and your hurting these woman making the uterus way to sore. How like your member like that you would be in pain too. Shame on you to do that to woman. I know I am not perfect but I trying now to in-flick such pain on them. They are so sensitive down there already. Sounds like your trying to hurt them and that makes you feel good inside. Your prior so what she walked around your house in her underwear. What would you have done if she was nude instead. I have had them that way too here. I can control my urges. Could you do the same? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 As a believer in being yourself when dating, I suggest that you be upfront with your sexual demands when dating. If a girl isn't turned off by it when you start out, she's less likely to be turned off as the relationship continues. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 To begin, you can develop some emotional maturity and self control. I just love men who begin a relationship with a discussion of "sexual expectations." It's good that you play your cards early so that the woman knows who she is dating. Not that what you are asking is all that unreasonable, but any man who was so arrogant and entitled to do this would be shown the door... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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