preraph Posted August 16, 2017 Share Posted August 16, 2017 last couple dates I went on, after I told the guys I didn't think we were a match, they said "well I'd still like to be friends". I get a lot of that's probably just a buffer from being let down, but a lot of times that's just a method for guys to get in and try to change your mind. A sec ago you were trying to sleep with me.. there's no foundation for a friendship here And that aspect about a man thinking they can change your mind makes women mad because it's as good as telling her the man knows what's best for her and not her own brain and heart, very insulting. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Blackdog21 Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 (edited) I agree with the people who say 'friendzoned' is kinda derogatory word for the concept for friendship. I know sometimes we want what we want but ive felt that if youre fond of someone you try to maintain a relationship with them, and it doesnt necessarily have to be a romantic one. I am good friends with my ex, although i have no lingering romantic feelings for her whatsoever, and i do love her absolutely still. And as ive posted on the other thread, this new girl that i seem to have fallen for, if she rejects me romantically, after ive asked her out(as has been pointed out to me!), ill still not mind being friends with her cos she seems to me a terrific human being, but i wont burden her with my expectations or anything. It takes a while, but taking a no as a no is not really difficult . Edited August 17, 2017 by Blackdog21 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 ^ Good attitude. But still, ask a woman out if you want more and do it right away and you won't have to end up in the friend bucket. Link to post Share on other sites
OatsAndHall Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 I agree with the people who say 'friendzoned' is kinda derogatory word for the concept for friendship. I know sometimes we want what we want but ive felt that if youre fond of someone you try to maintain a relationship with them, and it doesnt necessarily have to be a romantic one. I am good friends with my ex, although i have no lingering romantic feelings for her whatsoever, and i do love her absolutely still. And as ive posted on the other thread, this new girl that i seem to have fallen for, if she rejects me romantically, after ive asked her out(as has been pointed out to me!), ill still not mind being friends with her cos she seems to me a terrific human being, but i wont burden her with my expectations or anything. It takes a while, but taking a no as a no is not really difficult . The "Friend-Zone" doesn't have anything to do with a true platonic relationship. It's when someone is trying to weasel their way into a romantic relationship under the guise of a platonic relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 17, 2017 Share Posted August 17, 2017 ^ Exactly. Link to post Share on other sites
Seriousperson Posted August 18, 2017 Share Posted August 18, 2017 https://www.buzzfeed.com/gracespelman/the-friend-zone-is-not-real-sorry-dude?utm_term=.dbqNPPMQnB#.dqqYLLlPX2 Personally I don't think its real. Friendship is something different. almost always its just another way of labeling rejection I totally agree and if someone tries to friend zone me, I say no and cut contact. When I was naïve, I did accept friend zone from a guy. He didn't contact me for 3 months, though I did contact him 2 weeks after he zoned me. If you like someone, don't let them drag you around through the friend zone, leave and save your dignity. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted September 5, 2017 Share Posted September 5, 2017 The way I am thinking these days. I think I will let a woman come to me and let her turn us into a relationship. Thats what has really worked in the past with me, when it comes to love. I being the one to turn it. It really does not work. Link to post Share on other sites
MeadowFlower Posted October 4, 2017 Share Posted October 4, 2017 When a girl says she wants to be just friends, she doesn't actually want to be friends. She is rejecting you as a romantic possibility. No, not always. Link to post Share on other sites
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