salparadise Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 They are both extreme horn dogs! Very compatible. Its just the girl doesnt know how often a girl should give the guy sex (you know enough to keep him on his toes but not too much to where he gets used to it). Shes conflicted. The guy is obsessed with her sex and she is the best he has had apparently She has a really messed up view of it the people around her tlel her not to have sex too much or the guy will get tired of her, and she just views it like if a guy has sex with a girl he wont wanna marry her Ok, now we're starting to get the picture... this mentality is messed up. OP, I think your friend is screwing up what seems like an otherwise good relationship with this mentality. Gaeta got it right. It's not something she grants as a favor, it's not a power play or any of that crap. She should let it flow and see how good it can be when she get rid of her competitive mentality. I wonder if this proclivity is part of her personality, or if it's something that she could change based on some good information and increased awareness? OP, you might be able to help her. 1
Bastile Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 Overall, my intuition is that she sees sex as her trump card and doesn't mind using it in a competitive kind of way to keep him a bit frustrated and wanting more... and at the same time, pretending that sex shouldn't even be part of the equation. I sort of think that she can't be in to him that much. When women are adequately turned on, they have insatiable appetites that can kill a man It shouldn't be such a negotiation and hard work for him as standard. If it is, you're just with the wrong person. 1
stillafool Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 It seems like the friend is too immature to be in a relationship and if I were him I would move on to another. 3
Author pbass Posted June 22, 2017 Author Posted June 22, 2017 My friend is just confused she doesnt know how often you should have sex with a man before he gets tired or starts taking you for granted. Thats her mentality. Her boyfriend says he would never get tired and that he loves it and it brings them closer. She however thinks that if you give it too much the guy will get used to it. She just wants to do whats right so fellas please let me know how much is enough and if she should be alarmed about what he said! Also, what should she do now that she got in a fight with him over this? He said he would post pictures of her and things like that sometime next week when they hang out again. But this was before she fought with him about all this.
salparadise Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 I sort of think that she can't be in to him that much. When women are adequately turned on, they have insatiable appetites that can kill a man It shouldn't be such a negotiation and hard work for him as standard. If it is, you're just with the wrong person. Yea, I think she's neurotic, controlling and has some seriously dysfunctional attitudes about sex, love and relationships. I would hate trying to be in a relationship with someone who thinks and acts this way. The relationship is a constant power struggle to this woman, and sex as her nuclear weapon. Now he's saying he doesn't want sex any more because of how she's behaving. I don't blame him. He needs a new girlfriend, and she needs a chill pill. 5
stillafool Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 There is no standard rule for couples having sex. It is up to them and their desires. Of course her bf likes sex all men do. Even if you have sex 3 times a day it is no guarantee that you will stay together. If your friend is such a horndog having sex with him is something that she wants as much as him. Tell her to just be herself and do what she feels. 1
Bastile Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 She just wants to do whats right so fellas please let me know how much is enough and if she should be alarmed about what he said! It's like she's filtering hard for an easily manipulated guy. No man with adult self-respect is going to be pushed and pulled like that in a a serious relationship over intimacy. So, she's filtering for a guy that's whipped. Which will only turn her off more, and make her desire him less. I suggest she cut out the tomfoolery. Unless she wants a sexless marriage one day, or something. 1
salparadise Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 My friend is just confused she doesnt know how often you should have sex with a man before he gets tired or starts taking you for granted. Thats her mentality. Her boyfriend says he would never get tired and that he loves it and it brings them closer. She however thinks that if you give it too much the guy will get used to it. She just wants to do whats right so fellas please let me know how much is enough and if she should be alarmed about what he said! Also, what should she do now that she got in a fight with him over this? He said he would post pictures of her and things like that sometime next week when they hang out again. But this was before she fought with him about all this. Tell her to sex him as much as humanly possible for a solid month, and to do so freely and appreciatively and not attach any other expectations. When she thinks he couldn't possibly go another round, sex him some more! And then tell her to just enjoy her new relationship... no need to send me gifts or cards or anything for the advice. 3
elaine567 Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 Tell her to just be herself and do what she feels. Exactly. Sex should be a natural thing, if she feels like it just do it, if she doesn't feel like it then she doesn't initiate it, or she says no when he initiates. She is playing games if she is keeping count then deciding he has had "too much" and she is then with-holding. If she is withholding as she doesn't actually want any more sex, then that is another issue. If they are both "horn-dogs" and he is still not satisfied and is wanting more, then she needs to decide if that is the kind of relationship she really wants to be in or not.
Author pbass Posted June 22, 2017 Author Posted June 22, 2017 Now he has gone fishing with his friends and isnt responding to her. He told her he needs space and he wont respond. Shes really sad because they were doing really well until she brought this situation up
CptInsano Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 Now he has gone fishing with his friends and isnt responding to her. He told her he needs space and he wont respond. Shes really sad because they were doing really well until she brought this situation up I think she thought they were doing well, but it's quite possible that he thought otherwise. This discussion probably was just the tipping point. 2
stillafool Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 Now he has gone fishing with his friends and isnt responding to her. He told her he needs space and he wont respond. Shes really sad because they were doing really well until she brought this situation up From reading your past threads her situation sounds very similar to yours. So I'll tell you both to give him space. Let him enjoy his fishing trip with his mates. 1
elaine567 Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 Now he has gone fishing with his friends and isnt responding to her. He told her he needs space and he wont respond. Shes really sad because they were doing really well until she brought this situation up Didn't he actually bring this situation up?
Gaeta Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 When a man comes down with begging for more sex, no things have not been good. Only in your friend's head things have been going good. When a man says to his gf he'll be a better boyfriend and he'll do anything she wants if they have more sex it's him begging.
salparadise Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 When a man comes down with begging for more sex, no things have not been good. Only in your friend's head things have been going good. When a man says to his gf he'll be a better boyfriend and he'll do anything she wants if they have more sex it's him begging. Yea, having him begging for sex and her withholding is her idea of doing well. Then he says screw it, I'm outta here, keep your precious pussy all to yourself... I need space and will not be responding... what a disaster! She's going to need a different strategy. Maybe she can figure out how to cut off water and oxygen. 2
Arieswoman Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 (edited) pbass, I confess I haven't read of of this thread but for what it's worth - stay out of it. Tell your friend you're sorry she's got problems and you hope she can sort it out. If you give her advice and it backfires and they break up, she'll blame you, and that could mean another relationship hits the buffers. Just be supportive in whatever choices she makes. And why is she telling you all this personal stuff anyway? I'd be mortified if a b/f of mine was discussing our sex-life with his best mate. If nothing else she seems to have no loyalty or filters, and if she was my friend that would bother me. Edited June 22, 2017 by Arieswoman 2
Gaeta Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 I am curious. Pbass, your friend, and her friends advising her all seem to have the same opinion on sex. Where are you from? It sounds very East Europe to me. 1
Gaeta Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 And why is she telling you all this personal stuff anyway? I'd be mortified if a b/f of mine was discussing our sex-life with his best mate. If nothing else she seems to have no loyalty or filters, and if she was my friend that would bother me. Again cultural. In my culture women friends share a lot of details in confidence. It stays between us. Men also know women-friends have this type of close connection. I am not talking colleagues or acquaintances, I am talking women's best friends. 1
Bastile Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 (edited) Again cultural. In my culture women friends share a lot of details in confidence. It stays between us. Men also know women-friends have this type of close connection. I am not talking colleagues or acquaintances, I am talking women's best friends. I worked with, and became very close friends with, a dozen women at a particular job I had. I was the only guy. It is actually surprising how openly women talk about these things. Much more so than men do between each other. Saying that, I do get the sense that OP and her friend could be the same person Edited June 22, 2017 by Bastile 1
Author pbass Posted June 22, 2017 Author Posted June 22, 2017 he just gave her a missed call and she called him back but he dodnt respond. What should she say?? Shojld she apologize and take it all back... hes extremely pissed and almost broke up with her cuz of the texts and harrasing
stillafool Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 How do you know every single move they make? What harassing texts were sent? What was said? 5
knabe Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 They are both extreme horn dogs! Very compatible. Its just the girl doesnt know how often a girl should give the guy sex (you know enough to keep him on his toes but not too much to where he gets used to it). Shes conflicted. The guy is obsessed with her sex and she is the best he has had apparently This is manipulation 101. Keep him on his toes?
knabe Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 She is just alarmed. If she stopped sex, would he stop being a wonderful guy? She said after they had sex again after the month she was gone he was sooo good to her. And she has tested him before to see if they arent sexual (like for a month when she was on vacation) he is still sweet and texts and calls. Well, She said last night he called and sounded bery pissed and she apparently just sent him like 200 messages about how shes confused and how shes pissed and she drove him crazy. He doesnt wanna talk to her and is very frustrated with her and told her he needs a couple hours to herself because shes making him miserable. She tested him.....yeah the problem here is your friend, not the guy. 1
Gaeta Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 he just gave her a missed call and she called him back but he dodnt respond. What should she say?? Shojld she apologize and take it all back... hes extremely pissed and almost broke up with her cuz of the texts and harrasing Yes men will break up with you if you are being a pest. Tell her to leave him alone for now. She can reach to him when he comes back from his fishing trip.
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