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A male friend of mine recently started a new job and has started to have feelings for this girl at work who he says they get along well together. He says shes quite quiet and not overly talkative with him but he feels that there is some sort of connection there! When they do talk it is all good and he feels an attraction towards and his feeling is shes too but he is not 100% sure. He generally initiates coversation with her and she makes good eye contact when they do speak. When she leaves the room to go to the canteen to make a drink he sometimes follows just so he can try and be with her and speak to her and it seems she gets a bit excited when that happens, he doesnt know if she does it on purpose but he doubts it. He started speaking to her via messenger at work cos they arent in the same room and she was talking back no problem. When talking to each other the other day via the pc he was worried she was affected by something at work (and she was) so he messaged her to see if she was okay and got her a little gift to cheer her up! She said thanks for trying to cheer her up and for caring but that he didnt have to and she also said to him that he probs has more important things to do. What does that mean? He even told her he finds her intriguing and mysterious and she asked why he said that cos shes been told that before! didn't know what to say and said "that its a secret and I can't tell you" with a smiley face. He told her she is a nice person and she blushed and said the same back. She is quite reserved and doesnt give much away so he tells me but he has a gut feeling that she feels the same but its 100% sure cos some signs cause that thinking. He does act really polite and respectful toward her, tries to make her laugh and gives subtle compliments. Does she like him or is beginning to? What signs are the biggest give away? Ive given some advice but would like to see what others think about this? The other thing is is that he is already in a relationship so could this be a factor as to why she is acting sometimes which doesn't convince him? Thanks!

 

I know about the dont date coworkers etc but I really want my friend to be happy so would appreciate some advice, opions etc! Thanks

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"Asking for a friend" eh? lol it's okay. I don't really see much more going on here so far. It's impossible to say if she's interested in you..I mean your friend..just by what you've shared. Some people are super friendly and flirty. When she said something like "you're kind, but you don't have to do that" sounds to me like politeness. She probably likes your friend, but if to a romantic extent is hard to say.

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The guy is in a relationship. He shouldn't be flirting and trying to set something up with this new girl. Then what? He dumps his girlfriend for this girl? How long before his interests shift again, and he dumps this coworker? Maybe gets back with the original? You should be telling him that he needs to break up with his girlfriend and take some time alone before embarking on another relationship and figure out why he cheats. Cheating is never a good way to start a relationship, and don't think this girl won't find out. You already allude to the fact she is already aware he has a girlfriend. If she's smart, she will not pursue this cheater even if he does break it off with his present GF.

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Oh crap I totally missed that part. He has a gf xD Wonderful.

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A male friend of mine recently started a new job and has started to have feelings for this girl at work who he says they get along well together. He says shes quite quiet and not overly talkative with him but he feels that there is some sort of connection there! When they do talk it is all good and he feels an attraction towards and his feeling is shes too but he is not 100% sure. He generally initiates coversation with her and she makes good eye contact when they do speak. When she leaves the room to go to the canteen to make a drink he sometimes follows just so he can try and be with her and speak to her and it seems she gets a bit excited when that happens, he doesnt know if she does it on purpose but he doubts it. He started speaking to her via messenger at work cos they arent in the same room and she was talking back no problem. When talking to each other the other day via the pc he was worried she was affected by something at work (and she was) so he messaged her to see if she was okay and got her a little gift to cheer her up! She said thanks for trying to cheer her up and for caring but that he didnt have to and she also said to him that he probs has more important things to do. What does that mean? He even told her he finds her intriguing and mysterious and she asked why he said that cos shes been told that before! didn't know what to say and said "that its a secret and I can't tell you" with a smiley face. He told her she is a nice person and she blushed and said the same back. She is quite reserved and doesnt give much away so he tells me but he has a gut feeling that she feels the same but its 100% sure cos some signs cause that thinking. He does act really polite and respectful toward her, tries to make her laugh and gives subtle compliments. Does she like him or is beginning to? What signs are the biggest give away? Ive given some advice but would like to see what others think about this? The other thing is is that he is already in a relationship so could this be a factor as to why she is acting sometimes which doesn't convince him? Thanks!

 

I know about the dont date coworkers etc but I really want my friend to be happy so would appreciate some advice, opions etc! Thanks

 

Wait he's already dating someone else. So all this girl is doing is flirting, teasing and being playful... So why the big talk and small talk nothing to this. He has made plate and wants a little extra taste from her. Word of advance here just don't tread anymore than he can from her. Work relationships are dangerous at most. Work buddies at best with her. I wouldn't push it more tha that for now.. He has a girl ready outside work. Sounds like he wants the inside co-worker too.

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OP, why are you in a relationship if you are hitting on girls in work?

 

No idea if she is interested. I have similar interactions with a couple of girls at work and think nothing of it.

Personally I wouldn't pursue as it's way too messy dating in work even if you were single.

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