LizzieT Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 Hello, fellow forum members. My situation is far from original; I'm sure it happens to many and has been discussed in this or that variation on this forum. The thing is I really do not know what to do in this situation, as I haven't been in it before and maybe I can seek and get some advice on this forum. I have recently started on the new job, and everyone in the office is very nice. There is a guy working in my team, who is married, and seems to be rather an introvert. I started noticing that he stares at me all the time, I catch him looking at me during meetings across the room, he does not avert his eyes when I catch him and keeps staring. I started getting uncomfortable being in a room with him, and I avoid looking at him at the meetings when I can. He tries to sit close to me or opposite to me when he can. There were periods when he ignored me (while talking to everyone else in the group) and didn't greet me in the mornings, which then changed into days and weeks when he comes to my working desk and asks me some things, like "Oh I saw your Facebook post the other day". Then the other day he really freaked me out, when I approached him at his desk to ask some work related question, and he just looked at me and widely smiled saying nothing. That really freaked me out and I decided to ignore him as much as I can. I think he sensed this and started ignoring me back. But he still stares at me, sits across from me at lunch, even when there are free places around us, and just sits there saying nothing. This whole situation is really making me uncomfortable. I don't know if I have enough evidence to report this behavior (we have really strict rules regarding sexual harassment in the office) or I should talk to him directly. If you had been in similar situations or have any advice, will appreciate it. Thanks a lot!
smackie9 Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 The professional thing to do is to have a word with him. If you are too freaked out about it, discuss his behavior with your supervisor or HR. It doesn't have to be a sexual harassment situation to report an employee. OR the next time you see him staring, give him stink eye. He will get the hint his staring is unwelcome.
preraph Posted April 28, 2017 Posted April 28, 2017 Well, this seems obvious. Get him off your Facebook. Block him. That's the easiest way to send a message. He's creepy and inappropriate. You certainly can't report him when you've let him be your Facebook friend!
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