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We have a second date planned for next Thursday, but had our first date this Monday just gone.

 

I'm planning on texting her tomorrow saying morning beautiful along with something we joked about. I know I shouldn't be overthinking a text but don't want to come on too strong.

 

Here's an overview of how our date went. When we first met she hugged me and we started walking, then she linked arms with me and she asked if this was okay, so we ended up holding hands instead. I thought it might be too soon but I liked how forward she was.

 

She had a very eccentric personality. We went for a meal and she started playing footsy with me. She also told me she was diabetic and got out her kit on the table. We both talked about our interest which was gaming. After the meal (they were giving out flower shaped balloons) she kept playfully hitting me over the head with it.

 

When we played mini golf, she kept getting very close with me, joking about her cleavage and kept putting her phone or keys in my back pocket then reaching in to get them out after. Sometimes she'd whisper in my ear and would push herself on me.

 

She also made a remark asking "oh is that your lady friends messaging you?" when I did look at my phone.

 

Later, she told me to come close to her as it looked like she was going to kiss me, then teased me instead. At the end of the date we kissed in her car.

 

Overall she made it feel like we knew each other for months, we were so comfy with each other and I've never experienced such sexual chemistry with a girl before (there's usually that awkward barrier at first with other girls)

 

The following morning she text me saying morning and she had a lovely evening with me, it was a very positive text.

 

She seems like someone who is very forward, which I like. But I don't want to come across as too strong.. Also, is it fine to reply 30 mins to an hour after? I work and my responses can vary from that to sometimes 2-3 hours, although I do tell her I'm at work.

 

EDIT: On reflection, I think it's too soon. I was thinking something along the lines of "Morning cheeky, hope you've not been stealing any real life giraffes recently!" (we joked about her obsession with giraffes and that it's her favourite animal).

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Scarlett.O'hara Established Member

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It sounds too early for pet names. It may come across as contrived or insincere.

 

Just have a look at this thread for example

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/617291-i-got-played-yes-i-admit

 

If your date has experienced something similar, she might think you are "love-bombing" her which will put her on guard.

 

I wouldn't risk sounding to over familiar until you have known each other longer.

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TheTraveler Established Member

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The following morning she text me saying morning and she had a lovely evening with me, it was a very positive text.

 

Did you respond to this text? What has happened since?

amazonrambo Established Member

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Did you respond to this text? What has happened since?

 

Yeah, we continued to joke/flirt over text but I was quick to arrange new plans.

 

How does "morning cheeky, hope my favourite giraffe lover has a great day" (she likes giraffes) or something like that? I like to use these sparingly or it loses it's meaning.

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Miss Spider Established Member

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If you're not sure about doing something so insignificant to the point you have to make an 11 paragraph post about it, just wait....

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No I think it's nice. But yeah, you should be more confident.

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todreaminblue Established Member

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Yeah, we continued to joke/flirt over text but I was quick to arrange new plans.

 

How does "morning cheeky, hope my favourite giraffe lover has a great day" (she likes giraffes) or something like that? I like to use these sparingly or it loses it's meaning.

 

 

that sounds cute....not too many women feel beautiful in the morning that might get a snort....her thinkin If you could see me ..but what you said in this idea is smile worthy...playful is good.....deb

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Do not send that message. Your response (if anything) should be something like "I had fun too. Thursday night we're going to X for drinks and a dance, wear something comfortable ;) ".

 

Set this potential relationship off on the right foot, and that is one in which you call the shots and assume your natural role as a man and a leader. Reap the rewards.

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fmfan,

 

She also told me she was diabetic and got out her kit on the table.

 

??

 

Are you saying she injected herself in the restaurant ?! :eek:

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Don't do that, it's needy and way to early for things like this.

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I realize the time has passed, but thought I'd chime in and tell you "morning beautiful" wouldn't bother me in the least. As noted by others, some people would find it insincere and too much too soon. There's no way to know what the reaction will be.

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I'd just go with Good morning.

 

 

Morning beautiful is fine.

 

 

The whole bit about the giraffes is too much this early. It's probably cute but just too soon.

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fmfan,

 

 

 

??

 

Are you saying she injected herself in the restaurant ?! :eek:

 

Yeah but under her side of the table, although it didn't freak me out like you think it would. She was hesitant at first meeting me because of the time I said.

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fmfan08 Established Member

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I'd just go with Good morning.

 

 

Morning beautiful is fine.

 

 

The whole bit about the giraffes is too much this early. It's probably cute but just too soon.

 

Our date was Monday and we have spoken since then. She replied "Heyyyyyy. Aww thanks. I'm soooooo sleepy!"

d0nnivain Established Member

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Then text her Happy Saint Patrick's Day. It's timely

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We have a second date planned for next Thursday, but had our first date this Monday just gone.

 

I'm planning on texting her tomorrow saying morning beautiful along with something we joked about. I know I shouldn't be overthinking a text but don't want to come on too strong.

 

Here's an overview of how our date went. When we first met she hugged me and we started walking, then she linked arms with me and she asked if this was okay, so we ended up holding hands instead. I thought it might be too soon but I liked how forward she was.

 

She had a very eccentric personality. We went for a meal and she started playing footsy with me. She also told me she was diabetic and got out her kit on the table. We both talked about our interest which was gaming. After the meal (they were giving out flower shaped balloons) she kept playfully hitting me over the head with it.

 

When we played mini golf, she kept getting very close with me, joking about her cleavage and kept putting her phone or keys in my back pocket then reaching in to get them out after. Sometimes she'd whisper in my ear and would push herself on me.

 

She also made a remark asking "oh is that your lady friends messaging you?" when I did look at my phone.

 

Later, she told me to come close to her as it looked like she was going to kiss me, then teased me instead. At the end of the date we kissed in her car.

 

Overall she made it feel like we knew each other for months, we were so comfy with each other and I've never experienced such sexual chemistry with a girl before (there's usually that awkward barrier at first with other girls)

 

The following morning she text me saying morning and she had a lovely evening with me, it was a very positive text.

 

She seems like someone who is very forward, which I like. But I don't want to come across as too strong.. Also, is it fine to reply 30 mins to an hour after? I work and my responses can vary from that to sometimes 2-3 hours, although I do tell her I'm at work.

 

EDIT: On reflection, I think it's too soon. I was thinking something along the lines of "Morning cheeky, hope you've not been stealing any real life giraffes recently!" (we joked about her obsession with giraffes and that it's her favourite animal).

to be honest I didn't read anything when you began with how the date went cause it don't matter. if you like her theres nothing wrong with texting her good morning beautiful with a joke if your sincere. if she sincerely likes you she will appreciate. if she don't like you she will ignore it. if you want a girl who don't play games and is genuine then don't start out playing games and be genuine. if she give you a reason to hold off such as she starts to ignore your calls or texts then you can pull back calls and texts.
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Yeah but under her side of the table, although it didn't freak me out like you think it would. She was hesitant at first meeting me because of the time I said.

 

She could not do that in the washroom ?? That screams no class.

 

Both the text you suggested would be too much for me, keep it simple, you may not even reach a 3rd date so keep all the giraffes and beautiful for later.

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She could not do that in the washroom ?? That screams no class.

 

Both the text you suggested would be too much for me, keep it simple, you may not even reach a 3rd date so keep all the giraffes and beautiful for later.

 

No big deal where i come from. She`s diabetic. Whats the issue?

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No big deal where i come from. She`s diabetic. Whats the issue?

 

If this was in a park or at a concert or anything else outdoor ok, but in a restaurant? You're suppose to use manners in a restaurant and lifting your shirt up, for any reasons, isn't having manners and respect for the strangers sitting next to you. My father is diabetic and I'd fall on my face if I saw him raise his shirt up in a restaurant to get his shot. I'd think he's having another dementia episode.

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If this was in a park or at a concert or anything else outdoor ok, but in a restaurant? You're suppose to use manners in a restaurant and lifting your shirt up, for any reasons, isn't having manners and respect for the strangers sitting next to you. My father is diabetic and I'd fall on my face if I saw him raise his shirt up in a restaurant to get his shot. I'd think he's having another dementia episode.

 

If she's beautiful and playing footsy with you, I would let it slide Gaeta :p

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OP - I would have been good with that text early on.

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I really cringe at all the "Morning beautiful" fake type crap. I just think it's too much. Now, if you've been married 10 years and you get an unexpected "Morning Beautiful" on his way out the door to his job, that might perk you up. I just think a lot of things people text like this are just baiting to see if they can eek a compliment out of that person to boost their own ego.

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Just be yourself and don't worry about how she might take it.

 

Something to ponder:

You are more likely to find someone who likes you the way you are when you actually are the way you are. Isn't that what most of us say we want?

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fmfan08 Established Member

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You guys have valid points. Although I'm getting a sense of disinterest, maybe it's because I've been working long hours today, but just want a second opinion on our conversation.

 

Me - Morning cheeky, hope my favourite giraffe lover has a great day!

Her - Heyyyyyy. Aww thanks. I'm soooooo sleepy!

Me - Haha same, going back to bed sounds a lot better than work! What trouble you up to today?

Her - Haha me? Trouble?? Never!! I'm working today like a good girl :o

Me - Oh a good girl? Aiming your golf stick at my protected area, I'd say you're the queen of trouble :eek:

Her - Haha you loved it!

Me - That you'll never know!

Her - Oh I know you did

Me - :p Ah well I'm starting work so going to have to keep you guessing.. text you soon

Her - Have fun

 

Later on I just wanted to clarify details of our next date next Thursday.

 

Me [7:35pm] - Hey :) Got that escape room booked for Thursday at 12, there's an American diner we can go to after if that's good with you!

Her [7:38pm]- Ooh get you booking stuff! I'll check my diary but I do have a doc appointment in the morning about 11 so might have to be later than 12??

Me [8:06pm] - How about 1pm? I'm in work at half 4 on that day so as long as I leave for 3 I'm good. We can always do something different

 

I haven't had a reply and it's nearly midnight, but saw she was online on the dating website.

 

The old me might have sent something else, but I haven't and I want to refrain from that incase there's a valid reason and I don't put her off.

 

If I don't hear back I might wait until Sunday and start a fresh conversation then bring it up again? Any idea on this situation and what to do? Whatever I have done in the past by myself has never worked, so open to opinions.

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Messaging someone "hey beautiful" does not, in my opinion, convey insecurity or neediness. If she responds to the affirmative, why not? If not, hopefully, she's together enough to let you know.

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