Tressugar Posted March 10, 2017 Share Posted March 10, 2017 Why not just be honest?! The wife might be understanding about the whole affair since you said she doesn't seem to care... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted March 10, 2017 Share Posted March 10, 2017 Why not just be honest?! The wife might be understanding about the whole affair since you said she doesn't seem to care... I agree. You and the OM should just lay your cards on the table. After all, what's the worst that can happen? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted March 10, 2017 Share Posted March 10, 2017 Topic check: Have you, your spouses or your affair partner, or either spouse had a health crisis during the affair ? How did you deal? I'm genuinely worried and upset so just looking for anyone to relate, or to distract myself maybe. ----------- I wouldn't want anyone to have a health crisis by straying too far from the topic 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AutumnMoon Posted March 11, 2017 Author Share Posted March 11, 2017 I have answered all of these questions and past posts. I thought about this from every angle I went through every emotion over the years and I've heard all of these same responses saying I should confess that I'm playing the victim card which I am not trying to do it all. Just wondering if anybody has dealt with something similar if you haven't I'm OK with the fact that you don't agree with what I'm doing I apologize that it offends you but I really don't need your advice here. Link to post Share on other sites
deadsoul Posted March 11, 2017 Share Posted March 11, 2017 No. Never dealt with that... but glad to hear he is okay. Link to post Share on other sites
Chica80 Posted March 11, 2017 Share Posted March 11, 2017 I'm sorry Autumn. This must be very difficult. Especially since you can't show your feelings outward. No we have not gone through a health crises. But other forms of a personal crises. And he's been there. Through everything, it's all you can do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Doublegold Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 Autumn I can only second everything that Sunshinechica said above. Feel free to pm me if you need someone to talk to. I am partner in a long term A (8 years) no D-day, we both have met mutual friends and family members many times, although long distance state wise (thank God). The health situation is scary but in one regard you can see how he is, you are able to know how he is progressing. That is more then most would have in an emergency medical situation. So as scary as it is you are not in the dark. Take care and keep us updated on his health. Link to post Share on other sites
waterwoman Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 What a horrible thing to happen! So sorry xxx Link to post Share on other sites
freengreen Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 Mine had a fracture and was in the hospital for 5 days. Its was long distance relationship, I havnt actually seen him since I was 15... His wife took care of him, I was of little importance to him at that time ( isnt it only fair?). I did feel bad for the pain he went through in the hospital thou. May your AP recover fast, he is a dad so. I am always amazed ( not jealous)how perfect everything works out for you, your husband away, his wife being ok with you driving him around hospitals and she just being ok you doing all chores to her husband ( and kids). I just hope all of it ends well (esp for those 7 kids ). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AutumnMoon Posted March 12, 2017 Author Share Posted March 12, 2017 Mine had a fracture and was in the hospital for 5 days. Its was long distance relationship, I havnt actually seen him since I was 15... His wife took care of him, I was of little importance to him at that time ( isnt it only fair?). I did feel bad for the pain he went through in the hospital thou. May your AP recover fast, he is a dad so. I am always amazed ( not jealous)how perfect everything works out for you, your husband away, his wife being ok with you driving him around hospitals and she just being ok you doing all chores to her husband ( and kids). I just hope all of it ends well (esp for those 7 kids ). I would never say things are working out perfectly for me. I guess I've made my own bed ! It is very emotionally conflicting. I wish my husband was not away. I wish he was home. Link to post Share on other sites
freengreen Posted March 13, 2017 Share Posted March 13, 2017 I would never say things are working out perfectly for me. I guess I've made my own bed ! It is very emotionally conflicting. I wish my husband was not away. I wish he was home. You always have honesty in your posts... cant be denied. Take care. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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