Jupiter1111 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 It's 8 weeks since we broke up broke NC a few times feeling low lately and been trying to lean on her a lot but it's been pushed back in my face. I get it she doesn't care anymore. We only speak when initiate contact. So why do we let people have so much power with our happiness and over us. I've been talking to other woman but none seem to be filling the hole she left. I've reed all these posts and I understand everyone's pain and feelings. Before we met I was the total opposite who I am now I was confidient and ddnt care what anyone thought after all who was better than me? No 1 So why now do I have thoughts about her seeing someone new every time we don't talk. Aaaaaaahhh exes
Thegreatestthing Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Guy I'm dating asked for a weeks break,this after an amazing night of talking I think it's my fault cause I didn't talk to him or reply to his messages all day and night.anyway I immediately wanted to email the ex and had to stop myself five times.Still like the new guy more,I hope things work out.
emotionalMess Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 4 months ago tonight I said my final farewell to the one I love. By accident, I marked it on my calendar and she is on my mind tonight. She has no method to contact me. I'll give myself a few hours of reflection. I wonder if she looks back with sadness or does she look back fondly? We were both lost, I still am a bit lost and I bet she is too. I wish her the best.
Xemyd Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I've been decent the past couple days. Still wondering why he hasn't tried to contact me. I wish just once that I was the type of girl that had guys falling all over, exes regretting the break up. I want to meet someone.
edgygirl Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I was fine... for quite a few weeks. Reading about dumpers and dumpees yesterday on LS got me in a downward spiral today. Had nightmares about him and woke up sad. I am going on a first date tonight for the past weeks. I hope I'm ready to date and to at least have fun again. I'm not sure I am.
Xemyd Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I wish I could find a date. I don't know how to meet people. I don't go to clubs/bars, I don't drink, I have only one friend I hang out with every few weeks. I don't leave the house much either, except to get groceries and walk my dog during the day. If I could find someone, I know I'd stop thinking about my ex.
scobro Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Now the girl I love is with someone else this probably means she doesn't love you.... 1
scobro Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I wish I could find a date. I don't know how to meet people. I don't go to clubs/bars, I don't drink, I have only one friend I hang out with every few weeks. I don't leave the house much either, except to get groceries and walk my dog during the day. If I could find someone, I know I'd stop thinking about my ex. Its easy these days with Online dating websites.....put a profile and picture up and see who responds.Thats how my ex did it. Join a meetup group Find your people - Meetup lots of ways to meet people these days.The whole bar scene is gone its all online now.
Xemyd Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Its easy these days with Online dating websites.....put a profile and picture up and see who responds.Thats how my ex did it. Join a meetup group Find your people - Meetup lots of ways to meet people these days.The whole bar scene is gone its all online now. I don't do online dating, it makes me uncomfortable. I am on Meetup but there's nothing in my city, we're too small.
Sunbathe Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Feeling yourself healing and starting to move on is a wonderful, beautiful thing. I am doing well today
scobro Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Feeling yourself healing and starting to move on is a wonderful, beautiful thing. I am doing well today I am feeling the opposite today......sad and miss my ex
edgygirl Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Same here. Been well for weeks but woke up really bad today after several weird dreams. Ugh... I guess recovery will go in waves... Ugh. I am feeling the opposite today......sad and miss my ex 1
scobro Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 I don't do online dating, it makes me uncomfortable. I am on Meetup but there's nothing in my city, we're too small. you have to get rid of your blocks.....try online dating then see if it makes you uncomfortable and go to the next biggest city near you or start your own group in your area on meetup.The alternative is just do nothing, be alone and walk your dog, but don't complain about it because its your choice to not try new things.
freebird31 Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 Cried a lot last night until my eyes were swollen. For some reason I felt broken last night thinking about the unrequited love I have for him. But I feel better today back to myself. Just had a minor setback I must learn to embrace change and continue to move forward. I must not look back at my once best friend as I have made the mistake with my ex. I must just moving on with my Life wherever that is. Still finding myself . Still trying to find home again. I haven't got there. Still searching for peace. I'm getting there. I know somehow deep down that my life is being shaped and all of this is happening hopefully for some reason I don't know of ATM. I must keep moving forward. Make the past the past.
Thegreatestthing Posted July 19, 2014 Posted July 19, 2014 New guy has left all I want to do is contact ex Woke up feeling strangely ok and not caring about new guy much I feel okay,someone tell me again why I can't contact him
Justaguy30 Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 I ran into one of my ex's co workers last night at a party and I was a bit well drunk and said some things about her that I should have never told him and I feel really ****ty today. Like I am a total *******. I guess I am so sad and mad at myself.
elseaacych Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 I feel like I have made great progress towards my recovery, so some days it is hard to get on love shack, as it will leave me a little more down than when I logged on. It's hard to leave. 1
Shields boy Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 Feeling canny today. After a few beers last night I had a 3 hour rant to my friend about my nightmare of a childhood sweetheart. The guy said a few things which put things into perspective. I feel like I have released the demons which were stained on my conscience and can feel that I can start to truly let go. Think that was my problem. I never let anyone know of all the pain and destruction that I have suffered these last 6 years over that girl. My friend was gobsmaked as he didn't have me down as an emotional guy. I think my last encounter with that girl just opened up deep, deep wounds that took a few years to heal. They will not take as long to heal this time. The only way is up. That scrub of a girl smashed my heart 4 or 5 times and I still love her to bits. I'm the full package and it's her loss. Stay strong people.
Itspointless Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 The last few week have been ones of acceptance, this isn't going to change. But I cant say that I have peace with it entirely. I sometimes still have deep stings of sadness when my mind wanders off. She got me in my deepest depression this decade. I feel much better, but still. I still cannot apprehend how someone just can cut-off their emotions and suppress and suppress. I had the feeling I waited for her whole my life.
iheartgoodmusic Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 I am back to functioning like my normal self. Appetite and not feeling like I just need to get in the bed. He still crosses my mind. I'm no longer angry.
Justaguy30 Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 Its weird, just when I think I am doing better I start missing her again. The reality of the situation is that there is no way we could be together and after all the things I have said and done she would not want me back and all the crap that she did is unforgivable. I just thought we would be together forever and I miss her. I always missed her even when we were together. It was one of those I could have just sat on the couch with her for the rest of my life and been happy sort of things. I loved her and its so hard to get rid of that feeling. 2
love1336x Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 Today haven't been good, his friend haven't paid much attention to me. I know I shouldn't care what he friend does.... But, he's like my rock currently... something i am standing up before I hang myself I suppose... Without that I have a rope around my neck. I want to break NC for ten seconds (stalk his facebook) to check how he's doing, but i know i have to stop... and NOT do that. Ugh. this sucks.
Xemyd Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 I'm missing him like crazy tonight. I wish we could cuddle again, he always made me feel instantly better when he'd put his arm around me. 1
freebird31 Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 After everything. That hideous breakup. The mixed signals he gave me. The prolonged pain of the breakup all because he didn't want me out of his life entirely. The apology I never got . Now he "likes" my picture by accident. At this point, I have decided I don't want him anymore. I don't want to go back to that. I am dead through with this and ready to move on. Like I am just way too mentally drained of this guy. My heart still wants him and has love for him. But my mind is just tired and done with this guy. There's better people out there. And I deserve someone who knows what they want, someone who won't leave me. Someone I know will love me just as much as I love them. I know what I want and what I deserve. And as much as my heart still cares for him, my mind is through with him. I'm done and through. I'm ready to leave my ex boyfriend in the past. 1
Shields boy Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Was feeling good and fresh today. Then I took the step of digging out her number out of my old phone. Dialling it once, blocking her number then deleting it. I now feel very sad after I have done that. I never thought I would block someone I love but ignorance is bliss. No point going through life hoping she will call again someday. I feel it's a tragic end to 15 years worth of history of deep love, heartbreak, pain and destruction. Childhood sweethearts who could have easily spent the rest of their lives together, but the path of destiny would not allow it. I'm blocked and she is blocked haha. Onwards and upwards as they say after I have had a little cry. Peace.
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