BC1980 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Time does not heal. Makes it worse Not coping well at all today. Just miss him so much Keep going. You will have good and bad days. Just keep going. 1
JDPT Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Absolutely- you will have your ups and downs, it's completely normal. Continue to work on yourself, the pain eventually subsides. 1
BC1980 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Absolutely- you will have your ups and downs, it's completely normal. Continue to work on yourself, the pain eventually subsides. Eventually, the net gain has to be better than the sh*tty days right? Am I right? 1
Ally1993 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Keep going. You will have good and bad days. Just keep going. Don't think iv had one single good day and it's been almost 6 months since the breakup Thank you for the encouragement though, I appreciate it
Ally1993 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Eventually, the net gain has to be better than the sh*tty days right? Am I right? God I hope so, can't wait for the day when I'm healed and bounced back to the happy, confident woman I was before I met him 1
JDPT Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Eventually, the net gain has to be better than the sh*tty days right? Am I right? What we get out of these experiences is almost priceless. As uncomfortable as they are, as excruciating as it is, the aftermath is always conducive. And as they say "joy wouldn't feel so good if it wasn't for pain." We propel ourselves forward as we have been for as long as we've been doing it. There is still a better future to pave, the journey continues. 4
BC1980 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 Don't think iv had one single good day and it's been almost 6 months since the breakup Thank you for the encouragement though, I appreciate it D@mn, not even one good day. What's been going on? Have you been in NC?
BC1980 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 What we get out of these experiences is almost priceless. As uncomfortable as they are, as excruciating as it is, the aftermath is always conducive. And as they say "joy wouldn't feel so good if it wasn't for pain." We propel ourselves forward as we have been for as long as we've been doing it. There is still a better future to pave, the journey continues. I keep thinking I want to be one of the people I have talked to who came out on the other side. It's what keeps me going on the sh*t days. I know there has got to be something or someone out there that is better for me. 1
STM206 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 I think I'm dealing with the reality of everything right now. Feeling depressed and feeling lost as to what my next step in life needs to be. There has just been so much change lately, losing a partner, losing a friend along the way... Finding out the truth about everything. It's just a LOT to take in all at once. My brain is in overdrive right now.
Ally1993 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 D@mn, not even one good day. What's been going on? Have you been in NC? It's been on and off, we work really close near each other so I see him all the time. It's been almost one month of NC this week tho, it's gone fast
JDPT Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 I keep thinking I want to be one of the people I have talked to who came out on the other side. It's what keeps me going on the sh*t days. I know there has got to be something or someone out there that is better for me. I feel as if I lost sight of me, meaning this past experience has taught me once again that I still have more work to do. And I'm perfectly fine with that. I'm enjoying being single and doing as I please, I always did, I was just so wrapped up in wanting to solve someone else's problems that I neglected to take care of me. All the focus is on me from this point forward. I need to perform for myself and no one else. This is my journey and no one else's. Hang in there, we have been there we know how painful it is and we also know that in time it does get better. I'm now at the movies, by myself with a huge smile, no need to settle for less. The journey continues. 1
BC1980 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 It's been on and off, we work really close near each other so I see him all the time. It's been almost one month of NC this week tho, it's gone fast My recovery sped up once I committed to NC and starting looking at myself, as opposed to the relationship. It is a daily thing though. Baby steps. 2
Ally1993 Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 My recovery sped up once I committed to NC and starting looking at myself, as opposed to the relationship. It is a daily thing though. Baby steps. Some days I do feel better but the littlest thing can set me off and make me upset and I hate it. Thank you though, I hope I'm recovered soon
noelaniella Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 My recovery sped up once I committed to NC and starting looking at myself, as opposed to the relationship. It is a daily thing though. Baby steps. I agree. The second I broke NC it all came shattering down again. You have to be strong and take it one day at a time
uku383 Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 So I stupidly went onto Facebook and saw a post by my wife. Idjit!
JDPT Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 I can breathe a bit better today. I'm not certain what I want to do after work. I'm getting over this cold nicely and hope to resume my sauna sessions shortly. 1
martaldn Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 today is a week since last time i have seen him and spoken to him directly - NC from last Thursday . I have blocked him on facebook even if we werent friends but i dont want him to know what I am doing in any possible way. I am not looking forward to the day he will contact me again ( i know he will do it ) because as now I know It will be hard for me to not respond
RDawg Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 I think I might have chlamydia, took a course of antibiotics but I still have the symptoms. Maybe it's psychosomatic, I don't know. Feel ****y.
Miggy Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 10th day of NC and feel lost I guess. Keep thinking about them but also keeping myself busy. Started counselling sessions last night. That made me feel lighter 2
Weallwalkthelongroad Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 Emailed back and forth with my best friend that I've known since elementary school. He's married now and had gone through dealing with crazy girls and the BS they can sometimes bring to relationships. Really helped me to understand that I did nothing wrong and that I should give this new girl a chance. Can't compare the crazy of an ex to a new girl when the new girl hasn't given me any reason to...yet.
nohardfelines Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 You know what really sucks? That you've got somebody to comfort you. That you've already got someone to hug you and kiss you and tell you that divorce is the right thing to do. That you have someone you can call when you see me playing with the kids and feel like caving, someone to reassure you that destroying our little family will all be for the best. And I have no one.
AnyaNova Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 In that crappy middling crawling my way back up from a B vitamin crash place. Missing my ex a little and feeling like I'll never find anyone and I'll be alone forever. It'll pass. It always, thankfully does.
Miggy Posted March 19, 2014 Posted March 19, 2014 Angry this morning, tears this afternoon. This is just crazy
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