singme2sleep Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Woke up sad today, cried myself to sleep last night but it's nothing new. I still can't believe this all happened and it's not some bad dream.
stemac Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 Woke up sad today, cried myself to sleep last night but it's nothing new. I still can't believe this all happened and it's not some bad dream. Me too got horrible feeling inside am crying inside 2
singme2sleep Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I know this is an obvious statement, but it truly isn't fair. Billions of people on this planet and I only want that one man. Ok now I sound pathetic!
stemac Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I know this is an obvious statement, but it truly isn't fair. Billions of people on this planet and I only want that one man. Ok now I sound pathetic! Don't be silly you don't sound pathetic as all love is a very very powerful thing it's a physical and mental emotion and in the right relationship it's fantastic, I guarantee one day you will love someone else it's just a sad thing you have to get broken hearted to find it x 2
Cora Posted October 14, 2015 Posted October 14, 2015 I had a dream about him last night. I dreamt he responded to my closure text about how much he hurt me and wishing him well etc. His response was something like "it's not like what I did and dating someone else was a crime." He went on about other things too and his text was long, but I don't remember the rest. I woke up this morning feeling really angry.
singme2sleep Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I cried a lot again today. But my therapist says I have to cry, I have to grieve. Sometimes I think I've used up all my tears and then more flood me.
Cora Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I cried a lot again today. But my therapist says I have to cry, I have to grieve. Sometimes I think I've used up all my tears and then more flood me. I completely understand. It sucks! I'm sorry you're hurting. I feel the same way. Just when I think I've shed my last tear the flood gates open up again. Sigh... 1
singme2sleep Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I completely understand. It sucks! I'm sorry you're hurting. I feel the same way. Just when I think I've shed my last tear the flood gates open up again. Sigh... The other day I cried in Target, it's embarrassing.
Cora Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 The other day I cried in Target, it's embarrassing. Oh trust me I know! I've had a few close calls in some public places. I'd try to play it off like my allergies were acting up. I was having lunch with my mother yesterday and suddenly had the urge to cry because something she said reminded me of him. Luckily I was able to pull myself together that time. Last night I cried myself to sleep thinking about him which caused me to dream about him. I swear I wonder when this cycle is going to stop? 1
singme2sleep Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Oh trust me I know! I've had a few close calls in some public places. I'd try to play it off like my allergies were acting up. I was having lunch with my mother yesterday and suddenly had the urge to cry because something she said reminded me of him. Luckily I was able to pull myself together that time. Last night I cried myself to sleep thinking about him which caused me to dream about him. I swear I wonder when this cycle is going to stop? It feels never ending. And I've had other breakups before but none hurt like this. I thought I would someday marry him. 2
Cora Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 It feels never ending. And I've had other breakups before but none hurt like this. I thought I would someday marry him. It does feel never ending. I too have had other breakups and I know that it does initially get better because I got through my previous breakups, but this one is really kicking my butt for some reason. It's not even like we were together for that long. Only six months, but I fell in love with him so fast and so hard. He knew how to turn on the charm and I was hooked. I felt that for once in my life I finally got it right...found my dream man. Possibly the one I would marry and have children with. But then things took a 180 degree turn and he is making those dreams come true with another woman while I'm left shattered with only memories left of him. 1
singme2sleep Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 It does feel never ending. I too have had other breakups and I know that it does initially get better because I got through my previous breakups, but this one is really kicking my butt for some reason. It's not even like we were together for that long. Only six months, but I fell in love with him so fast and so hard. He knew how to turn on the charm and I was hooked. I felt that for once in my life I finally got it right...found my dream man. Possibly the one I would marry and have children with. But then things took a 180 degree turn and he is making those dreams come true with another woman while I'm left shattered with only memories left of him. I know just how you feel Cora and it sucks. I keep trying to tell myself that everything happens for a reason but I can't find a reason for this. I was very happy with him, I would wake up in the morning to a message from him on a daily basis and I thought to myself "I'm the luckiest girl in the world" but now I feel nothing but pain. I miss him like hell and each day isn't easier than the one before, they're harder.
Felicite Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 It feels never ending. And I've had other breakups before but none hurt like this. I thought I would someday marry him. I cried a lot again today. But my therapist says I have to cry, I have to grieve. Sometimes I think I've used up all my tears and then more flood me. I hate crying all the time, it makes you a human wreck, such a powerless situation. I see people move around me in a normal state and I can’t understand why I should go through this. It’s like living in a parallel world. And the fact that in time it gets better, is not so reassuring because sometimes it takes years, especially if other things don’t go well, they all add up, and it’s not easy to do something about it. 1
CT98 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I know just how you feel Cora and it sucks. I keep trying to tell myself that everything happens for a reason but I can't find a reason for this. I was very happy with him, I would wake up in the morning to a message from him on a daily basis and I thought to myself "I'm the luckiest girl in the world" but now I feel nothing but pain. I miss him like hell and each day isn't easier than the one before, they're harder. The reason will become apparent in time, I can't tell you how long but it really will. Trust me. 2
singme2sleep Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I hate crying all the time, it makes you a human wreck, such a powerless situation. I see people move around me in a normal state and I can’t understand why I should go through this. It’s like living in a parallel world. And the fact that in time it gets better, is not so reassuring because sometimes it takes years, especially if other things don’t go well, they all add up, and it’s not easy to do something about it. It is like living in a parallel world, good comparison.
Throldur Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I don't know if anyone is around, or left, that remembers my story.. But I just found out that my ex moved back home after 7 months of being away.. Apparently, one of her first moves, when moving back, was to make sure her friends not only deleted and blocked me from social media, but did the same to anyone who was close to me that they knew. I really don't know what that means. Don't know what to do. She's home and I won't contact her.. because it's clear she doesn't want to hear from me right now, likely embarrassed that I was right.. but after this much time, when she was the one who left, why did she care so much to make sure I don't know she's back?
wlh22 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I am actually not doing well today. Feeling depressed over a girl, who was either a flake, a psycho, an erratic person, insensitive person or a combination of the above. I really wish this never happened. I don't know if anyone is around, or left, that remembers my story.. But I just found out that my ex moved back home after 7 months of being away.. Apparently, one of her first moves, when moving back, was to make sure her friends not only deleted and blocked me from social media, but did the same to anyone who was close to me that they knew. I really don't know what that means. Don't know what to do. She's home and I won't contact her.. because it's clear she doesn't want to hear from me right now, likely embarrassed that I was right.. but after this much time, when she was the one who left, why did she care so much to make sure I don't know she's back?
singme2sleep Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I went out today to this outdoor street fair and seeing tons of couples holding hands didn't help me. Now I miss him more and I don't think he gives a damn about me.
NoMoreJerks Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Not coping well at all today. Had a setback. Was doing much better yesterday and the day before, and today I am just in tears, thinking of my gramma who passed away a week ago, and of my ex who dumped me a day before my gramma died. :(
NoMoreJerks Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I went out today to this outdoor street fair and seeing tons of couples holding hands didn't help me. Now I miss him more and I don't think he gives a damn about me. I know that feeling. I get it too. But if it's any consolation, you will at some point start being skeptical of relationships in general. I personally think of it like that -- that often, it is fake, it's just that one of the people in the supposedly happy couple hasn't discovered it yet. For all we know, the guy is going to dump her out of the blue (or the girl will dump the guy). You never know. After being dumped out of the blue, completely blindsided, dumped a day after he baked a cake for me and brought it to me, I no longer believe in honesty and would not find it hard to believe that most relationships are fake and are just continuing because each one is getting something out of the relationship (sex, emotional support, whatever). 2
NoMoreJerks Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 (edited) Apparently, one of her first moves, when moving back, was to make sure her friends not only deleted and blocked me from social media, but did the same to anyone who was close to me that they knew. I really don't know what that means. It means that she is an immature crybaby who likes playing the role of a victim. My ex did this -- demanded that his friends delete me from FB, and threatened to delete them from facebook if they didn't delete me.. so they (spineless as they are) deleted me. 3 days later, he broke down and contacted me, though. When I asked him why he demanded that they delete me, he said because they had told him that I had cheated on him emotionally by asking one of their mutual friends out (which was a lie). They claimed that they had known this for a long time (while we were still together) but hadn't told him that. So he got mad at them, for not telling him sooner, and that is why he thought they owed him that "favor." Edited October 18, 2015 by NoMoreJerks
jen_r Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I was doing okay a week ago. Started moving on, seeing someone new etc. But the past few days I have reverted back to obsessing about him and have been asking for him back. I'm so exhausted.
stemac Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Sat here alone feeling so so sad inside it's hurts I yearn for a hug from her to say everythings going to be OK
singme2sleep Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Sat here alone feeling so so sad inside it's hurts I yearn for a hug from her to say everythings going to be OK That desire kicks my ass every day. I just want my ex to get help and come back to me, I know deep down we belong together.
jenlynn Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I just posted a thread titled- Still Struggling and it's about to be a year which goes a bit more in depth. I guess I'm coping ok but there's still a lot of struggle. My life has been so up in the air the past year and I'm exhausted. My b/u (initiated and blindsided by him) has taken it out of me emotionally, financially, physically and mentally. I wonder if I will get better. I 'know' I will but it has been almost a year and here I am- still crying, heart still aching and trying to forge a new path with a lot of obstacles. I have been to therapy but there's a new type I will be trying in about a week. It's called EMDR. It's suppose to be good for trauma and grief which my b/u definitely fits the bill. Even that's hard thought b/c it's expensive (for me)- $135/session and I will be charging it on my credit card (which has become my new thing the last year) but I am desperate to feel better and feel that I can really move forward.
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