DK666 Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 So this is the first time i've cried from a ling time(i'm a guy) i felt so embarrassed but also relieved it feels like i let some sadness get out of my heart Needs to be done sometimes mate, I've had a crappy 4 days so far and I ended up crying today too, bearing in mind that I had an awesome set of 10 days before this so I thought I was well on the way to getting over things. These things have a way of sneaking up on you, make sure you don't repress it. I'm glad it helped you feel some relief, it certainly helped me letting it out.
Arda199 Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Needs to be done sometimes mate, I've had a crappy 4 days so far and I ended up crying today too, bearing in mind that I had an awesome set of 10 days before this so I thought I was well on the way to getting over things. These things have a way of sneaking up on you, make sure you don't repress it. I'm glad it helped you feel some relief, it certainly helped me letting it out. Yeah i had those days when you think you're finally over it and the next week you're having your worst days ever
Xiomn Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 I stopped masturbating because every time i do i think of her after that i get REALLY depressed I feel like that sometimes, other times I feel fine though. If I do feel down it's usually because I wish I was having sex with her instead of having to do it myself lol
Phoenixashes Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Having a really awful day today. I miss him more than anything. Feeling like they don't care at all is ****ing terrible. I feel like I'm never going to hear from him again and that depresses me so badly. Someone help pull me out of this slump, god It will pass. I absolutely promise you. Yes, it sucks...yes, that sinking, panicked "never again in my life will I be close to this person " feeling will come. But day by day Redirection Focus... 1
TunaCat Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I had an AMAZING trip to Disneyland with the family last week. I never thought I'd get to the point where I could go an entire week without thinking of the ex. But I did. Now that I'm back home, I keep thinking about him. I wish Disneyland was a daily thing. I'd be over him in a heartbeat if I had the fun of Disneyland around all the time. The vacation was EXACTLY what I needed because it showed me that I can stop thinking about him. It just may take some time to be able to do it on a daily basis. 3
Phoenixashes Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Thought of him a few times today. No strong feelings but some moments are more than "feeling nothing." I miss the company for sure.
Mathematics Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Woke up thinking about her quite heavily but finally starting to feel normal to be alone. Got a 5th date with a girl tonight which I am looking forward to. Summer rebound.. Probably but shes sweet and I am growing fonder of her. I think I was emotionally vacant on the early dates but I am slowly opening up. 1
YellowPetal Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I think I'm in the last phase of the post-break up period. I am still obsessing and there are times that I get so full of anger I feel like breaking all the dishes in the house, but I'm feeling so much better. I am starting to realize I am better off without someone who never really appreciated nor deserved me. I am a much better person than my cheating ex boyfriend, and I am grateful he is out of my life! He is someone else's problem now, and I don't even care what happens to him. Awful people will eventually destroy their own lives. I lost a lot of weight, used to throw up constantly and had awful nightmares for almost two months. So, if I could get over how horribly he made me feel, you can too! I'm sure tomorrow is going to be a bad day and I might throw up again, but this day is amazing and I know that soon I will never again think about my bastard ex. 4
KieranL Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Felt really low this last week.. Ex broke 6 weeks of nc, to feed me all the breadcrumbs in the world while she is still with the guy she left me for. Wish i could just snap out of this rut
finalendeavor Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Another really rough day. Can't stop feeling disposable. Literally dumped over text, completely out of the blue, when I didn't even do anything. This was a week after I came back from visiting him, spent hundred of dollars to see him. I feel ****ing terrible that he cared so little to treat me like that. I met his family and everything. I feel like I've gotten absolutely zero closure. We even looked at living spaces together. I was told by several people that it was not me or another girl, which makes me feel even worse. It's been over a month and I still bad, even though I haven't heard a single word from him since he left me. I feel so used. Sometimes I feel like I'm this great catch and that he'll certainly regret it, and then I'm washed over with this nagging feeling that he doesn't care at all or even think of me. And everything reminds me of him. We had so many things in common that all of my hobbies make me think of him.
Xiomn Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 How many of you go the gym? It really helps to get your mind off things, seriously. I've even found just being outside in public, being around people helps me, even that 15 minute walk to and from the gym I have to do every day to get there helps. I know I'm probably lucky than most people though because I'm at university so the gym I use is free of use. 2
finalendeavor Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 How many of you go the gym? It really helps to get your mind off things, seriously. I've even found just being outside in public, being around people helps me, even that 15 minute walk to and from the gym I have to do every day to get there helps. I know I'm probably lucky than most people though because I'm at university so the gym I use is free of use. I do, every single day. Cardio and weights, helps tremendously with attitude. Regardless of how angry or upset I am, I can always run / lift it off. I have to pay for my membership, but it's so worth it. 3
NVO Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 How many of you go the gym? It really helps to get your mind off things, seriously. I've even found just being outside in public, being around people helps me, even that 15 minute walk to and from the gym I have to do every day to get there helps. I know I'm probably lucky than most people though because I'm at university so the gym I use is free of use. The gym is my best friend haha. I go 5 times a week, it helps me a lot. Keeps my body and mind in shape. Only thing is, my ex is training in the same gym. Have not seen her though. She asked me a couple of weeks back if I was still going, because she does not see me around there anymore. I told her that I mostly train in the morning or evening. She replied that she also trains in the morning. Felt so stupid afterwards for telling her haha. But have not seen her since so I guess she's not that fit though. 2
Xiomn Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 The gym is my best friend haha. I go 5 times a week, it helps me a lot. Keeps my body and mind in shape. Only thing is, my ex is training in the same gym. Have not seen her though. She asked me a couple of weeks back if I was still going, because she does not see me around there anymore. I told her that I mostly train in the morning or evening. She replied that she also trains in the morning. Felt so stupid afterwards for telling her haha. But have not seen her since so I guess she's not that fit though. That's awkward lol. I don't know what I would have done in that situation, I'd like to think If I had said that to her I would of started working out in the evening to avoid her, but at the same time thinking about it maybe I would try and go when she goes and completely ignore her if she is there and give the impression I'm moving on and see if she reacts in any way. Maybe she asked you when you work out so she can avoid you! 1
NVO Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 That's awkward lol. I don't know what I would have done in that situation, I'd like to think If I had said that to her I would of started working out in the evening to avoid her, but at the same time thinking about it maybe I would try and go when she goes and completely ignore her if she is there and give the impression I'm moving on and see if she reacts in any way. Maybe she asked you when you work out so she can avoid you! Haha, I've already let al those options cross my mind. My mission is to vanish in to thin air, and so far I've succeeded. I could be endangering it by seeing her at the gym, but I don't mind. But I must admit I always feel some kind of tension when I go in: "Is she going to be there?" But I don't mind actually. I got my plan ready for when I bump into her at the gym. And after that I vanish again. May add something to the mystery hehe. 2
Ariess10 Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I'd have to switch gyms , I wouldn't wanna be in the same gym as her .. But that's just how I am healing 2
Arda199 Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I woke up this morning feeling down i decided to get up, wash my face and called my friends, we went shopping cause i needed new clothes after that i went to see my parents. Now i feel much better i hope i keep feeling this way 1
Chronograph Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I always, always, always feel better in the afternoon / evening. Mornings still suck! This morning I felt totally lost, lonely and overwhelmed with the things I have to get done. Could not decide what to do first, what I can do alone, where I should ask friends for help, and if yes, which friends (don't want to ask the same friends too often). Then, when I finally brought myself to go to the furniture store, I felt even more lost and lonely because of course all the other people there were couples or parents with little babies, who want to make their home more comfortable or who want to furnish their new dream home or God knows what. And I stood there alone and it felt so lonely to decide which dresser I need and all that. Self-pity, fear and loneliness. 2
imtrying211 Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Having a rough day. So many thoughts, feelings, emotions that I just can't seem to turn off. I need to move on but I'm not letting myself. I don't want to give up when I know I should, I have to. I don't want to stop talking to him, but I don't want to be just "friends". My heart is in control right now. How do I take back control?
SycamoreCircle Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I read over some of the correspondence between myself and my ex's mother around the time of the break up, concerning my feelings for her daughter. I'm 1 year, 4 months NC. I guess the thing that struck me is just how adult and developed my feelings compare to my ex. She was just so young! What was I thinking? She was 25 at the time and a naive 25. I feel foolish.
Learningtowalkagain Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 How many of you go the gym? It really helps to get your mind off things, seriously. I've even found just being outside in public, being around people helps me, even that 15 minute walk to and from the gym I have to do every day to get there helps. I know I'm probably lucky than most people though because I'm at university so the gym I use is free of use. It's my saving grace. I started to get addicted, because I knew I'd feel good despite how bad I was feeling. When I was with my ex she was such a time sucker that the gym became an afterthought. She's tiny like 5'4 115 and had a good diet. Mine went to ****, I put on a lot of weight. It sucked. We broke up in January, which was perfect because my resolution was to get down in weight. I dropped 35 lbs this year and for the first time in 10 years I'm under 200 lbs. I'm stronger than I've ever been, love seeing the definition in my body. I keep wanting more. I ran into my ex a few months ago and she said "you look younger" which made me feel incredible since I'm 39. Amazing what dropping some weight can do for your looks and attitude. I know a lot of you have problems coping. The best thing I did this past week was a self psychoanalysis. Learned a lot about myself from how my parents were and my upbringing. Learned how it makes me make the relationship choices I do. The whole thing was a real eye opener. 4
StrangerThanFiction Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Today started out pretty good until it started raining and I had to work in it and a ton of mud. Kinda made me cranky for the rest of the day. Then after I got off work my truck started acting up so now it had to go into the shop again for the second time in a month. Now I'm stressing about what it's going to cost me this time and am still cranky from earlier today. Just can't seem to catch a break lately...
Phoenixashes Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Feeling ok today...missing his presence. Lots of reminders of him today.
Xiomn Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Time feels like it's going so slow man... Has it seriously only been 1 week of NC? It feels like it's been months already. 2
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