How are you coping today?

[Twigyy]

Hoping that I wouldn't be seeing her anymore other than Wednesday classes which is beyond my control. Probably thinking about her more than I should.. But oh well. Wednesdays gonna suck but I hope I can keep my cool as usual, and enjoy my time. Sometimes after my daily routine j have extra time and I don't know what to do.. Haven't been checking my phone or checking her profiles lately and I hope I can keep it up.

[thorin]

Just found out my aunt has a big tumor. The almost-constant pain because of my ex, that lasted about 2 months, just dissapeared.

[Lonely hearts]

Just found out my aunt has a big tumor. The almost-constant pain because of my ex, that lasted about 2 months, just dissapeared.

I'm sorry thorin

I'm not coping well. Day 5. All I can think about is him I just want him to text me. I want to talk to him give my two cents worth. Crying non stop can't get excited about anything. I'm taking Ativan to sleep and sometimes in the day to be able to get through work without breaking down.

[ephemeralme]

Just found out my aunt has a big tumor. The almost-constant pain because of my ex, that lasted about 2 months, just dissapeared.

so sorry, for your Aunt. Perspective sometimes does help. blessings to your Aunt.

[ephemeralme]

I heard a bluebird today---

and you aren't there to share my joy for it.

you bought me the houses, the posts...we placed them together.

 

 

YOU left, you left me, this, the little joys.

 

 

the bluebirds .... of happiness.

 

 

are still here ..... but not to share with you.

 

 

tears............falling like the rain.

[10yearsgoneaway]

2 months after the break up, but I'm back at day 1.

 

He used our Mylowes card and so Lowes emailed me thanking me for my purchase. I logged in and saw he bought new blinds and some wall art.

 

This was once my home too.

 

This set me back to day 1

 

I logged in a deleted the account so it won't happen again. but the damage is done for today.

[minimariah]

I logged in a deleted the account so it won't happen again. but the damage is done for today.

 

but tomorrow is a brand new day.

 

[jalapeno86]

Wow, reading that Thorin's aunt has a tumor makes sense to me. I realize how these emotions can just come and go. It's just that when they are here it's hard to manage. Should I speak to a professional?

[TunaCat]

I am doing so much better!

 

I've given up on counting the days since the BU. That's a big deal for me.

 

I don't even care if he contacts me. I'm honestly happy for the first time since the breakup.

[Throldur]

I don't know how to do it, guys.

 

She moved away so it should be easy for me to accept its over and the prospects of her coming back are slim. Not only that, but if it were to happen, it would be so far down the line.. so why do I still have this hope, why do I keep wishing and hoping, hey, this is the day she might contact me and say, I made a huge mistake. She's only 1/3rd of the way through the honeymoon phase at this point.

 

I know I have to put her out of my mind. I know that's the only way to not only heal but it's really the only way that what I want can happen. I just don't know how to put her out of my mind. She's there when I go to bed, she's there when I do something, she's there when I shower, she's just there..

 

I really wish I could shake the feeling that we are not over yet despite everything that happened. I really don't feel that finality of it. Just a hunch. I really wish I could shake the feeling that she is my soul-mate and I screwed it up, when the problem was never me, it was that she had one foot out the door which means it was easier to run if things didn't change than it was to fight for it. I'll still blame myself.

 

I hate that literally I learned all the lessons I needed to and that my personal landscape has changed to the level it needed for her to be as happy as she needed to be in our relationship, but she's not here anymore so now it seems pointless. Why did things resolve themselves after the right time? Why do we learn the things we need to when it is far too late?

 

I need to find a way to lie to myself. Tell myself that if its meant to be, it will be. Tell myself that if I attracted a girl like that before I can do it again. I just don't know how to lie to myself. I'm too much of a pessimist/realist.

[TrevorDia]

Oh my god (a phrase I rarely say) - I can't believe how much I'm missing her.

 

Each day without sending her a message just to talk about our day seems like a lifetime.

 

I was sure she was the one - and when I think of my future, I still see nothing but her. I know I'm wrong, but my heart won't accept it. I want her to be happy (even though she's a complete bitch), but I want to be happy too! And somehow I don't see that happening without her. She might be annoying as hell, foul as hell, and amorous with every guy she seems to come across, but she's been my best friend and confidante for the past 3 years - she knows more about me than I even remember about myself. And it SUCKS that everything ended this way. I know everything happens for a reason, but whatever this reason is, it's a really bad deal for me.

 

It's only been since Monday that I've been without her - and I know she's seeing someone else - and I'm fine with her seeing someone else as long as he treats her right, I just wish I didn't have to lose her as a friend.

 

I miss her like crazy.

[Throldur]

Alright, **** this.

 

She left me. She ran. She made a mistake. I'm going to prove it to her.

 

Have fun with your loser Ontario boyfriend who doesn't do anything. I'm sure it's a boat-load of fun being with someone who has no hobbies, no ambition and doesn't give a **** about you other than your body.

[Nelsonfloyd5]

Not too good, today is Sunday but it might as well be called Boringday.

 

Fantasizing that we would go have lunch, head to the beach, have dinner then back home. Say our good byes' followed by a lovely kiss. Get home and have a text written by her that she had an amazing time (how she used to).

 

But all of it is a fantasy, I have to accept that it will never happen, not with her not with anyone. Like I told my friend the other day, "You can't be lucky all the time". In love I am one of the unlucky ones so accept it I will.

 

Time to move on to things that make me, at the very least, not think about her.

 

Good bye love.

[tryingtodealwithit]

haven't posted in a while. i'm doing ok. it's been almost a year. i can't quite believe it.

 

had some contact with my ex a few weeks ago. turns out life has not been kind to her since the split. she was kind of "poking" at me trying to get me to contact her by making indirect contact. i got an "accidental" text message that i ignored and then she went and contacted a family member of mine on social media. turns out she wanted to apologize and clear her conscious/karma for how badly she treated me since life has been doing her in.

 

she was like the old person i remember again. nice to me again. she asked if we could talk more. we ended up texting every other day or so for a couple of weeks and then she just started to fade on me. our last contact was her sending me a text in the morning at work and then once i replied i never heard back from her. that was like 2 weeks ago.

 

i've been having a lot of success dating, so i'm ok with moving on. however, seeing how she just treated me again... it makes the apologies feel cheap. they weren't about me. she didn't feel bad about how she treated me until life was being unkind to her. the apologies were for her. she was nice to me and friendly just long enough to clear her conscious and then she was off again. i can honestly say i don't think i'll ever respond to any contact from her again. can't believe i spent almost 5 years with a person like that.

 

i still get some bad anxiety over the whole thing at times. typically on sundays. i've always hated sundays. i always feel empty on sundays. i'm looking forward to when the day comes that i honestly do not care even the tiniest bit about her or how she treated me. god knows she doesn't deserve any part of my emotions. i'm getting there though. it won't be too much longer i think. i've really started to feel like myself again the last few months which is so encouraging. staying strong.

[Brokenpenguin]

It's been a while, I started to get back on my feet and was slowly but surely recovering. Then she sent me a happy birthday message and then a few weeks ago I got a happy birthday message, I replied, was not a good idea and now find myself in a really messed up situation

[Zetec]

I need to move away.

 

Living in such a small city - I hate the fact you live just a 10 minute drive from where I am currently living. I have to go to your side of the river to go to the supermarket, and get to work. I also know that to get to your new boyfriends house you have to drive through my side of town.

 

I haven't seen you since the breakup (3 months now) but I just know it will happen one day if I stay here. You have got such a popular make of car - they are everywhere, all in the same colour. Every time I see one my heart skips a beat, and I breath a sigh of relief that it isn't you.

 

I can't go on like this. It is making me anxious. I can't go to town through fear of seeing you. Not seeing you is helping me a lot at the moment and I would like to keep it that way, without resorting to becoming a hermit that never leaves the house.

 

I may be running away from my problems, but if that's what I need to do then I will.

 

Besides, its not like anyone will miss me here. I have no friends at all. The only person I will be leaving is my younger brother is only person that has stopped me from ending my life. I love him more than he will ever realise. We are more than brothers, we are best mates. I will miss him a lot.

 

Worried and scared about what the future holds for me, and no-one to really chat to about it. I feel so alone.

[Twigyy]

After buying art supplies yesterday, me and my sister went for dinner. Then I realised that I was sitting at the exact spot, eating the exact same food I had with my ex girlfriend. I lost my appetite immediately.. It has been 12 hours since then, but I'm still feeling absolutely horrible. I wish I didn't step into the restaurant, I wish I didn't order the same food, I wish I don't have to go through all these. I am no where near being happy. I want to be happy again..

[TrevorDia]

It's been a week since I made my final goodbye to her, and it's killing me. I don't know how long I can last. I know in the end, I've come out the winner, I'm keeping active at the gym, and in the daytime I've got my court papers to work through (lawyer, not Defendant), but I can't stop thinking about her.

 

She was my best friend, and it sucks that I've lost the friendship too now. But she's got a scumbag boyfriend, and she's fickle... as long as she has anyone else, she's happy without me. I have to accept that she's not the one for me - even though every fiber of my being has told me that she's the one.

 

Here's to hoping it all starts getting easier from here...

[TunaCat]

Well there goes another acquaintance. I was talking with this acquaintance earlier today and the conversation was not fun.

 

Her: You know C is in another relationship now.

Me: I don't want to hear anything about him.

Her: I thought you loved him. If you truly loved him, you'd fight for him.

 

Then she went on a tirade about how NC is a game and that only immature people play it.

 

Her: He'd come back to you if you only fought for him.

Me: I will not be someone's option. If he wanted to work things out with me, he should have communicated his needs before he dumped me.

Her: He deserves someone better. Someone who will fight for him. Someone who won't be afraid to commit.

 

I hung up on her after that. I know I let the conversation go on too long. I should have hung up earlier. I honestly thought she was calling to check on me. Then I seriously contemplated if she was right. If I should have fought for him harder instead of calmly accepting the break up.

 

An hour later, I brushed it all off, deleted her from FB and signed myself up for a sushi making class. I've always wanted to learn how to make sushi and I'm finally gonna learn.

[AIJ]

3 months post break up and I'm actually very well. Think it's safe to say I'm over her, although this has only really came about in the past few weeks. The first 2 or so months of the break up were awful! Glad I'm at the point I am now, I'm sure I'll be back on here in a few years time with another heartbreak, how exciting!

[ApexTitanium]

Ive been extremely nice to her these past few months after what she has done to me. She has said some of the meanest things and i still was nice....atleast i know im not a bitter person.

She text me two days ago saying she was sorry. I know it was to relieve her own guilt. I honestly dont care anymore.....she has broken me so badly all i know is pain....thats it.

Guess ill see how far ill last until i give up permanently...

[thorin]

How am I coping today? How am I? I just had a threesome with her best girlfriend, and her friend. Wow, what is wrong with me. I need to sober up. **** What have I done?

[Zetec]

Well there goes another acquaintance. I was talking with this acquaintance earlier today and the conversation was not fun.

 

Her: You know C is in another relationship now.

Me: I don't want to hear anything about him.

Her: I thought you loved him. If you truly loved him, you'd fight for him.

 

Then she went on a tirade about how NC is a game and that only immature people play it.

 

Her: He'd come back to you if you only fought for him.

Me: I will not be someone's option. If he wanted to work things out with me, he should have communicated his needs before he dumped me.

Her: He deserves someone better. Someone who will fight for him. Someone who won't be afraid to commit.

 

I hung up on her after that. I know I let the conversation go on too long. I should have hung up earlier. I honestly thought she was calling to check on me. Then I seriously contemplated if she was right. If I should have fought for him harder instead of calmly accepting the break up.

 

An hour later, I brushed it all off, deleted her from FB and signed myself up for a sushi making class. I've always wanted to learn how to make sushi and I'm finally gonna learn.

 

Wow, what a thoughtless, horrible conversation that must have been. i felt for you reading that.

Good on you for hanging up and deleting her off Facebook. You don't need people like that in your life.

 

Enjoy the sushi making class! I made sushi once and it was great fun (and much harder than it looks!!)

[na49]

Well there goes another acquaintance. I was talking with this acquaintance earlier today and the conversation was not fun.

 

Her: You know C is in another relationship now.

Me: I don't want to hear anything about him.

Her: I thought you loved him. If you truly loved him, you'd fight for him.

 

Then she went on a tirade about how NC is a game and that only immature people play it.

 

Her: He'd come back to you if you only fought for him.

Me: I will not be someone's option. If he wanted to work things out with me, he should have communicated his needs before he dumped me.

Her: He deserves someone better. Someone who will fight for him. Someone who won't be afraid to commit.

 

I hung up on her after that. I know I let the conversation go on too long. I should have hung up earlier. I honestly thought she was calling to check on me. Then I seriously contemplated if she was right. If I should have fought for him harder instead of calmly accepting the break up.

 

An hour later, I brushed it all off, deleted her from FB and signed myself up for a sushi making class. I've always wanted to learn how to make sushi and I'm finally gonna learn.

 

I felt sick reading this. That's not someone you need to keep talking to. People fight for the relationships when they are in them, not after they are over. NC isn't a game. It's how some people choose to move on. That girl isn't your ex, so she has no idea whether or not he'd take you back if you fought for him. Also that nonsense about "if you loved him, you'd fight for him".. :sick::sick:

 

Plus, if someone dumps someone, why the hell is the person who got dumped expected to fight? You handled it really well. Nice job signing yourself up for a sushi making class. That should be really interesting!

[TrevorDia]

Now into 8 days of Non-Contact, and I absolutely hate it.

 

Removed her from everything, deleted her number - and because it's some crazy foreign number, it's not imprinted on my mind; removed her from Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Whatsapp; pretty much everything I had her on.

 

Went to work, had a pretty strong case and performed well - only thought about her a few times over the course of the day and I thought things were going well.

 

So I load up Facebook when I get home and my friend has sent me a message saying "Don't check her profile, I'm begging you".

- Her and her new boyfriend have gone "public", and to make it worse, her once private FB profile is wide open for all the world to see (just like her legs). They're both so happy and in love. It makes me sick. I hate her. I love her. I don't see why people like her don't get their comeuppance. Why does everything work out well for people like that?

 

Anyway, I punched through my laptop screen, so now that's laying there on the floor, and now I'm just sat here feeling sorry for myself - cos there sure as hell ain't nobody else who's gonna do it. It's just turned midnight and I think it's time to open the bottle of vodka.

 

It isn't fair that it's the people who get hurt who have to endure the suffering. I just wish she had to go through just one day of what I go through every day.

 

Anyway, here's to hoping it can only get better from here