MagicRat09 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Depressed and Anxious. The person I'm trying to get over is not in great health and that makes it so much more agonizing. But they're not looking to be with me, or even reaching out to me for help.
MagicRat09 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 i think that something is wrong with me. im a really emotional and VERY jealous person. i dont think i deserve someone normal. i think i should be with someone who is just as messed up as i am. maybe it would work out somehow. Me too. My jealousy has always been my downfall.
mangetout Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Can't believe I would come to this day...but I am happy to say that .I don't care about you anymore. It's gone literally overnight. My love for you has vanished. 3
dyna85 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Can't believe I would come to this day...but I am happy to say that .I don't care about you anymore. It's gone literally overnight. My love for you has vanished. I'm so envious of you mangetout. So so envious. How long has it been for you? I'm so hoping to reach that point someday. My heart is such a fool for punishment. 1
xpaperxcutx Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 I'm coping so much more than I was yesterday. To share my story- my ex dumped me for another girl. This time around ( second time he's dumped me), I'm much more calm and accepting of the situation. I have so many friends to talk to, and I am also in therapy. So even if I wanted to cry, I cried out all my sorry already in the last 4 days. I have no tears left. In fact, I am accepting the situation and I feel like everything will be better soon enough for me. 1
freebird31 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Trying this online dating again. I know im pathetic. I just am drawl rarely searching for a way to stop thinking of my ex. But talking to these guys, only makes me miss my ex so much more. I miss talking to the last guy I was talking to he understood me. But I kept thinking about my ex with him too ...ugh
freebird31 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I don't think I'm going to be able to move on. Until the day I see my ex married. I can't date anyone else because I'm not fully over him. And I'm not over the hope that I still have for us. If I were to get into another relationship, I might really like that guy maybe even love him...but it will always be second best to my ex. And that is selfish. And if my ex ever came back, I would leave that person for my ex honestly. I am not fit for a relationship I guess. I just have this hope still. Me and my ex are still young. And until he marries another woman, I cannot seem to let go. Call me crazy. but HE is what I want. And I would honestly wait until the end of time for him. Even though it has already been almost 2 years.
freebird31 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 My ex is honestly the only person I want and need. And I could see myself spending forever with him. And that's a lot for someone to say, that's a lot for me to say. But it's been two years and instead of getting over him, I have only just realized how deep my love is for him. How serious, how true and pure it is. That's once in a lifetime kind of thing. I don't think I can have that kind of love for someone else. I can't give up on us. I mean, I literally can't do it. My heart won't let me. I have tried so many damn times. My ex is what I want and I would wait until the end of forever for him, for us. Anyone else would just be second best to me. Anyone else would just be settling. :|
iDoodleEveryday Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 52days post BU. Still think of her all the time. But i kind of force myself to a limit. Like once an hour and then shorten it. Like once a day. Now i am at twice a day. It still hurts especially with vdays coming this weekend. Doesn't help that I am running into her around school all the time too.
ralfgarnett Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 My ex is honestly the only person I want and need. And I could see myself spending forever with him. And that's a lot for someone to say, that's a lot for me to say. But it's been two years and instead of getting over him, I have only just realized how deep my love is for him. How serious, how true and pure it is. That's once in a lifetime kind of thing. I don't think I can have that kind of love for someone else. I can't give up on us. I mean, I literally can't do it. My heart won't let me. I have tried so many damn times. My ex is what I want and I would wait until the end of forever for him, for us. Anyone else would just be second best to me. Anyone else would just be settling. :| Yep me too, I feel exactly the same way about my wife you summed it up well.
NopeNah Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Great today! After ignoring her lame wave crap and starting up a couple new ventures. I'm better without her and always have been! Even she has said this in the past. She sucked my energy and drive for what makes me happy and prosperous. Cheers guys! 1
na49 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I wanted to run into to her today so I could look straight past her and pretend she doesn't exist. Well, I kind of saw her, don't know if she saw me. Seeing her go about her business like nothing is wrong just kills me. I don't even believe she is putting on a face, when I saw her Facebook a few days ago, it looks like she is loving life now that I'm gone. So how am I coping? Well, not very well right now... I miss her like crazy, and wish she'd come back.
RedButton Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 I wanted to run into to her today so I could look straight past her and pretend she doesn't exist. Well, I kind of saw her, don't know if she saw me. Seeing her go about her business like nothing is wrong just kills me. I don't even believe she is putting on a face, when I saw her Facebook a few days ago, it looks like she is loving life now that I'm gone. So how am I coping? Well, not very well right now... I miss her like crazy, and wish she'd come back. I would remove her from Facebook and then use your willpower to not check on her. It's not going to benefit you at all. 1
kenmore Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 (edited) Coping today by working, drinking and now, having fun with some new ladies in my life. My wife throwing me out of the house and subsequently me getting a new career has sent me into this odd new existence where before I was alone working at the house all day, now I am out, about and talking to / spending time with many beautiful women! While that's very nice (and trust me it is!!!) I still crave my wife and want her only. During my Real Estate days I often spend entire days with two incredibly beautiful young women (too young for me, but we have our fun talking) and at my new workplace, there are fully six hot young women (same problem, though some are close in age.) Of course there are hundreds of gorgeous women in the area taking lunch breaks at...lunchtime. Many check me out as I do them. I still won't move while I'm married. I just won't. Still, it's nice to be noticed, and I know I am! This goes for all places. So, back to coping: Enjoying all of that, but still keeping myself so friggin busy I have no time to care about her. Working seven days a week and from (today for example 4:30a to 8:30p.) Of course I usually don't work that long, but I still stay busy. That is my key! Benefit: hopefully more money in the long run, and for now, no inner turmoil. It's win-win!...for now. Edited February 13, 2015 by kenmore
FancyFace Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 So I have a date in the next couple of hours... I met this guy last week Thursday when I went out with my friend. He seemed wishy washy so I didnt take him seriously, I even deleted his number. Then on Monday he said that he wants to see me, and asked when am I free? I said Friday and that I would wait to hear from him. Today is Friday and I didnt even dress up for work or expect him to call and he did just now to confirm we are going out and where would I like to go. Thank goodness I always have a pair of heels and my makeup bag in the car so I can spruce up my look. Loveshackers, I have to admit that this feels so weird to me. It feels like two minutes ago, I was somebodies dedicated, loving, loyal girlfriend to the man I thought I was gonna marry, and here I am now a single girl going on dates. I feel overwhelmed, nervous and just I don't know. I feel out of sorts. I am not expecting this guy to be my prince charming, far from it, but it just feels weird. On an intellectual level I knew I would date eventually but I didnt think it would be this soon (two months post BU) and I didnt think about how it would translate emotionally. Wish me luck good people. Will be back with an update later.
Cupid's Puppet Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 My therapist said that I am starting to show disengagement from my ex. Funny how he picked up on that. I wish I had someone for V-day. Hormones kicking it, and the sex drive seemed to return. I would have loved some amazing V-day sex. Instead, I get to hear my neighbors getting it on.
na49 Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 I was coping alright today. I had the feelings of missing her, wanting to message her, and whatnot. but then I reminded myself that I don't want to be "that crazy ex". She already has a crazy ex who she never completely blocked when we were together. I won't give her that satisfaction of sticking around in her life as a friend after she's thrown me away twice.
ralfgarnett Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 I got through yesterday ok, I don't even think I cried yesterday, the nagging was still there but not as bad, could it be that I am on the road to feeling better.
MagicRat09 Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 I think on this day of all days my heart is tired of feeling lousy all the time and might just be ready to move on. Let's hope
kenmore Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 So I have a date in the next couple of hours... I met this guy last week Thursday when I went out with my friend. He seemed wishy washy so I didnt take him seriously, I even deleted his number. Then on Monday he said that he wants to see me, and asked when am I free? I said Friday and that I would wait to hear from him. Today is Friday and I didnt even dress up for work or expect him to call and he did just now to confirm we are going out and where would I like to go. Thank goodness I always have a pair of heels and my makeup bag in the car so I can spruce up my look. Loveshackers, I have to admit that this feels so weird to me. It feels like two minutes ago, I was somebodies dedicated, loving, loyal girlfriend to the man I thought I was gonna marry, and here I am now a single girl going on dates. I feel overwhelmed, nervous and just I don't know. I feel out of sorts. I am not expecting this guy to be my prince charming, far from it, but it just feels weird. On an intellectual level I knew I would date eventually but I didnt think it would be this soon (two months post BU) and I didnt think about how it would translate emotionally. Wish me luck good people. Will be back with an update later. I'm curious how it went and how you feel FF. Part of me feels that if I started dating it would help me "get over" my wife but part of me feels I would hate myself. Of course the difference is I'm currently married. I would never date while married. It's just not my nature, but when this divorce goes through, it may take being with someone else to truly be free. Please tell me it was wonderful! Ken
ForgingAhead Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Saw my ex today (she lives upstairs) TWICE!! I noticed my mind didnt start obsessing, nor did I start to miss her or anything.. It was as if I saw a stranger, she still has a nice body and I was kinda checking her out, but it quickly changed when I began telling myself " She cheated on you, forget it!". The minor physical appeal shifted towards not giving a f**k. Im moving out tomorrow morning, and it's bitter sweet, just the memories, and plans we had to spend the rest of our days together and have a family (she has kids and so do I). Im coping by cleaning, packing, visiting this forum, and just looking forward to starting a new chapter in my life with the people who love me the most, my 2 kids! Other than that I have to allow myself to feel whatever, acknowledge it, and continue working on myself. I'm not in the headspace to really date, even though I have signed up on some dating sites, but it's just browsing... Kinda seeing whats out there, and not overly impressed.. Its most likely my perception, and still feeling pain from having my life flipped upside down, but this has made me stronger, and my old self (jaded, confident, get mine!) attitude is emerging.. Time to become the lion! 2
NopeNah Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 My drunken escapade with the ex, the other night, has really did a number on me! Not sure what I'm feeling..confusion? Emptiness? Weakness?..Whatever it is...I DON'T like it! I was so far "gone" and making progress past her! Damn it!
i11 Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 V day is a total blow, not in a good way, so stressing and depressing, after 8 years, why am I still feeling like this? I deserve much much better than this.
love1336x Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 Ugh. Only when I see you does my mind go insane.
kenmore Posted February 15, 2015 Posted February 15, 2015 .. Its most likely my perception Same! My wife has an incredibly beautiful face when she smiles, but not so much when she looks "normal". Her boobs are awesome! Her ass is just shapely, but is (as she puts it) flat. I love a woman with curves and she has them (no mistaking her for a man), but there are hotter women in the world. Somehow the combo has me reeling. I don't want to lack any of the things in the future that my wife has. If I can find another woman who has all that and more, then f*ck me! I am at an age where I don't want to settle. I have my desires and will find it so damned hard to find a woman who meets my needs anymore. It's perception. Given time, mine will change, I know that. So will yours. You will find a new woman who meets your needs and your perception will shift to suit her. I have already met a new woman who would have never met my needs normally, but in the light of my situation, turns me on very much! My needs are already changing and I don't know if I like that! I want my f*ckng wife!!! That's all I have wanted all along. I find it sh*tty that I can't have her! If I must move on, then I will want a beautiful woman (to me) first, a nice shapely ass and legs second and nice breasts third. Sorry to generalize, but those things will be important to me. Income won't mean s*it. Sigh!! Okay, another wonderful damned crappy day. No income, no love and just a few outlets to vent. F*ck it, life is just ready to improve, right? It has to, right? 2
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