How are you coping today?

[Itspointless]

That hasn't been a day that she has not been on my mind. Everyday there she is again. Really accepting something is a hell of a bitch.

[tryingtodealwithit]

tonight is just rough. i miss her tonight. not in the heart-wrenching, agonizing way though. it doesn't hurt. i'm able to just feel it and accept it without pain. i simply just miss her. i've met and talked to other women. hell, i'm texting with one right now as i type this. it's just not the same though. i miss my best friend and hope she is doing well.

[RedButton]

tonight is just rough. i miss her tonight. not in the heart-wrenching, agonizing way though. it doesn't hurt. i'm able to just feel it and accept it without pain. i simply just miss her. i've met and talked to other women. hell, i'm texting with one right now as i type this. it's just not the same though. i miss my best friend and hope she is doing well.

 

God, I know that feeling. Sometimes I see something funny or something that reminds me of an in-joke we had and want to turn and tell her about it.

 

This morning I woke up thinking about her and a fight/moment we had and it nearly ruined my day. I was considering taking a day off from work, but dragged myself in anyway and feel better for it. I gave myself half an hour before leaving to sort things out in my head so it wouldn't sit with me all day and that helped.

[Light Breeze]

How am I coping today? Not really good.. But, I am very determined not to suffer anymore. I just tell to myself that I will move on. I will move on. I will move on...

[tryingtodealwithit]

I'm not coping any better today than I was last night. I don't know what's going on with me. I had made peace with everything and was fine. I'm sitting here convinced that I'm going to get a text from her any moment now. I'm just waiting for it. It's almost absurd. Apparently I am not good at dealing with these kinds of matters.

[DenverDude]

I just want to f'ing scream right now. I am soooooo freaking frustrated at myself. Here I am, yet again, in another funk at work. Can't get her out of my head. I just keep seeing her image in my head, and hearing her voice, and imagining her smile and thinking I am going to come home to her, but she has been moved out for a long time now. UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[NopeNah]

I went on a bit of a binge over the past weekend/into tue. It wasn't just her,but a lot of things I'm dealing with. BAD idea! Broke NC with no response..actually glad she didn't..pathetic! I know we don't work! So,i'm stepping away from the bottle! Today's been better,seeing things more clearly. workout,shopping,dinner cooking,ect. Actually forgot to plug in my slow cooker and thought about how pissed she would be about eating an hour later than planned. Booze and breakups=not good!

[tryingtodealwithit]

I went on a bit of a binge over the past weekend/into tue. It wasn't just her,but a lot of things I'm dealing with. BAD idea! Broke NC with no response..actually glad she didn't..pathetic! I know we don't work! So,i'm stepping away from the bottle! Today's been better,seeing things more clearly. workout,shopping,dinner cooking,ect. Actually forgot to plug in my slow cooker and thought about how pissed she would be about eating an hour later than planned. Booze and breakups=not good!

 

yeah, booze is bad when in this state. i learned that the hard way. i don't drink anymore at all at this point.

 

even still, i'm super miserable tonight. i really don't get it. i was doing so well with everything. i'd probably take her back right now which would be a HUGE mistake. i pray this passes and i'm back to how i've been tomorrow. just need a good night of sleep i think!

[CaliGypsy]

Not well at all today. I'm about to if at all possible, make it even worse.

 

I'm over this year

[The Poster]

I have bad days, I have better days, and then I have days like today where the anguish is so strong I just want to die.

[Arient]

Have been doing quite well lately, ex has become a more and more distant memory, which again, made me feel sad. Finally managed to activate and complete the profile in one OnlineDating page, the easiest step was done. After surfing here and there, just felt tired, very afraid that I'm starting to lose interest in finding love. Maybe I'd better grab something, make some plans to start my business instead.

[WillLoveAgain]

I am not coping at all. I couldn't sleep last night...woke up in the middle of the night and my thoughts immediately turn to the him...I now have butterflies in my stomach and pain in my chest because i am missing him so much! i need some relief. I am sick and tired of this feeling.When will all the negative emotion end. He pulled the rug from underneath me and i still love him! ****! I'm pissed off!

[RedButton]

Coping better than yesterday. Going out to lunch with co-workers today, then going out with friends tonight as well. This week has been odd, been thinking about my ex a lot and missing her company. It's not devastating but always in the back of my mind.

[Athens58]

My wife and I separated a year ago... we had 9 years of a bad marriage we both were not able to understand each other and fought constantly about arguments we had years ago... neither one of us was willing to forgive. On December 2nd I had enough and she said it was over so I moved out of our house. Within three weeks she left our home and moved into an apartment. For the next 6 or 7 months we remained close still talking and helping each other with the kids. I never filed for divorce because I always had hope we would be able to work it out.

 

 

I took the children them to my place whenever she needed a break or was sick or just because I wanted them to spend the night. Through the summer I noticed her becoming more and more distant to the point that it bothered her that I contacted her. In October she served me with divorce papers and told me she was ready to move on. I didn't want my marriage to end so I attempted to let her know that I loved her and that I wanted to make it work... the more I tried the angrier she became.

 

 

In November my son told me that she was dating someone, she would go out to dinner with new guy friends and then take the kids to their place or have them come over to her apartment. I felt awful, I just wanted to die... I couldn't imagine my life without her after all we had gone through all of the hard work I had put into our marriage.

 

 

She told me that I was never able to talk to her and she felt locked out of my heart. I loved my wife and provided in every way that I knew how but in the end it wasn't enough. I know she still loves me because my children tell me that she cries in her room and she's asked the kids to stop talking about me because she misses me. So what the hell

 

 

I finally had the strength to hire an attorney to monitor the child parenting plan, child support and holiday schedule. She's upset because she believes that she's doing me a favor by giving me joint custody of our children... We've done split custody since we separated, she just doesn't want to put it on paper.

 

 

I feel so lost and numb... I see her sometimes when she drops the kids off and it's like I don't know that person... I feel my feelings for her starting to dissipate. The only feeling I get is when somehow I think about her being with another man, then I feel my heart drop

 

 

I know I should be happy with what I have, I have a great job as a social worker, a handsome 7 year old son and a beautiful 4 year old daughter, a great family support system and my health. I have gotten better though, I went through the "poor me" pity party, spent days without eating and isolated myself from everyone, I am finally able to sleep without sleep aids or antidepressants. I guess I'm just wondering now what?

 

 

I still love her and she tells me that she loves me still but is love enough?

[tryingtodealwithit]

today is ok. better than i've been the last couple. it's been 7 months and we've had very limited contact, but somehow i just feel like the whole thing isn't over yet. i mean, i'm not sitting here just waiting for her to come back, but i have this feeling in my gut that tells me it's not over. and who knows, maybe i'm wrong.

 

i do miss her today. it's still the kind i can deal with though. it doesn't hurt or ruin my mood. feels good to finally be at that point at least. i hope she is doing well. i still love her and want good things for her.

[DenverDude]

Not really coping too well at the moment. I feel weird. It's hard to explain. I feel lost and empty. I really miss my ex at the moment. All I want is a hug from her. That is all.

[Justaguy30]

I was doing really good for a while but lately I feel like I have just fallen apart. My family is mad at me because I am so depressed I can barely function. I just feel like giving up and I don't know where to turn. I feel like I have lost my mind. Its just so hard even getting out of bed some days. It being almost Christmas is hard as well, I miss having a family. Hopefully things turn around.

[Dobie]

The hurt is acute , I'm barely able to do most normal things but I do I have to ..anxiety is a bitch.. So hurt by how cold she has been its like I'm dead to her . feel like I'm living in a wreck of a life ..feel disoriented ...house is a shell .. Memories ..hurt ...pain urghh so many things to sort out .

[Cupid's Puppet]

I feel like people are laying it on thick during this time. So many stories about celebrities getting engaged, getting married, having their first baby, etc. Just makes me think of the what if's, and that has brought me down lately.

 

 

I will spend the holidays alone, too. I had a friend make up a song about being lonely for Christmas after I told him that. Then he's like, "I'm so happy I'm married and I don't have to spend Christmas alone." I'm like, "Gee, thanks." Of course he apologized for his comment, but coupled people just say some of the most asinine s--t sometimes.

[tryingtodealwithit]

I feel like people are laying it on thick during this time. So many stories about celebrities getting engaged, getting married, having their first baby, etc. Just makes me think of the what if's, and that has brought me down lately.

 

 

I will spend the holidays alone, too. I had a friend make up a song about being lonely for Christmas after I told him that. Then he's like, "I'm so happy I'm married and I don't have to spend Christmas alone." I'm like, "Gee, thanks." Of course he apologized for his comment, but coupled people just say some of the most asinine s--t sometimes.

 

wow, that was super lousy of your friend. seriously.

 

i'm still struggling. i don't even know why. i guess it's a combination of disappointment and ego. i'm disappointed in how she's treated me since leaving. i've seen a whole side of her that i never saw before. one that ruins who i thought she was during our 4 and half years together.

 

the other part is just ego i think. i want her to come crawling back even though i don't want her back. i think she is far too stubborn to ever do that though. we were together a long time and i know how she is. i've never met someone who refuses to apologize or say "i was wrong" the way she does. i can only think of one time that she genuinely apologized and made an effort to right her wrong in 4 and a half years.

 

really i just need to let it go. it's been 7 months. i shouldn't be stuck on this still. i know it's her loss. and i know that deep down she knows what she's lost too.

[StrangerThanFiction]

I'm hungover but I'm not pining for my ex which is a welcome change! Usually after a night of drinking the hangover the next day plummets me into sadness and missing my ex. Not today though, it seems.

 

I've also started rewatching my favourite tv series, M*A*S*H. It always brought me comfort and the feel-goods. I made a deal with myself. When the final credits on the final episode roll that's when I'm going to let go of any lingering pain, regrets, etc that I still might hold in my heart for my ex and I'll miss the characters in the show more than him . I've come a long way in my healing over the past few months and I think I'm almost to the point where I can let go completely. This may seem silly to everyone else, but to me it's like a little ritual. I'm only on season 6 and I'm not planning on rushing through it.

 

Anyway, overall I've been feeling pretty good and am slowly getting back to normal. I still miss him sometimes, but it's not like it was where I missed him constantly. I'm starting to see the light at the end of this tunnel

[tryingtodealwithit]

I'm losing it today. On the verge of just giving up. I'm worried for myself.

[RedButton]

I'm losing it today. On the verge of just giving up. I'm worried for myself.

 

Hang in there. Take some time off work if you're feeling that worried, do something nice for yourself, see a friend or call some family.

 

This last week for me has been very strange. I've been feeling very down and just 'off' about something. I had a dream about my ex that really upset me in the morning but also allowed me to make the mistake of seeing her too soon in dreamland instead of in real life.

 

Even so, it might be the weather or the holiday season, but I've found it super hard to concentrate on anything or feel much motivation. I'm still pushing myself to work out and get out and see people which really does help a lot.

[StrangerThanFiction]

Today I'm feeling a little down. Guess this is the downswing of the emotional roller coaster healing from a BU is. It's not horrible, not like the absolute despair and depression I used to feel earlier on in the BU, but it still aches a bit. I keep wondering what's going on in his life now, even though I know that knowing would just make me feel worse because I'm sure he's quite happy with his new woman and life. I guess I just miss him a little today. I got ambushed by an extremely vivid memory of him out of nowhere today and it's kept me out of sorts. Can't help wondering if he ever thinks about me or misses me at all. Not that it matters to anything other than my still bruised ego, but there it is anyway.

 

I've been feeling a lot of regret that I wasted so many years on him and even though I know it's silly, I feel that I'm too old at 28 to meet someone new. It seems like every day another person on FaceBook is getting engaged/married, pregnant, or just had a baby. And here I am at 28, single and with no prospects at all. I can't help but feel like a failure and that I'm too old for anyone to want me. It seems that all the guys my age are either taken, have kids, or are divorced and have zero interest in ever getting married again or even having a relationship. I want to get married one day, not just be someone's girlfriend, but I feel like it's too late. I wish I never would've taken my ex back after the first time left me for another woman. That was almost two years ago. I'm sure I would've been completely over him by now if I would've. Even if I would've left him when I finally realized that our relationship was never going to go anywhere It would've put me a year into healing instead of only 3 months. I don't know why I hung onto the relationship even though I knew in my heart that it had been over for a long time. It makes me feel stupid and weak.

 

I need to get on with my self-improvement. I need to start exercising and eating more healthy because I've put on a few pounds since we broke up instead of losing weight. Makes me feel like crap and unloveable especially when I'm sure my ex has been going to the gym to look good for his new chick. Ugh, anyway, enough whining for now I guess.

[Haydn]

Today I'm feeling a little down. Guess this is the downswing of the emotional roller coaster healing from a BU is. It's not horrible, not like the absolute despair and depression I used to feel earlier on in the BU, but it still aches a bit. I keep wondering what's going on in his life now, even though I know that knowing would just make me feel worse because I'm sure he's quite happy with his new woman and life. I guess I just miss him a little today. I got ambushed by an extremely vivid memory of him out of nowhere today and it's kept me out of sorts. Can't help wondering if he ever thinks about me or misses me at all. Not that it matters to anything other than my still bruised ego, but there it is anyway.

 

I've been feeling a lot of regret that I wasted so many years on him and even though I know it's silly, I feel that I'm too old at 28 to meet someone new. It seems like every day another person on FaceBook is getting engaged/married, pregnant, or just had a baby. And here I am at 28, single and with no prospects at all. I can't help but feel like a failure and that I'm too old for anyone to want me. It seems that all the guys my age are either taken, have kids, or are divorced and have zero interest in ever getting married again or even having a relationship. I want to get married one day, not just be someone's girlfriend, but I feel like it's too late. I wish I never would've taken my ex back after the first time left me for another woman. That was almost two years ago. I'm sure I would've been completely over him by now if I would've. Even if I would've left him when I finally realized that our relationship was never going to go anywhere It would've put me a year into healing instead of only 3 months. I don't know why I hung onto the relationship even though I knew in my heart that it had been over for a long time. It makes me feel stupid and weak.

 

I need to get on with my self-improvement. I need to start exercising and eating more healthy because I've put on a few pounds since we broke up instead of losing weight. Makes me feel like crap and unloveable especially when I'm sure my ex has been going to the gym to look good for his new chick. Ugh, anyway, enough whining for now I guess.

 

He ...... up. You didn`t. It just feels like you did all the wrong things. You didn`t. You took him back.....Well many of us did the same. We knew deep down we were wrong but sometimes we think it`s us. It`s not. Your doing great. You are great.