Realitysux Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 On 4/7/2020 at 7:48 PM, 2BGoodAgain said: short term gain, long term... misery. you're right, it's better to not get over someone by dating someone new.... it's only a short term band aid.. the problem, the hurt, the anger is still there.... Definitely not dating right now. I feel very blah and once again, it's another sleepless night. I have work to focus on but his friend said he hopes my mom and I both find men and it made me feel so icky. I do have a crush on one of his friends though but I don't think it's reciprocated and that sucks! He has a really nice voice. Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 (edited) I feel better. As much as I wanted to stay connected to the guy, he would constantly caused me pain. Its his loss! You chose to do this and you missed out. I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing and no I don't actually have a crush on the guys friend. The women involved was a messed up situation. She said let him go so I guess that means you to too! Edited April 9, 2020 by Realitysux Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 That was a painful experience. When you are constantly being told you aren't good enough for someone. Now I'm still not because I chose to be a contractor and construction and they still have their doubts. I don't need to explain why this is the best time to be in the industry either. It will definitely bother me moving past this but he didn't care about me at all. He chose another women to make happy and you know kudos to you. It's really not my problem! Yes he's popular but he didn't really help me with my friends any. I lost all of them. Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 17 hours ago, Realitysux said: Definitely not dating right now. I feel very blah and once again, it's another sleepless night. I have work to focus on but his friend said he hopes my mom and I both find men and it made me feel so icky. I do have a crush on one of his friends though but I don't think it's reciprocated and that sucks! He has a really nice voice. the pros/cons of feelings is that it can help you do things you thought was impossible, but it also cripples you too. good luck to you... it sucks being in this place.... i share it with you. Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 6 minutes ago, Realitysux said: That was a painful experience. When you are constantly being told you aren't good enough for someone. Now I'm still not because I chose to be a contractor and construction and they still have their doubts. I don't need to explain why this is the best time to be in the industry either. It will definitely bother me moving past this but he didn't care about me at all. He chose another women to make happy and you know kudos to you. It's really not my problem! Yes he's popular but he didn't really help me with my friends any. I lost all of them. then they really weren't your friends to begin with, were they? Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 7 minutes ago, 2BGoodAgain said: then they really weren't your friends to begin with, were they? I don't even want them to see what happens next. Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 (edited) I'll have my moments where I will sound pathetic but I'm really not afraid of them. I really don't have anything to loose. A couple of hackers? Edited April 9, 2020 by Realitysux Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 9, 2020 Share Posted April 9, 2020 1 hour ago, 2BGoodAgain said: then they really weren't your friends to begin with, were they? Yes they were not and anyone who said yes to assist them in my pain has problems! I thank God everyday for my work but we could also be shut down any day because the virus is so unpredictable. It is painful! I can't wait until it subsides. It's okay today but I do dread the bad days when this all sets in again. Link to post Share on other sites
Haerts Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 Woke up today thinking about life as a whole, especially when it comes down to relationships. I'm 29 now, nearly 30. I broke up with my ex about 2 years ago (4 y/o rship). I never trusted him since the start and 4 years later, I still couldn't trust him. Somehow I loved him, but I can't believe I stayed 4 years in a relationship suffering and wanting out. When I finally had the nerves to break up, I felt relieved. So relieved I didn't even grieve. I made myself my priority and focused entirely on me. Later I realized the relationship was holding me back in every single aspect of my life. Breaking up was the first step to other major changes: I started to live alone. I quit the job that made me feel so miserable and started working with what I truly loved. My biggest dream was to live in an english speaking country and now here I am in Australia. During these almost 2 years, I had lots of fun, there was nothing (no one) holding me back. I felt so alive, even on my own. I travelled to so many places, met and dated so many different people. I caught myself saying: I don't want a relationship ever again (and I meant it)! It made me feel loveable and special to see all of these guys falling in love with me (despite me telling them I didn't want a relationship). Then I met this guy here in Australia. I thought he was going to be just another one in my list. I was wrong: it took him a f* week to change my heart and mind. Suddenly I forgot about everything I had learned, I just wanted to see him more and more. And I thought that's what he wanted too. As amazing as it was to be single and free, often I would wonder why couldn't I feel anything for anyone? If casual sex is that good, why does most of times I feel like something is missing? This time I felt something. Nothing was missing. I felt a connection. But I did it alone, I guess. Now I don't even recognize myself. I'm honestly not that interested on him anymore, but all the idea of being free and never wanting a relationship ever again went down the drain. All I do now is feel confused throughout each day. On the bright side, at least now I know I'm capable of connecting with someone and maybe I'll find a mutual connection soon... Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 He's actually really sweet, and he puts a lot of effort into changing my view. I treated him so bad and he still tried to help me! Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 (edited) Happy Easter everyone! Stay safe ... Edited April 10, 2020 by Realitysux 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 Why do people keep saying there are tons of men out there? No there isn't. There is like one and that's why I'm going to stay single and focus on my business .. see what the universe does! Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 I'm sorry J but you are the last man on Earth. Did you not get the memo! I got it in April 2013! It might not happen but it could. I'll just give it to the universe to decide and focus on work now. Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 Feeling a bit depressed and overwhelmed today. And it's not about the ex. I guess as I start contemplating dating again and start talking to people - it just reveals more and more how I sacrificed what I wanted and what I needed in the past - and not just with relationships but with friends and family as well. And man, talk about the dating pool being thin. Man - not even that I believe that I'm better than others, just more the basics of - jesus, most people either don't know what they want, they want only what society tells them they should want, or they're carrying more baggage than a butler at a 5 start hotel serving the entire Kardashian family for a month. Good lord. But - trying to stay positive, reframe things, and also just take care of myself and not worry about the future or how things will play out. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 Not too bad given the lack of sleep and aches and pains the past two nights. Work hasn't been all that pleasant. I'm surprised I can even think properly. Or walk. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 10, 2020 Share Posted April 10, 2020 (edited) I can not wait for society to come back! I'm bored and everyone in my house is sick of each other. Was not ready for a long weekend. Me and my coworker tried to pick up work on Saturday but we have to keep our hours at 44 so we can all keep going. I hope we can still get some nice overtime in the summer! I'm just sitting here passing time. Edited April 10, 2020 by Realitysux Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 My way of thinking is distorted. I spent a large part of my day trying to find an online therapist. I know they are going to tell me to get off all sites and block him. I haven't connected with one yet so I played some music. I end up playing the song girls like you by moroon 5 and the song starts off "it's been 24 hours, I need more hours with you" and my first thought was he and his new love can't get enough of each other. "thinking distorted" then I started to correct myself and my thoughts that love is universal. It's for everyone so he doesn't own any of it! Made it easier to listen to song and think about meeting men again (when this is all over). Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 I down loaded an app and tried to get a legit appointment with a life coach but the app failed. I'm not connecting with anyone online. Tried to connect with this coach on YouTube but he wanted 750 an hour. May just save money during the summer and pick life up in fall when this is all over. I feel so dead .. Link to post Share on other sites
AIJ Posted April 11, 2020 Share Posted April 11, 2020 Think I can safely say I'm over it, funnily enough followed a similar timeline to the first breakup I went through a few years back that brought me to this website. Since my last post where I had a little bit of a wobble, I've turned a corner and not looked back. I rarely think about my ex and in all honesty I just don't care anymore. Thank you to everyone who offered support and sympathy throughout the process, this place is and has been fantastic in the process of getting over it. It truly does get better. Time is a great healer. All the best to everyone still going through it, you will get there 😃 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted April 12, 2020 Share Posted April 12, 2020 Mostly good but still tired from a still somewhat lack of sleep. I've had about 15 to 16 hours the past three nights. It's getting ridiculous now. Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted April 12, 2020 Share Posted April 12, 2020 15 hours ago, The American Outlaw said: Mostly good but still tired from a still somewhat lack of sleep. I've had about 15 to 16 hours the past three nights. It's getting ridiculous now. Self-care is an important part of recovery and growth - and that includes sleep. It's a marathon my friend, not a sprint. Get to sleep! Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted April 12, 2020 Share Posted April 12, 2020 54 minutes ago, scooby-philly said: Self-care is an important part of recovery and growth - and that includes sleep. It's a marathon my friend, not a sprint. Get to sleep! I tried taking a nap and was getting somewhere with it until I heard thunder. We’ve got an ugly line of storms headed our way. And the right elements are in place for a hell of an event. Not good. Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted April 12, 2020 Share Posted April 12, 2020 1 hour ago, The American Outlaw said: I tried taking a nap and was getting somewhere with it until I heard thunder. We’ve got an ugly line of storms headed our way. And the right elements are in place for a hell of an event. Not good. Stay safe Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 12, 2020 Share Posted April 12, 2020 (edited) Do not and whatever you do,. Do not text soap Opera actors when you have been trolled to the extent I have! Believe me, it can make you feel worse. Giving it time and trying to redeem myself but it did not go well. He was a really nice one too! I was saving that contact for a later date but I pulled it out too soon and blew it! Edited April 12, 2020 by Realitysux Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted April 12, 2020 Share Posted April 12, 2020 Yea never mind! I just made friends with an actor and he did text me back but his text came in a little slow and then I freaked out .. but he said he has my back! Link to post Share on other sites
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