HeartBroken22 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Hi All, I just wanted to share how I've been coping and the progress I've made, I know how much the posts on here had helped me when I was still grieving the loss of my ex, so I thought I'd share... Here is my story for those that may be interested: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/604574-its-been-11-weeks-my-first-love-after-7-years-together-broke-my-heart So it's been just over 4 months since the breakup and all I can say is that is has truly been a roller coaster both emotionally and physically... It took me around 3 months before I could feel even remotely normal or myself again. But that's not why I'm posting this... I genuinely feel and understand how bad some of you may be hurting but I can say that I've genuinely overcome the pain and now feel so much freer than I had done in years... I'm still on a journey, I haven't met anyone else and there are occasions where I think it'd be nice to have someone around... But for the most part I'm looking forward and getting excited about things that I just wouldn't have had the chance to do in my previous situation. I've tried new things, went speed dating (on my own), seeing friends, going out for drinks, playing sport, gym, booked a short getaway, already planning to go on a couple of festivals in the next couple of months (malta over easter and hopefully tomorrowland too) and have just tried to fill my time with as much as possible. I know some of these things won't relate to everyone and some things are a little out of my comfort zone tbh but just the trying new things and letting myself get excited about the endless possibilities that are ahead has given me a breath of new life... Slowly but surely I've grown from strength to strength and think about my ex much much less than I had previously, the pain is almost invisible and I feel as though I have moved forward with my life. There are still occasions where I get a little down, like after a rough day and I hear a sad song or recall an old memory, but despite it all I remind myself that I have a lot still to experience in life and things can and will only get better! I gave myself plenty of time to be upset about it all, there were moments I just wanted to breakdown and cry myself to sleep and initially I tried to fight it but honestly just letting go and feeling it for what it is helped me so much! I know that in time I'll be completely over it, I still have a way to go but I'm in an infinitely better place now than I was... 4
preraph Posted January 24, 2017 Posted January 24, 2017 You are making progress because you are doing things right, staying busy and stimulated and making new memories. Good for you! You should be an inspiration to others going through it. Best wishes. 2
AT15 Posted January 24, 2017 Posted January 24, 2017 OH my goodness. I just read your previous thread. I'm so sorry you had to endure that much pain. Congratulations on doing so well.
whatdeww18 Posted January 24, 2017 Posted January 24, 2017 I remember replying to your original thread! So glad to hear you're doing so much better Hope the healing continues and gets better everyday! Also, the part about wanting to go home and breakdown and cry and sleep... Been there so many times. Just have to fight the urge and keep going and making some new memories! All the best, -WhatDEWWWWW
BeStronger Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 Thank you for sharing this. Going through a rough patch right now, so very thankful to know hopefully one day I'll be able to feel as empowered and strong like you. First... got to go NC.
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