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I'm 15 and I've been seeing a guy for about 2 months, and things were going great for awhile, but the last few weeks have been rocky. I don't think he cares as much about me anymore. We kept getting in these fights, as to the fact we don't talk as much, and I don't get nearly the amount of affection or feel as wanted as I used to. I don't know how much of this is normal relationship stuff but sometimes it bothers me. Anytime I get upset with him over it he turns things around on me, saying he's too busy and needs his space and I always end up apologizing or feeling bad. We used to talk every night but now I can't even get him on the phone once a week. He doesn't put as much effort into seeing me, and I don't know what to do. We got into a huge argument last night over all this and it carried on into this morning, he says I'm too needy and he needs me to back off. I said ok and he said he doesn't know what he wants. So I told him to take some time and think about it and let me know when he knows. He came back tonight saying he wants to work things out. I've never been in a real relationship before so is it normal for things to still seem awkward or weird right after a fight? I'm still upset and I don't know what to do. I don't want to leave him because I know how hurt I will be and how much I'll miss him if I do.

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The closeness, or the newness of a relationship always ends. You can't get that back unless you start new with someone else. No matter if you are 15 or 50, it only last for a little while, BUT it doesn't mean they like or love you any less. To make any relationship work you need to not make them your whole world or focus. Let them have time to do their own things, and you go do your own things with friends, or hobbies, etc. The less available you are to them, the more desirable you become.

 

Give him his space, don't be whinny about it, ignore him, and go out and hang out with friends...get busy with life. If he comes back to you, don't be all crawling all over him or crying and crap.

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